Why are you awake at this time?

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I'm awake because I stupidly let myself get dehydrated today and I've been sick as a dog all evening.

No excuses, I've lived in much hotter countries in the past so I know the risks and how much to drink.

Stay hydrated, everyone!

Up because I’m a shift worker, oh the joys! I Also wanted to join this thread because I read mums are up feeding, I wanted some advice on a rather difficult situation. I’m 36, married 3yrs, together 10. No babies yet, my husband has always known I would love to be able to have children, always agreed that was what he wanted also, so has always (said so) on the same page there. Problem being that we haven’t actually had sex for coming up 7 years. I’ve explored all avenues as to where the problem stems from yet I’ve not seen any improvement or progression. Any advice would be appreciated Xxx

Have covid and my sore throat woke me. Have just taken paracetamol and I’m waiting for it to kick in before I try to sleep again. And it’s hot!

At A&E with my dad. Been here eight hours so far.

I think I have an infected wound.

Fell over at the weekend got a tiny graze on my elbow no pain now 5 days later I wake up throbbing pain redness and can't sleep for the pain.

I felt literally nothing until today.

Its infected isn't it.

...annulment?

I'm up because I'm anxious over everything and nothing.

I'm guessing that it's because I'm peri menopause, it's hot, I'm a light sleeper and oh yes, I thought I had a bad head cold but it turns out my sinus congestion is actually Covid and I'm struggling to breathe using my nose.

nina I would leave him, no sex for 7 years? You have a friendship (at best) not a marriage. You are running out of time, so yes I would get a divorce. You deserve to be happy.

Thank you for replying, I realise time is not on my side, I love him dearly and I’m not a believer in giving up, every single time I’ve had tried to converse with him about it I get different excuses. It wears thin after so long. There’s no mis trust, no infidelity.
I’m stumped now, and struggling in other ways so appreciate advice Xx

Pregnant and have what feels like a. stomach virus...horrible stomach cramps and nausea...took a sleeping pill but still woke up from the pain

Same. And it’s too freaking hot! I don’t want someone else’s skin on mine even if it is a baby 😂

OP sending sympathy. We all forget to drink water sometimes! Easily done. Hope you’re feeling better.

Nina… do you know why you’ve not had sex in so long? Is there a specific reason? What does your husband say? I wouldn’t recommend having babies with someone who you can’t rely on but I don’t think that means you should leave him if he’s an otherwise decent man. But having said that, I also don’t think you should stay with someone who can’t give you what you need in a relationship.

@NinaCosXx sometimes giving up is the best option, you can only try so hard for so long and you need to make your own happiness a priority. I can imagine it makes you feel very low.

Would he consider some relationship counselling? Was there an initial reason that you stopped having sex after 3 years? How was your sex life in the first 3 years? How is your relationship in other aspects? Could he be gay or A sexual?

You may love him, but something is deeply deficient in the relationship- and he seems to be running down the clock nina and he doesn’t sound honest.. You could try couples counselling? But do you have time?
Id give him an ultimatum- either he makes the effort to love you properly and keep to his word re a baby or you are out. A time for honesty and frank discussion and no more excuses.

Well if I knew I’d have (tried to) fix it!😂 I know it’s not funny, certainly not for me who has found myself in a situation whereby I absolutely love the bones of a man I married. It’s been a long time, I’ve tried to explore all reasons. So :
he does feel attracted to me (I see it in his eyes) and is affectionate
he can achieve erection because he watches porn sometimes
ive tried everything,

Night shift 1 of 3 nights in a row.

It's cool, I'm enjoying that before another bloody horrible hot day.

Thank you for your reply,
he won’t go to to counselling with me. I have been, but he won’t entertain it, he was brought up to sweep everything under the carpet, he doesn’t talk about feelings/thoughts that much. His mother taught him that

I'm on nights. It's cooler tonight than it was last night but still 30oC in the clean utility. My student is doing her last shift and has bought me some lovely gifts and a card to say thank you. All the kids are actually asleep for a change.

I’m so sorry. Really hope tomorrow brings good news for you xx

I’m awake mulling over a difficult work situation.

On my lunch break. Sausage beans and baked spud with coffee. Bloody starving. Our unit ( NHS ICU ) has air con so it’s cool. No drama tonight so far. Fingers crossed.

Got up for a cuppa, my MS causes me to wake up, and now I am menopausal too, so not conducive to sleep.

@TheMumLife3 in my prayers sorry you are having such a difficult time, wishing your DD well.

@TheMumLife3 just go to her if you want too! You can visit any time. No point in lying awake worrying! Hope she's on the mend soon.

Hope you feel better OP. Those of you with ill children/relatives I hope you’re ok.

My daughter has stomachache, I’m an emetophobe (sp?) and I’ve got a big day at work tomorrow. Coming on here for distraction!

Sciatica pain all the way down to my ankle! Been like it almost 2 weeks and nothing is helping 😭

I got tangled in my catheter tube and popped it off (not out, just the bag end popped off the bit that is inside of me)
So I ended up in a puddle that I only felt once my legs moved up into foetal positio as I'm numb in the saddle area and cant feel anything at all. So that's fun. So I've just come downstairs to sleep on the sofa. I can't change the sheets as I'm disabled. I've done the best I can to clean everything up and my mum will sort it tomorrow (she's my carer, cleaner and best friend)
Only problem is I will stay awake now because I'm shit at getting myself back to sleep. So this is me for the day

Poor you- try to get some rest- you will need it for the day ahead. She’s in good hands and they will ring you if something happens. I’ve been there Hun xx