I was in a small Midlands City, trying to get a house within 6 miles of the City Centre for schools and work; ended up back in my hometown, 15 miles away with family, and I now live rurally, in the next county over, and the only reason I have this house is via friend of a friend of a friend. Or I’d still be with my Grandparents.
Fortunately I’m a 20 min drive from my work and University (part time Masters, also work there) but DCs have had to move schools, which isn’t ideal as ones going into Y10, one into Y7 - there is one school here, it’s full, we’re appealing. Primary has been a doddle to sort, though.
I didn’t think my council would insist on bailiffs, or stick us in hotels - especially considering two of my DCs are disabled, but nope. The crisis reaching my small Midlands City has been a fucking shock to the system.
Relocating - twice in just a few months - has been very hard on them, and I’m worried about them recovering from it, mentally and emotionally, as well as dealing with a new school that’s a 37 minute bus ride away, rather than a 10 minute walk.
And it’s not always an option, for multiple reasons.
It’s always harder as a single parent to find a rental, but I thought that with my income, a high earning home owner Guarantor, and flawless credit, that I’d find one just before the S21 ended, at the very latest.
Didn’t happen. As soon as I said “No, I’m the only adult in the household”, nobody wanted to even let me view, let alone apply or move in - I ended up on Diazepam for 5 months due to the stress it caused me.
Same as buying a house - most lone parents just don’t have that option. We can’t save more than 16K without UC being taken away, and 16K deposit wouldn’t even be enough to buy an ex council flat in my (deprived, opportunity-less) hometown, where prices are low-ish, let alone anywhere else. The maximum I can currently borrow is around £100,000. Thats fuck all.
As for a better job? Well, my earning potential is knee capped due to having disabled children, and 1/3 of my income is DLA and Severely Disabled Child Allowance from UC.
Even if they weren’t disabled, I'd still be restricted because I’m a totally lone parent to my youngest, so I can only work the hours that paid childcare is available for.
And I already do that. I can’t take a second job from home, because then who feeds them, does homework, baths and bed time routine? Who cleans the house in the evenings once youngest is asleep? Who watches them at weekends if I’m shut in my bedroom, coding fucking websites and apps for people?
As for CMS, don’t get me started. They’re toothless and he is excellent at evading them. It’s also not counted as income for rentals, let alone a mortgage, as it wouldn’t be a reliable payment.