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Late night knock in door

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 21:16

Ok, I just need some advice. My 13 year old is in bed. I get a knock at the door to find 4 kids of similar age to my son. This is now nearly 9pm on a school night . They ask to use the toilet , I politely say no. They ask to use the shower and I again say no. They then ask for a glass of water. I lock the door and get them a glass of water. The larger boy then asks for my son by his name. He said they knew him from primary school, then secondary school and then he says they play an online game with him . He told them he was unavailable right now. Now, here comes the even stranger part . He says "can you thank your son for our kiss. Did he tell you he was bi?".
Nothing against people who are of course but this really knocked me off my feet and I told them bye and closed the door. I had a chat with my son and he insists he doesnt know who they were (I told them the names they gave as my son didnt see them). He says he has never told anyone where he lives either.
It just seems they were up to no good and have really got me spooked. Am I overreacting here ?
My son is autistic and has no common sense at all to be honest although he is insisting he has never told anyone where we live but how else would they know?

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RedCarsGoFaster · 21/06/2022 21:33

Sounds more like a bunch of bullies.

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 21:36

That's my worry as well. He doesnt really get on with other kids in the school and has had some issues since he started secondary school.

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RedCarsGoFaster · 21/06/2022 21:39

I'm sorry, that's really crap for him.

Could you give the school a bell in the morning and give their names and ask if there have been issues with them and your son if he can't recollect them? Perhaps put the school on notice of what's happened if they aren't aware of things?

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LittleBoPeepHasLostHerShit · 21/06/2022 21:41

My first thought is they are bullies who are trying to mess with your son. The fact they were trying to get into your house is a bit worrying.

KangarooKenny · 21/06/2022 21:43

Have you got any CCTV ?

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 21:48

No CCTV unfortunately. Never needed it.
It has made me very nervous asking to come in and making these strange accusations. I have emailed the school asking them to call me tomorrow (can never get through if I ring myself).
Its made me so uneasy to be honest. He would never admit to being bullied but they just sounded very intimidating when stood on my doorstep.

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KangarooKenny · 21/06/2022 21:49

I think you need it now.

WhatNowwwww · 21/06/2022 21:50

Definitely sounds like bullies to me. I’d also be speaking to school so they can keep an eye out.

Swashbuckled · 21/06/2022 21:51

Do you have a class photo from primary school to see if you can recognise them, or if it prompts your son?

It might also narrow it down to those who have gone to the same secondary from his primary.

Isaidnoalready · 21/06/2022 21:52

Honestly I would have laughed at the last part and firmly shut the door in there faces acting confused and upset will fuel it

Check his online gaming settings with him see what messages he has been receiving and block them if they are bad
Also speak to the school

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 21:55

He described the only Jake he knew at primary school but didnt sound like the boy at the door and we have no past photos either unfortunately.

Hopefully will speak to the school tomorrow to watch things more closely.
I wish I could afford CCTV but that's out of the question unfortunately. I am barely able to pay the bills as is.
I am bloody worried how they got our address in the first place.

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2bazookas · 21/06/2022 22:00

They were trying to get in the house to thieve. Toilet/glass of water are old conmen tricks.

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 22:02

I think I will sit down and go through his laptop and gaming settings with him tomorrow as well as suggested.

Thanks

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MissMaple82 · 21/06/2022 22:03

I think I'd report this to the school. I wouldn't take any chances, it could be a safeguarding concern

darisdet · 21/06/2022 22:03

It sounds like they were trying to get into the house as bazookas said. It would definitely be worth contacting the school as you planned.

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 22:08

Thank you. It did worry me them trying to use going to the toilet as an excuse to get into the house. Of course that wasnt going to happen, kids or not.
I will definitely speak to the school though. I dont rattle or spook easily but this definitely has. Especially being on my own with my son as well.

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InFiveMins · 21/06/2022 22:10

It would unnerve me too. Hopefully the school can help.

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 22:12

Thanks, I am not holding my breath about help from the school. They are not great to be honest but you never know.

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cherrypiepie · 21/06/2022 22:14

That would freak me out too. Not overreacting. They were intimidating you before they alluded to knowing your son. Then they said the weird comment about a kiss to further intimidate you.

Call the school and speak to a member of the safeguarding team. Good luck. Don't answer the door again.

PinkButtercups · 21/06/2022 22:17

What a bunch of weirdos!
They were trying to intimidate you. Next time don't get them anything. Have nearby neighbours got any CCTV or any ring footage, if they do it could of set their ring cameras motion setting off if they walked past.

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 22:19

Thanks cherrypiepie. Definately will not be answering door again from now. Curtains closed as well.
Stupid to be intimidated by kids !

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ScotLochSwimmer · 21/06/2022 22:21

I think you need a Ring doorbell, at the very least!

These nasty boys seem to be wanting to make your son feel unsafe in his own home. Has he been bullied at school? Poor boy, it's unfortunately very common for ASD children to suffer bullying.

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Debbiep11 · 21/06/2022 22:23

Pinkbuttercups - no one here has cctv. It's usually a really quiet neighbourhood and so people just dont feel the need to have any.

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Cherrysoup · 21/06/2022 22:42

How very odd. I would have told them to go away immediately. No water/toilet etc. Bizarre requests.

WonderingWanda · 21/06/2022 22:43

Sounds very suspicious to me, definitely sleak to the school they will have photos of all their students so you might be able to go in and id them. That way you will at least know if its school bullies or someone from online gaming who have extracted info from your son. If it's the latter I'd then contact the police for advice.

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