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Neighbour tried to force his way into my house

67 replies

chuffer15 · 12/07/2022 23:38

Not sure how to deal with this so looking for advice.

We have had some issues with 2 neighbours since lockdown playing very loud music in the garden every day.

I have repeatedly reported them to the council who haven't done very much about it. Sometimes it's late into the night and keeps us awake.

I have a newborn baby who's been woken by it several times and it just seems to be getting worse!

So today I saw the neighbour angrily storming down the street and then hammering with both fists on my front door, immediately my baby started screaming, I went to the door and told him I have a newborn he needs to calm down! He said "I don't give a fuck" then he went on to complain I had reported him and he couldn't understand why because no one else has a problem. He said he works so is entitled to play music whenever he wants...

I told him everyone can hear it it's that loud and we are all bothered about it. He was getting more aggressive so we went to shut the door but he started throwing his body at it preventing us. We managed to get it shut so he then started shouting abuse through the letterbox! Telling my husband to fuckoff back home (he's not from England).

Ive phoned the police who haven't bothered turning up! Ive also ordered a ring doorbell that's due to arrive Thursday, I'm not sure what else to do! I was so worried for my baby I couldn't even hold him after I was shaking so much.

So I don't drip feed, his set up in the garden is a full decks type set with chuffin flashing disco balls! He scratches his music (if that's what it's called) and asks for requests over the microphone too...

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Bunty55 · 12/07/2022 23:39

I think you need to contact environmental health at your local council. They will have a word and it will be logged down as a complaint if you ever need to call the police this will be helpful

HopeItzNothing · 12/07/2022 23:42

Report it to the police again as a race hate crime.
That's what it was.
He came over to intimidate your non white looking or sounding partner.
Make the police take it seriously.
Get him a police record.
That's the only rubbish like your neighbour will understand.

Nat6999 · 12/07/2022 23:43

Keep a diary & then give it to the police & send a copy to the noise complaint department of your council. If he does it again, don't answer the door & dial 999. When you get your Ring Doorbell, pay the subscription to be able to store the films. I would also get some cameras up around your property & a chain on your door.

Original poster
chuffer15 · 12/07/2022 23:43

I have contacted them, they had sent me forms to fill out this week and also a link to an app for recording the noise. I will do that but it's more the threatening behaviour and aggression with my baby in the house I'm worried about. Why haven't the police bothered to come Confused

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IGotItInTheSales · 12/07/2022 23:51

the police are understaffed and busy.....its hardly crime of the century!!

maybe its not that they haven't 'bothered' to come and more like they are prioritising

Original poster
chuffer15 · 13/07/2022 00:01

IGotItInTheSales · 12/07/2022 23:51

the police are understaffed and busy.....its hardly crime of the century!!

maybe its not that they haven't 'bothered' to come and more like they are prioritising

Fair enough, I do hope they manage to come though.

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42isthemeaning · 13/07/2022 00:04

IGotItInTheSales · 12/07/2022 23:51

the police are understaffed and busy.....its hardly crime of the century!!

maybe its not that they haven't 'bothered' to come and more like they are prioritising

Trying to break someone's door down, threatening them and spouting racist abuse are all examples of crimes and yes, the police should be dealing with it.
They may well be understaffed, but this could well escalate.
I'm sorry this happened to you OP, it sounds terrifying.

Original poster
chuffer15 · 13/07/2022 00:08

Thanks 42, I can never see if I'm being over dramatic sometimes.

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IGotItInTheSales · 13/07/2022 00:11

where did op say he tried to break the door down?

and how did preventing a door closing convert to trying to force his way into your home....and how do you know (in the absence of a ring doorbell) that he hammered on the door 'with both fists'?

adds to the drama i suppose

CandyLeBonBon · 13/07/2022 00:13

How unpleasant.

PeekabooAtTheZoo · 13/07/2022 00:15

IGotItInTheSales · 13/07/2022 00:11

where did op say he tried to break the door down?

and how did preventing a door closing convert to trying to force his way into your home....and how do you know (in the absence of a ring doorbell) that he hammered on the door 'with both fists'?

adds to the drama i suppose

Why are you minimising intimidation and harassment of a woman and her non-British partnet?

Original poster
chuffer15 · 13/07/2022 00:15

IGotItInTheSales · 13/07/2022 00:11

where did op say he tried to break the door down?

and how did preventing a door closing convert to trying to force his way into your home....and how do you know (in the absence of a ring doorbell) that he hammered on the door 'with both fists'?

adds to the drama i suppose

I saw him hammer the door with both fists, and the sound was horrendous! I was also stood behind the door with my DH trying to close it while he threw his body at it.

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CuriousMama · 13/07/2022 00:19

How awful ☹️
Keep on reporting. I agree it's a race hate crime. Report that too.

JolieJ · 13/07/2022 00:20

Hi OP, I would try calling 101 again and logging it. We also had an abusive encounter with our neighbour a few weeks ago which was noted as a hate crime by the police. I was pleasantly surprised by how seriously the police took it and they sent someone over that same day to speak to us and to speak to the neighbour, and we've been contacted by the victim support charity a few times as well.

I would try calling and logging it again and emphasising the hate crime element of it. Good luck.

IGotItInTheSales · 13/07/2022 00:23

@PeekabooAtTheZoo oooh maybe a different view to you

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chuffer15 · 13/07/2022 00:24

Thank you all, I will call again tomorrow and ask if it's possible for anyone to come. I'm not usually intimidated by things like this I do think it's because my baby is so young. One of my neighbours 2 doors away did hear the banging but she was bathing her little one so didn't see.

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caringcarer · 13/07/2022 01:00

Report as race hate crime and police more likely to act.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 13/07/2022 04:14

What a self entitled nutter and I would report as a race crime with his racist language. Keep a diary and ring police again and again and environmental health also. He sounds like a right old knob and who would have their music set up in garden and so unfair and selfish to play music late and loud or anytime of day cannot be blasting music that is annoying other people. Difficult for you with new baby and hope things get sorted. Do not open door to him again.

Haileystones · 13/07/2022 05:28

Using threatening behaviour intended to put someone in fear is a crime.
Using racist language is a crime.

www.sentencingcouncil.org.uk/offences/magistrates-court/item/threatening-behaviour-fear-or-provocation-of-violence-racially-or-religiously-aggravated-threatening-behaviour-fear-or-provocation-of-violence/

You are not over-reacting, the ring doorbell is a good idea. The police should respond to you even if they aren't immediately sending someone round. I would log it with 101 and state that you have already reported this matter and had no response. If this came to court he could receive a decent amount of unpaid work hours. The offence is aggravated by your child having been present at the time and the racial abuse. Hopefully this is a one off but it's important to have it all logged correctly so that if anything happens again you have proof that this is a pattern of behaviour and it will also be useful evidence for the council.

The only other things to say are a) involving the police is not going to make relations between you any better and b) do consider that what you think is unacceptable when you have a newborn is probably not what other people consider unacceptable! Obviously you will be tired and want your baby to sleep but that is your issue and not your neighbour's! Having said that he sounds like a selfish prick so I do understand your issue with the noise even before the banging on door episode. I wouldn't say to the police he tried to force his way into your house because it doesn't sound like he did, rather he tried to stop you shutting the door on him. The two are different things and over exaggerating (unintentionally or otherwise) won't do you any favours in the long run.

Good luck with it all, shitty neighbours are the pits.

SpartacusNotEsther · 13/07/2022 05:58

I can't see where op said her partner is non-white/non-British, so whether or not it's a race crime is yet to be determined.

She says he's not from England.

How awful though op. The ring doorbell is a great idea, make sure it records, so you have evidence of intimidation if it happens again.

dailymailwillrotyoursoul · 13/07/2022 06:02

IGotItInTheSales · 12/07/2022 23:51

the police are understaffed and busy.....its hardly crime of the century!!

maybe its not that they haven't 'bothered' to come and more like they are prioritising

It is a crime that should be taken seriously, the Police used to come, the Police should still come, but thanks to Tory voters we have too few Police now.

ApolloandDaphne · 13/07/2022 06:05

This definitely needs to be reported properly to the police. He is harassing you and making threats which may lead to violence.

Zingy123 · 13/07/2022 06:21

You have my deepest sympathy. We went through this with one neighbour. It nearly drove me to a breakdown. Nobody gave a toss we tried the council and the police. In our case she was evicted for not paying her rent.

MakeMineAdoubleChocolate · 13/07/2022 06:30

First of all, congratulations on the new baby
It's so terrible that you can'tcome.home after giving birth and relax..... and enjoy the new little one

But if you knew this is what he does, plays bashing loud music all through since lockdown, could you have not moved or is moving not an option?
Seems so dreadful and as for the intimidating behaviour and pushing through the door, the police should have been round like a shot to arrest for that kind of behaviour. Or at least a caution or warning. Absolutely horrific. I am so sorry you went through that .
To be able to raise the baby in peace, I would suggest moving.....if you can't then hound the police until they help or report this neighbour to their landlord.
Wish you all the best.

MakeMineAdoubleChocolate · 13/07/2022 06:31

Asking for requests over the microphone???? Lol, that bit did make me laugh. What a loser. What does he think, that the neighbours will shout songs they want played out their windows.