DD letting herself out car seat while I’m driving

[Pinkwellies81]

Can anyone recommend a lock or device to stop her undoing her car seat?
she’s just turned 4 and knows it’s naughty but keeps doing it as she thinks it’s funny (obviously it’s not)

Creiling lock and harness

Smacking doesn't work.

W dont smack people when they do bad things. Dont smack your kids.

Make her walk, when she complains, say until you can trust her not to unclip the seat belt, she will be walking everywhere.

No I didn't and it went against everything I believe in usually , got some gaffer tape and scissors after trying a seat belt cover and it was a pain but it worked!

We got the Velcro thing from Amazon. I was surprised it worked but it's more of a psychological thing for DD I think, she thinks she can't get it off. She's only 2 so a bit harder to try and reason with and you can't just pull over every two minutes on the motorway. She would also undo her seat and climb into the boot if you weren't quick enough.

Houdini clip off Amazon! Never did it again! Brilliant little clip.

Exactly this

Adding stuff won't help if she's undoing the buckle. Well there are buckle covers you can get but they're only recommend in extreme cases (SN etc) because they make it harder to escape in an emergency.

I actually did solve this in a gentle way - DS1 figured out how to open his car seat when he was three. We told him that it was a very special grown up thing to do, and he could open it, but ONLY if he waited until we'd stopped the car and given him the signal word. If he didn't wait, then he wouldn't be allowed to do it himself any more, (?? No idea how I would have enforced this but he hated the idea) and he wouldn't get any McDonald's (which by pure chance happened to be where we were going at the time). It worked. He didn't undo it while we were driving any more and he waited until we gave him the word. Praised him for being a big boy and waiting. Was never an issue again.

Make sure you have a child lock on her door in case of enthusiastic exits in a car park.

Oh and if your daughter is anything like my children, having to take the bus wouldn't be a deterrent in the slightest. They love the bus!

She needs a really big telling off! At 4 she is more than old enough to understand to follow instructions. This isn't a joke. It's safety. She needs to understand that undoing that seatbelt will have serious consequences

My daughter and son went through this - albeit a bit younger. Maybe 2 or 3. I went stopped the car and went ballistic. I very rarely shout. They were upset and so was I. But they knew I meant it. They never did it again.

My DD tried this when she was about 2 or 3. I instantly stopped the car, got her out and told her we had to walk home even though we were an hour away from home obviously she didn't know. After a few minutes walking she soon asked to go back in and never did it again.
I explained on our 'walk home' how we can never use the car again if she did not keep her seat belt. Now she is older and a HBB, she loves putting on her seat belt and insists on doing it herself.

Mine did this at a similar age and boy did I shout at him. We then refused to drive anywhere with him. He had to walk to the local shops, missed out on a child's party and he didn't go to soft play or other places. It helped that we had an older child who we deliberately took to soft play without him, just to make the message loud and clear. Honestly he never did it again.

I needed him to stay clipped in on his own and not rely on a second clip he might also undo because he went in the childminders and grandparents cars. Plus we did lots of motorway journeys where you can't stop and so we had to get the message across.

I would add that we only didn't drive him for a couple of weeks, but we made sure he missed lots of fun things because he couldn't go in the car. He's now 7 and is very good in the car and always tells me if he's not yet clipped in or if he can't manage it himself.