If you have - when have you stopped feeling young?

[Pacoean]

Out of curiosity.
When did you stop feeling young (if you ever stopped)? What age and why?

I recently turned 25 and don't think I'll feel carefree and young again. My life looks a lot different to what it used to just a couple of years ago, although I'm grateful for all the fun time I had.

What about you?

Oh no, that too. I started a new role during Covid and there is nobody there over 60 so I will be the oldest person there soon as I can't retire for 7 years.

I'm 43 and stopped feeling young when I turned 40.

About 45.
Until then, everyone said I looked 10 years younger (and privately I agreed with them). They still say it, but now I know it's not true.
Having twin toddlers in my late-40s, while working more than full time, combined with lockdown weight gain, menopause tum, means I've no time to spend on my appearance and look terrible.
I'm hoping I'll get back to having some time to spend on grooming/personal care in the next few years.

I realised fairly recently that I am an ‘older woman’, I’m 58 and have had white hair for many years. But I don’t feel old and I’m not invisible as so many women feel.
I dance, I run, I’ve recently taken up yoga. I dress appropriately but my daughters are very happy to have clothes handed down from me. I read, I go to the theatre. I’m heading back to university in the next year. Life is still bursting with opportunities and interests.
I probably felt older when I had babies, a full time job and a sick husband.

Why do you mean exactly by "invisible"?

Exciting plans! What are you going to study, if I may ask?

I reckon I’ve just started feeling a bit past it. I don’t mean responsibilities etc, but physically looking middle aged and losing touch a bit with tech and pop culture (for want of a better term). I’m 44 and my daughter is 12. I think it’s a combination of menopause and owning a Tween. Inside, I’m still astounded I’m allowed to drive a car, live by myself and am responsible for keeping pets and children alive. Still, we’re all more or less intact so far, so I must be doing something right.

You sound like a super mum! Don't be hard on yourself, and I'm sure those people mean it when they say you look 10 years younger. I wouldn't say that to someone if it weren't true

30, had my DD and now feel absolutely ancient. I have aches in places I never knew could ache..my hip also now pops as a result of labour 😂

Mid 40’s and whilst I know I’m not young, I don’t feel old yet - far from it! I feel like I’ve grown up and am mature. I was very immature even we’ll into my 20’s tbh and so think I can deal with life a bit more nowadays. I don’t yet have grey hair, am fitter than I’ve been in years and whilst not as slim as I was am a (generous!) 10-12 and enjoy lots of things. Last year I had a realisation and changed a lot of things (work, fitness and self care) and that’s made an enormous difference to how I feel. Of course I’d love to be 35 again but I have my shit together mentally a bit more now and need to embrace aging.

You only have to read the sad story of BowelBabes death today and a good friend from my youth who died on Monday. Life is too short so you have to live whilst you can. Age is just a number, truly believe that.

My skin was suddenly crepey. A blurred jawline. Massively heavy periods. I needed more sleep suddenly. A 5km walk with my dogs meant I was shattered. I daren't swim because I know I'll be so exhausted I won't cope with family demands afterwards.

When I became 70 this year. Still do my best to appear put together. Keep active with long walks have friends, eat out, enjoy life but I got old this year . It happened when I wasn't looking 😁

Yep had my 50th a few weeks before the first lockdown .. was loving life .. them two years took all the young out of me

Not sure I feel it yet, but I think that's just me being wilfully delusional!

45 and still have a massive list of things I want to do when I grow up

20-21 is when I felt grown up and old, after no longer being a teenager. In retrospect, which is a great thing, I realise I wasn't old, but I've done the same with each passing decade...

I’m 46 and I think I feel the best I’ve ever felt as an adult- certainly not old. I found the first decade of parenting extremely tough, but since my eldest turned 8 I seem to have been able to take control of my life. I’ve had 2 people comment recently that I look 10 years younger.

I've started really feeling old in the last year or so as I'm pretty sure perimenopause is upon me. 2020 was awful in many ways, lockdown which really affected my daughter, busy with work, husband was furloughed and made redundant, loss of family member. Then a big work project last year where I worked all day, did hours in the evening and all the usual house/children/family stuff for a few months. I don't think I've really recovered.
Oh and now a foot injury which is very slow to heal. So physically I feel old, mentally I feel stressed and exhausted by the state of the world but don't feel 'grown up' at all.

I’m 63 in a few weeks and if I don’t look in the mirror and ignore the aching joints, I’m still 40 in my head. I can’t get my head around being this age 🤷‍♀️

same!

51. Until 50 I had lots of energy and was raring to go and start a new career as my kids were grown up. Was working full-time, had a demanding partttime vuntaey job, was going to gym a lot etc. Then I got a bit burned out (probably fibro) and now really have to pace myself, can't do too much in any one day or I'm knackered.
    It's all a bit disappointing really!

I had a moment like this when I was 21 “shit I’m a proper adult now” and again when I was 29 “shit I’m 30 next and not even a young person any more”.
I expect to have another when I feel I qualify as ‘middle aged’. Currently mid 30s and not quite there yet…

Oh, and I thought “damn I look older” one day when I looked in the mirror aged 31.

I'm 32 and feel my age mentally (like no time for bullshit etc) but physically feel young.

Same!
I still look around for a more adult adult

Peri menopause at about 45