If you don’t find your life boring…..tell me why?

[PetersRabbitt]

If you find you’re not bored with your life, can you tell me why? Is there a logical explanation why you are not bored with your life or, are you just not for no particular reason?

what makes your life not boring to you?
Id love to know!!

Yes. Never underestimate boring. Agreed.

*LaurieFairycake has already said it.

Typical day:
Up at 6.20ish (DH brings me tea just after six.)
Quick MNet, check news, check work emails.
In shower at about 6.50.
Washed and dressed by 7.15.
Bung on washing and dishwasher.
Drive to work - in by 8/8.15.
Make coffee, wave at colleagues
Check emails
Meetings/crises/formal stuff - usually full on until 5.30/6ish - catch up on emails u till 7ish - sometimes later
Home at 8ish
DD, 24, tells me about her day as I cook dinner and water garden
DH gets home and we eat at 9ish.
Bed by 10.30ish usually
Then it starts all over again.

Somehow we manage to deal with the cleaner and gardener, take in food deliveries, keep on top of the laundry, arrange odd jobs on the house. DH largely manages the French end; I sort out the UK end.

DS is getting married at the end of summer so there's that as well. At weekends we work in the garden (a passion), theatre, opera, occasional dinner with friends.

Early 60s, both still work full-time, been married for over 30 years, grown up children.

Today I did jobs this morning, missed around the shops this pm. Need to fit in a couple of hours work. We are going to an NT property tomorrow.

The air was beautiful this morning. The lavender smellt divine this evening; so did the Jasmine. The hydrangeas have a hint of blue this year. The air is still and in a minute DH and I will pour a whiskey, sit on the patio and wait for the bats to swoop. When I watered this evening I watched the prisms dance in the sunlight and earlier the sky was very blue.

What is boring op?

@SouperNoodle must be nice to not have to work

I am always learning.
I'm doing a job that requires constant learning, creativity, helping people and problem solving. I'm due to start a new role in Sept too, so I'm really looking forward to that.
I'm doing a couple of different art classes and I'm trying to get fitter and currently sorting the house out, and I'm learning the drums and considering singing lessons, just because.
Trying to achieve stuff/improve and learn, as well as helping the odd person makes me happy I think.
Plus obviously, I like my DH and kids and we enjoy each others company.

Reading all your lovely posts and it puts me at my wits end!!! 😡
I have a fairly good life I think. Two great kids, a good looking partner who I’ve been with for over 15 years whose very hands on, pulls his weight completely. I have my own business that I built up myself. I have a hobby. I can paint and I’m creative. I have a house. I have a car. I have a dog and a cat and all the 2.4 children. We are slightly broke and struggle a bit with money but nothing drastic, we can eat and heat the house. I have time to myself. I have friends.

I used to be so content and happy, I used to love being alone and never bored and enjoyed my life and so grateful for everything.

Now I just always feel bored, can’t even be bothered to take my own kids out which I used to love doing!! Everything is a chore, I’m lost, I’m so so so bored but don’t want to do anything. I think I’ve broken me.

I think I am lucky because it doesn't seem to be in my nature much.
With or without kids, jobs, or money, during lockdown, confined to bed, alone or with people, whatever. I always seem to find something to do, or to think about.
Especially now I’m retired and my time is my own.
The most boring times I had were at work, when I used to wonder how it was possible to be frantically busy and bored at the same time.

Are you depressed @PetersRabbitt ?

I don’t know? Can I really go to the doctors and say “hey, yes my problem is I’m bored all of the time”.
Feels more like a me problem than one a doctor can help with.

@PetersRabbitt If nothing brought me joy anymore, I'd consider that I was depressed. Does this sound possible?

You have to find joy in the small things, and when that doesn’t cut it - make your own excitement.

That's pretty typical of depression. It's not "feeling sad". It's absence of joy/interest in life. I'd defo speak to your doc 💐

Could it be hormonal?

I am never bored because I always have more things to do than I can reasonably do, and I then take on other things as well because I am crap at saying no.

I did have a phase of what I thought was boredom about 10 years ago - I was in a complete panic that this is now my life, and all I have to look forward to is dying. It was a classic mid life crisis...

I like it?
i mostly like my job, I have a decent work life balance
I’m really busy and i spend all my time with people I love or doing things by myself that I love
I’m also the sort of person to have a free day and loooove lying on the sofa watching movies and making popcorn, so I suppose the simple things in life make me happy which probably makes it easier to be happy

Just thinking a bit more. If I had a job which involved any kind of routine, I would be frantic with boredom.

Could you be (peri) menopausal? Anaemic? (Not as stupid as it sounds).

Your latest post indicates one of the following:

1. Depressed
2. Peri menopause
3. Low vitamin D/Iron/thyroid issue/low magnesium
4. Mid life crisis

Depression is not about sadness, instead it's about an absence of joy, a nothingness, an emptiness, a numbness - a million other feelings

Definitely not bored. I love my life. In saying this, I think I've done quite a lot - had 2 rewarding careers, run a marathon, I've learnt to play a musical instrument and have had the opportunity to play with really good people. Recently I met a new partner and I feel that he's the same as me. He likes to challenge himself to do better and to make life interesting. For me, I think you get out what you put in.

I am probably very boring to other people but I am not bored because I do, read about or watch things I'm interested in.

I'm not bored because I have kids & dogs to keep me in the moment. I'm an artist too, so I always have some creative project on my mind, art is a huge outlet for me. I also find it helpful to practice gratefulness and notice the joy & beauty in life, especially in everyday life.

Having said that I do have chronic anxiety and possible undiagnosed adhd, so I have moments of boredom/procrastination where I can't settle or do anything either. So I'm not bored often but I definitely don't find life easy.

Oh and practising mindfulness meditation helps loads.

Not sure what the answer is, only you know what will add meaningfulness and joy into your life. Hope you find the answers you're looking for.

I’ve got a reasonably well paid job that I really bloody enjoy.
I love my husband - he’s still my best friend.
My dog is the best dog ever.
I have enough money to not stress about bills or holidays.
Great friends.
I still feel young and ready for adventure.

I am ridiculously lucky.

Because it's really stressful.

Are you aged 39-42? If so, mid life crisis and it will pass. Just hang on.

I am so lucky to have an amazing husband, dog, family and friends. I enjoy my hobbies, keeping hens, art, reading, walking, music, makeup artistry. I enjoy my life and only occasionally feel bored but then realise I need to get up and do a hobby not lie about watching too much tv.

I'm not bored because there's always something else to learn. I have an unusual hobby that keeps developing into new areas, and I change my job every few years. I surround myself with people who embrace new ideas. And I push myself to do stuff I really didn't think I could. And every so often if I briefly get a bit bored I just take a step back and think about everything I have done. Life is incredible really.

I have ASD and this may account for my preference for routine, certainty and contentment with things staying the same. My life seems boring to friends, but theirs seem full of things that would cause discomfort and anxiety in me (new hobbies, holidays in new places, making new friends etc).

I am not bored because it is not an emotion I have ever felt.