What do you wish you'd known/done in your late 20s/early 30s? 0

Northernsoullover · 15/07/2022 23:52

I honestly thought I'd meet Prince charming, buy a house together and settle down. It never occurred to me that I'd still be single at 50 😂 I wish I hadn't wasted so much time waiting/looking for my life partner and forged a better life for myself. I've achieved a lot now and I'm happier than ever but I did hit a low patch over it.

D0lphine · 15/07/2022 23:58

I wish I'd started counselling and working out my issues.

Better late than never

Pinklimey · 16/07/2022 00:25

Things are things. You don't need to use separating your belongings as a reason to stay. And that coat, really not a reason not to call the police.

MarmiteCoriander · 16/07/2022 00:41

I have a very happy life, and was far from a career driven person, but if you want children- start soon!

If I had pushed for fertility testing and treatment earlier, I 'might' have been able to have children. 12yrs TTC, 3 losses, 2 rounds IVF and no fertility issues found in the end! I was fobbed off multiple times and 1 GP said I just needed to 'relax, and it will happen'! It never did!

Fofftwenty21 · 16/07/2022 20:49

Bought a house in my now very expensive hometown.
Sometimes I wish I had had children.

Pr1mr0se · 09/01/2023 13:13

D0lphine - Me too.

Toddlerteaplease · 09/01/2023 13:14

Got married and had children!

Toddlerteaplease · 09/01/2023 13:15

41 and still single. Can't seem to find anyone.

DanseAvecLesLoups · 09/01/2023 13:15

Plastics

squigglesquirrel · 09/01/2023 13:19

I wish I’d learned to cook and bake, and focused on saving money not buying stupid crap.

AffIt · 09/01/2023 13:32

I wish I had better appreciated the importance of long-term savings, especially pensions.

I really only cracked on with mine in my mid-30s and although it's relatively healthy (thanks to my salary and a generous company policy), if I had started at even 0.5% or similar from when I started working at 23, I'd be in a much better place now.

I am now that boring person who lectures recent graduates about their pension plans.

QueenMabs · 09/01/2023 14:35

Frozen eggs and been better with money.

freezingone · 09/01/2023 14:40

That your parents really won't be here forever.. & don't assume everyone you love will have a long life. Sorry, it's maudlin but I never gave it a second thought & simply took everyone for granted. After several shocking losses I don't do that now.

pawprintseverywhere · 09/01/2023 14:50

Parents won't be around forever. Saving really is worth it, be careful who your trust and what you tell them, and the first moment you detect a person trying to start drama, walk, keep walking and never look back..... do not get roped in

NeverGonnaNot · 09/01/2023 14:52

I wish I’d done everything earlier ie worked harder, saved more, bought a property, had children.

I did it all but later in life!

WinterFoxes · 09/01/2023 14:52

D0lphine · 15/07/2022 23:58

I wish I'd started counselling and working out my issues.

Better late than never

Yes I wish that. I'm quite envious of how sorted my DC are as I encouraged them to get counselling and sort out issues now, not in their fifties!

WinterFoxes · 09/01/2023 14:53

Sounds dull but I wish I had had a greater sense of my material worth/value - had set up a pension, had saved in an ISA, had given myself more financial security. I just winged life for decades.

BatildaB · 09/01/2023 14:54

That getting along well with someone, them being a nice person and not having arguments isn’t reason enough to stick with a relationship that you feel constantly slightly disappointed by - my first abusive relationship gave me low expectations leading to wasting seven years with someone who should have just been a friend.

WinterFoxes · 09/01/2023 14:56

pawprintseverywhere · 09/01/2023 14:50

Parents won't be around forever. Saving really is worth it, be careful who your trust and what you tell them, and the first moment you detect a person trying to start drama, walk, keep walking and never look back..... do not get roped in

Oh yes, this. I was unofficial carer for a decade for my bipolar friend. It lost me jhobs, boyfriends, friends, and I had no support for my own complex problems.

Walk away from emtional vampires and drama llamas. If loved ones are mentally ill, steer them in the direction of professionals and don't kid anyone that you can shoulder the responsibility for their wellbeing.

Mamette · 09/01/2023 14:57

I had DD at 25, I wish I had travelled before having her.

I regret getting married to first H. Terrible disaster that was.

Wombats67 · 09/01/2023 14:59

Look after your teeth, keep them in good condition.

Annoyedbadger · 09/01/2023 15:02

I settled and I've lived to regret it.

Seaweedandsalt · 09/01/2023 15:02

This is such strange timing of this thread as I was only thinking this morning as I was driving to work that two of my biggest regrets in life were not to have gone into IT in my late teens/early 20's as computers were really taking off. And I wished I'd saved money and somehow gone into property development, only small scale but like Houses under the Hammer type of thing. I'd have been super rich now at the age of nearly 53 if I'd have done either of those things.

superplumb · 09/01/2023 15:44

Wish I'd not done my post grads and instead starting working earlier ans saved for a house mulch sooner.

KnitterNat · 09/01/2023 15:46

I was married with kids by my late 20s. Wish I had gone to India with DH before that- I have wanted to go all my life and it has never been the right time, now I'll probably be 50 before I get there.