My DM is becoming harder and harder to deal with. She’s always been difficult, very childish and sort of spoilt as she has always lived and been taken care of by her parents, who also took care of me. They have now died and she’s living on her own with only me to look out for her, and it’s becoming harder and harder to deal with her.
She expects me to drop everything and do every little thing for her, and to spend time with her and entertain her as she’s bored and lonely. I live 10 mins away by car, but I also have my own family, a DH, 2 school age DCs, a dog, I run my own business (I have to as no way could I work 9-5 as I have to drive her to every appointment she has!)
I don’t mind as she is elderly and not in the best of health, but she’s just getting so bloody rude! She gets pissed off with people for the slightest thing, has already alienated her neighbours, and now it’s my turn. She’s bonkers. At 2pm today she sent me a text message saying she’d got me three cabbages if I wanted them (I am not a gardener and have never expressed a fondness for cabbage!). Then at 3:30pm she texted saying ‘I would have thought you’d have appreciated them. Obviously you don’t’.
So she got the hump because I didn’t reply to her text within 90 minutes when I was working then doing the school run.
I’m just so fed up with her, she can be really really vicious if you don’t do what she wants. But she wants so much. She wants me to take her away on holiday for a week with the kids and neither me nor the DC really want to as she gets the hump if anyone goes off and does something they enjoy that she can’t join in with. But if I don’t take her I won’t hear the end of it.
Has anyone got any advice? I love her but she’s quite a piece of work and I just don’t know how to deal with her without upsetting her or ruining her relationship with me and the DC. Help! I’m rubbish at stuff like this - I’m either a complete doormat or a blow my top and make everything worse!