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Worried about my son.

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Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 18:17

My son has had some stuff going on for a while..

I'm really worried about his mental health his has self harmed. Said things about not wanting to live anymore etc. Although that part has slowed down a bit.

Hes been very aggressive at times and I'm actually scared of him. It's been going on for quite a while although the aggression is still there it has slowed compared to what it was.

This part I don't know how to explain very well but I'm going to try.

He says or expects very odd things. For example a couple of days ago he said his sister was giving him looks. Looking at him in a certain way. He asked me what I was going to do about it I told dd to stop looking at him. Then he kept saying it over and over. Some times she would just glance because she heard a sound or she happend to look in his direction. Other times I did not actually see. And because if that I said: " look both of you stop it . I can't watch you both at the same time to make sure you don't look at each other. My eyes can't look both ways at the same time. Then my son started sending me about 30 messages, asking me how im going to deal with it . What am I going to do about it and how he's getting the blame all the time . He kept telling me to me to be logic. I told him that I can't fix every tiny thing that it's impossible for my eyes to look both ways. I can't promise him that dd won't ever look at him again. He actually just would not stop it stressed me out so much . Even just reflecting on it now I want to cry ffs.

Another example is i went away for a couple of days . My adult daughter and her boyfriend stayed at my house to look after my son as he did not want to come. My son started saying that her boyfriend is playing up. That he needs to leave the house he needs to go. Daughter told me that nothing was happening. Nothing was going on at all. my son just accusing her boyfriend of playing up. But nothing was actually happening. And no one knew what he was talking about .

Then he kept saying I'm going to work out how im going to get you out of this house I'm going to make you leave . Then he went to his room. Daughter said he fell asleep and it was as if nothing had happened later.

Hes done similar things to the above on several occasions. There's alot of the time I don't know what he's talking about and it's something that has not happened. and he thinks everyone hates him. Everyone is against him.

He puts himself at risk by telling me he's staying at my daughters house then when she's asleep he will leave the house and come home at 2am in the morning. He's done things like jump out of the 1st floor window.

Incase meed to know he's 15. Dd is 11.

Hes not at school as I deregistered him a while back. As he was not coping his attendance was bad and we were not getting any help.

We asked for help from social services. Early help stepped in. That did not really go anywhere. Thry have now gone.

Hes on waiting list for CAMHS. Which is a very long wait. We had to fight to even get on the list.

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KangarooKenny · 19/06/2022 18:22

Does he smoke weed ?

Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 18:37

KangarooKenny · 19/06/2022 18:22

Does he smoke weed ?

I'm 99% that he does not. I think I would smell it on his clothes etc . No one in my family smokes . And I hate the smell so much I think I would notice . Although I can't be 100% .

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TheWayoftheLeaf · 19/06/2022 19:04

OP I hate to say it but such paranoia... could he be suffering with delusions?

Snuffy28 · 19/06/2022 19:09

He needs his physical health checking out, in case there's a problem. If you can rule out any physical causes, he may need counselling to deal with his problems. He might talk more openly to a stranger.
Is he getting a proper education at home? Does he engage with friends?

Hellocatshome · 19/06/2022 19:10

I would speak to your GP about a referral to CAMHS or CYPS what does he do if he isnt registered at school? What does he do during the day? Are you at home with him all day or is he left alone? I would worry about drug use maybe not smoking weed if you haven't smelt any evidence but perhaps some other drug use.

PerfectlyQuiet · 19/06/2022 19:32

That sounds like he is having psychotic episodes. How worrying for you. 🙁

Can you get an appointment with your GP? Would your son be willing to go?
Can you afford for him to see a private GP or psychiatrist ( a private GP could be £60-£100 and a private psychiatrist could be a few hundred). If I could I'd try really hard to get him seen by someone?

Have you kept all his texts? It might help the professionals get a picture as to what's happening.

How is his diet, his sleeping and his general health?

Might it be possible to get him to take a home drug test to rule out drug use?

This is an awful situation for you and your son but I feel extremely sorry for your daughter? Are you a single parent? Does he spend all his time at home with you.

Have you tried any of the child mental health charities for advice?

Good luck.

Ihatethenewlook · 19/06/2022 19:34

Has he been to a doctor op? He needs a diagnosis, not just talking therapy.

HollowTalk · 19/06/2022 19:57

That sounds incredibly worrying. I would talk to a GP on my own actually and ask for help. I am sure he needs it quite quickly. I would ask for an emergency appointment tomorrow, if you can do that.

Daisyroseandhyacinth · 19/06/2022 20:01

He sounds like he has paranoia and psychosis. You need to go to the GP and ask for urgent help.

Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 20:18

Just responding as a whole. We are in contact with gp she's the one who helped with the CAMHS. We have had several calls regarding the whole situation. I asked the gp to call Me last week but she did not . So I have asked again.

Regarding his home education that's not happening. But he's meant to be starting college in September to be honest that's the least of my worries. I'm more worried about his mental health.

Regarding my daughter she is fine . They are actually quite close. When I was away for a couple days thars the first time I have ever Done it and to be honest I needed it. Dd is 24 . And that's the first time in 24 years I stayed away a couple of nights.

Regarding counselling. There was several things offered by social services and he refused them all.

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Muminabun · 19/06/2022 20:41

Hi op this happened to my DH brother. It was a psychotic episode and he needed inpatient psychiatric help for a long time. I think you may need to contact the crisis team ASAP and ask for advice.

Hellocatshome · 19/06/2022 20:47

Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 20:18

Just responding as a whole. We are in contact with gp she's the one who helped with the CAMHS. We have had several calls regarding the whole situation. I asked the gp to call Me last week but she did not . So I have asked again.

Regarding his home education that's not happening. But he's meant to be starting college in September to be honest that's the least of my worries. I'm more worried about his mental health.

Regarding my daughter she is fine . They are actually quite close. When I was away for a couple days thars the first time I have ever Done it and to be honest I needed it. Dd is 24 . And that's the first time in 24 years I stayed away a couple of nights.

Regarding counselling. There was several things offered by social services and he refused them all.

When I was asking about what he is doing with his day I am aware home schooling is probably not high on the agenda. The reason for asking was really to find out what he was doing with his time. Does he have friends he gets along with? Do you know them? Is he mixing with the wrong people? Or is he isolated and maybe overly involved in the online/fantasy world?

overthinkersanonnymus · 19/06/2022 20:57

Unfortunately this sounds like the on set of schizophrenia. Paranoia, delusions, aggression then the "reset" as if nothing has happened .

Young men are more prone to these types of illnesses but they are very manageable once the right treatment is given.

I'd push the GP a lot harder and get him fully assessed

GL FlowersFlowers

Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 21:14

Hellocatshome · 19/06/2022 20:47

When I was asking about what he is doing with his day I am aware home schooling is probably not high on the agenda. The reason for asking was really to find out what he was doing with his time. Does he have friends he gets along with? Do you know them? Is he mixing with the wrong people? Or is he isolated and maybe overly involved in the online/fantasy world?

He had a handful of friends at school. He stayed in touch with them for a bit . But then i think it Drifted. I know he still speaks to one girl. But they don't meet up.
There's a boy he sometimes sees he's known since he was 3 from primary school. He's ok I know his parents. And he does spend time with him older sister.

He does use ps5 but not as much as he used to. He does seem to listen to some depressing songs . But that has also slowed compared to what it was. His sleep patten is very bad.

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Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 21:17

overthinkersanonnymus · 19/06/2022 20:57

Unfortunately this sounds like the on set of schizophrenia. Paranoia, delusions, aggression then the "reset" as if nothing has happened .

Young men are more prone to these types of illnesses but they are very manageable once the right treatment is given.

I'd push the GP a lot harder and get him fully assessed

GL FlowersFlowers

Thank you . I was wondering this as well . I have looked it up and things do seem to fit.. im going to wait for gp to ring on Tuesday. But also whilst I'm waiting I'm going to try and get hold of CAMHS.

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OnaBegonia · 19/06/2022 21:20

@overthinkersanonnymus
I agree, reading the OP this was my first thought, my good friend was diagnosed as a young teen but with good management has went onto lead a good life.

Notbluepeter · 19/06/2022 21:49

My uncle has paranoid schizophrenia. The obsession over being watched is worryingly familiar. Tragically he went on to murder this neighbour.

Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 22:15

Notbluepeter · 19/06/2022 21:49

My uncle has paranoid schizophrenia. The obsession over being watched is worryingly familiar. Tragically he went on to murder this neighbour.

They sounds like a really horrible situation

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Formyson15 · 19/06/2022 22:16

OnaBegonia · 19/06/2022 21:20

@overthinkersanonnymus
I agree, reading the OP this was my first thought, my good friend was diagnosed as a young teen but with good management has went onto lead a good life.

Thank you. Hopefully we will be listened to and it will be sorted.

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SunflowerGardens · 19/06/2022 22:20

If you start to worry that he's a danger to yourself or others (particularly your young DD) make sure to ring the crisis team for urgent assistance Flowers

HappyGoLuckyLuLu · 19/06/2022 22:21

Yes agree with trying to get more assessment and ideally quickly - my brother also had episodes of mania and all sorts of strange behaviour around age 19 - he was diagnosed bipolar. As already stated more common in young men and typical onset is late teens. Good luck & hope you can get some support for you all!

Helenbackagain3 · 19/06/2022 22:29

Sorry to hear this, really sounds like psychosis. Suggest you try GP again, and emphasise severity of symptoms for urgent CAMHS visit, and ask them to refer to Pier team. Psychosis intervention early recovery. Teenage brains can be prone to this, plus maybe some underlying worries, maybe cannabis. Make sure he is sleeping as lack of sleep could cause it to spiral - perhaps ask GP for short course of sleeping tablets. Thinking of you. Hope the situation improves. (From experience x)

Nomad916 · 19/06/2022 22:56

Sounds like psychosis/early signs of Schizoaffective disorder

NotABeliever · 19/06/2022 23:32

The mental health team should have a "first episode of psychosis" team. Please ask your GP to educate herself into what exactly your local MH services offer for psychosis and make an urgent referral.
Good luck OP.

User3568975431146 · 19/06/2022 23:55

This is a mental illness problem rather than a mental health problem by the sound of it. He's at the right age for paranoia problems to surface. Do you know if he's hearing voices or has unusual beliefs about being spied on, the tv sending him messages etc?

He needs to see a psychiatrist it's not going to be solved by counselling unfortunately 💐