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Moral dilemma

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titchy · 11/07/2022 11:02

A moral dilemma for the MN hive mind whilst I wait for a delayed return flight....

Paid for adult dcs to holiday with us (students, early 20s if relevant). If we get compensation for delayed flight (poss £220 each) do we a) keep as we paid for the holiday, b) give all to dcs on the basis that they too had to hang around the departure lounge, or c) split between us and them?

What sayeth MN?

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TeeBee · 11/07/2022 11:05

Presumably you'll also get a refund. I'd keep the whole refund and give them them their share of compensation. It's crap for everyone so a softener for all would be my preference.

Hoppinggreen · 11/07/2022 11:06

I would keep it and give them £50 each

TeeBee · 11/07/2022 11:06

Ah, just realised you'll be delayed rather than cancelled. In that case, I'd share the compensation if you're not losing money.

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Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 11/07/2022 11:07

im such a bitch- it wouldn't even enter my head to share it if I'd paid for the holiday, flights and the food etc

Summersolargirl · 11/07/2022 11:09

I’d give them there share. Can’t imagine keeping it.

BoJoGoGo · 11/07/2022 11:09

I wouldn’t have even though of sharing it with them as you paid for the holiday.

SlipperyLizard · 11/07/2022 11:10

At my previous work, if you got delay compensation for any reason (train, plane) they let you keep it because it is meant to compensate your inconvenience.

When we got delayed on the way home from hols we kept it all, although DDs were 10 & 8 so not quite the same!

I’d probably keep it but spend some on them.

Sunshineboo · 11/07/2022 11:12

i would keep it personally. unless they incurred any actual expenses from being late. they got a free holiday - that compensation enough.

if you want to, use some of it to take them out for dinner or something

Augend23 · 11/07/2022 11:12

I'd keep the money given you paid for the holiday.

TeeBee · 11/07/2022 11:13

I don't understand why anyone would keep it. If you're not losing money, everybody has been inconvenienced the same. Its a bit mean not to give everyone their own compensation, especially your own children.

Bonheurdupasse · 11/07/2022 11:15

Keep it yourselves - you paid for the holiday!
I'm sure you'll (largely?) also be the ones buying food and drinks so think of it from that point of view as well..

dammit88 · 11/07/2022 11:19

Id keep it given you paid for the holiday! Crumbs, it wouldn't enter my head to expect it if I was the son/daughter in this situation and im sure it won't enter your children!

DappledThings · 11/07/2022 11:23

I wouldn't for a second expect any share if it if I were the DC in that scenario

ClaryFairchild · 11/07/2022 11:35

Will you be paying for the extra food at the airport? If so, keep most of it!

BoJoGoGo · 11/07/2022 11:38

For those who say share what would be your age cut off to share it, would you share it a 10 year old?

perimenofertility · 11/07/2022 11:38

If delayed rather than cancelled (i.e. you still had the holiday) then the compensation should be split between everyone who experienced the delay and inconvenience.
However, if I was the adult child and my parents had generously treated me to a holiday, I would absolutely tell them to keep my share of the money as a thank you.

ZaraSizeMedium · 11/07/2022 11:40

It honestly wouldn’t even have occurred to me to share it. They’ve had a free holiday. Hanging around an airport for a while is no great hardship.

Cotswoldmama · 11/07/2022 11:40

You paid for the holiday so you keep it! If I was one of your children and you tried to give me some money I wouldn't except it and would think you were weird for trying to give it to me!

HollowTalk · 11/07/2022 11:42

How long was the delay? If it wasn't too bad, I'd keep the lot. If it was a few hours, I'd give them £50 - £100 each, depending on how bad it was.

Iwonder08 · 11/07/2022 11:42

You paid for the holiday, you handle the compensation claims, you get the money.

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titchy · 11/07/2022 11:42

Hmmm slightly in favour of us keeping the lot. Admittedly that was my initial thought, but then the compensation is for the general inconvenience of hanging around which has applied to us all equally so I wondered whether I was being fair.

Currently thinking of keeping half of theirs as the delay has only cost us about £15 each in food...

Maybe a moot point of course as I'm sure the airline will try to wiggle out of it Hmm

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titchy · 11/07/2022 11:43

HollowTalk · 11/07/2022 11:42

How long was the delay? If it wasn't too bad, I'd keep the lot. If it was a few hours, I'd give them £50 - £100 each, depending on how bad it was.

Currently 3.5 hours and counting....

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ForAFriend123 · 11/07/2022 11:46

Eh? Wouldn't even contemplate giving my DC any. You paid for the holiday FFS!

NoSquirrels · 11/07/2022 11:49

If I was the adult DC in that scenario I’d tell you to keep it if you offered.

If you do give them the compensation, you might suggest they think about treating you and their dad to a meal…

Bouledeneige · 11/07/2022 11:51

It wouldn't occur to me to share it either. You gave your DC a free holiday and I'm sure paid for all the food and drink they consumed too. Why do they get to make a profit from it? Unless they lost a day or twos work out if it - then I might give them a little share.