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I hope this thread inspires all you single women to...

33 replies

ItDoesMyHeadIn · 19/06/2022 14:33

... go on holiday by yourself.

Because I am. Next month. Pissing off to Snowdonia with my hiking boots, mountain bike and a couple of good novels. I am also taking a shiny brand new laptop in the hope the Welsh countryside will inspire me to finally start writing my own.

I shall walk by the lakes, cycle, shop and explore my arse off. I will also indulge in some nice meals in some cozy looking restaurants.

So there 😌

Go on ladies. Book something x

OP posts:
newbiename · 19/06/2022 14:36

Lovely , I was just talking about this the other day.

LadyCampanulaTottington · 19/06/2022 14:38

I am married but do solo trips a few times a year. I own my own company and taking these breaks means I am refreshed and renewed and I often have moments of inspiration when I am the furthest in thought from work.

I love solo travel! Enjoy your holiday, it sounds idyllic ☺️

SpittinKitten · 19/06/2022 14:45

Booked it last month 👍

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ItDoesMyHeadIn · 19/06/2022 14:46

All previous partners have been warned this is something I have to do at least once per year. If just one woman on here books something for herself my work is done!

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Knackeredmommy · 19/06/2022 14:47

Just did my first soli trip abroad, it was glorious!

Shitscared123 · 19/06/2022 14:56

I’ve done many solo trips abroad, the last one to Socotra, which was an amazing adventure. It’s easy to meet and talk to people whilst traveling. I don’t get the stigma attached to it.

JimmyMcNultyIsMine · 19/06/2022 15:31

I do the opposite - kick DH and the children out for a long weekend over the summer and enjoy the house to myself. Does that count?

worraliberty · 19/06/2022 15:35

It's not for everyone.

I've been away alone twice and whilst I didn't hate the holidays, I missed having someone else to share the experiences with and have a good laugh.

But of course we're all different.

NickyNora · 19/06/2022 15:36

Maybe one day when the dc are older...

Cheeseandlobster · 19/06/2022 15:37

I have done this twice abroad. Its both empowering and decadent. I loved it

emmathedilemma · 19/06/2022 15:48

I’ve been away on my own the last 2 years. Both times I had a friend join me or stayed with friends as part of the trip but had a number of days on my own. It’s great, you can do whatever you like whenever you like!

Bumply · 19/06/2022 15:50

I used to go for solo walks when I figured out my partner not wanting to go as often shouldn't stop me doing something I enjoy.

He's now an ex and I've done plenty of holidays as single parent with two young boys

They're now young adults and I go on holidays on my own. Go where I want, when I want with my own agenda. Usually somewhere with wifi so I can share photos with friends and family, but I do enjoy the freedom of it.

Last holiday was a multi day canoeing trip with 7 other randoms, where it was scary wondering if I'd be gooseberry to a group who all knew each other, or if I didn't get on with the others, but it was a mix of solo travellers and only one actual couple.

FAQs · 19/06/2022 15:50

Many of us already do, and many also did before children, relationships etc.

Bumply · 19/06/2022 15:53

Thinking about it I probably got my inspiration from my Godmother who traveled the world as a single woman all her life (born 1901). I got to join in on one of her last escapades to Israel as she was beginning to have memory lapses in her 70s and was likely to leave her wallet/passport behind.

Furrbabymama1987 · 19/06/2022 15:54

I'm married with kids and it's something I fantasise about but could never do in real life.

Maverickess · 19/06/2022 15:54

I've got 3 breaks planned, all were planned to be solo trips. One has been gatecrashed by my DD and the other my friend, leaving me one on my own that I'm not telling anyone about until the last minute 😂
I don't really mind them coming on those trips, it'll be fun in a different way, but I'm really looking forward to the one on my own 😊
It's liberation and I love just being able to please myself and go where I want and not have to go somewhere I don't because someone else wants to 🤣

Luredbyapomegranate · 19/06/2022 16:00

I have a partner and I also go away on my own as well as with him, and also with friends without him.

I love all of the options (and am lucky to have them I know.)

OnceAgainWithFeeling · 19/06/2022 16:02

Not single and heading off to Spain for a week on my own in a week or so. I do solo holidays/weekends regularly. Why wouldn’t you?

midsomermurderess · 19/06/2022 16:02

I don’t know, when you consider your Mary Kingsleys, Gertrude Bells, Freya Starks, holidaying on your own in a resort in Europe or going walking on well-trodden paths isn’t exactly ground-breaking. But of course, it can still be daunting.

arethereanyleftatall · 19/06/2022 16:03

I'm doing Rome. 💪

Bizarrely I travelled on my own throughout my twenties all over the world.

Got married, travelled everywhere together.

Got divorced.

Have been really scared to go anywhere on my own for the last few years!! Bonkers given my past.

Anyway, I'm doing it. Booked it last week. Super proud of myself.

Go girls xx

Supersee · 19/06/2022 16:06

I go on holiday by myself all the time!

I'm 40, single, no kids and all my mates are married and/or just having babies now. The ones who aren't just aren't into travel as much as I am or can't afford it.

There's of course a few downsides (I love eating out and it's not much fun sitting in a restaurant on your tod, admittedly) but it really is so liberating.

Changechangychange · 19/06/2022 16:13

Pre-kids I always went on holidays by myself. Trips DH wouldn’t be into - skiing, SwimTrek holidays, etc. It’s something I really miss tbh. I got a chance to catch up on stuff, have some peace, catch up on my reading, and basically do exactly what I wanted for a week. Bliss.

I still try to take the odd day off work by myself - do some yoga, go swimming, eat lunch somewhere nice and read a book. But since DS started school I have needed to save all my AL for the school holidays.

FriNightBlues · 19/06/2022 16:27

I want to hear more about her!

FriNightBlues · 19/06/2022 16:29

FriNightBlues · 19/06/2022 16:27

I want to hear more about her!

That was for Bumply 🤦‍♀️

Testina · 19/06/2022 16:48

I think it’s a shame that people use words like decadent or empowering, instead of ordinary and enjoyable. I’m on a campervan group for women, and there are so many posts from women who are anxious about driving a van, setting up a van, staying alone - I’m talking on a campsite here, not the safety issues of wild camping. It’s great that they’re always given support to face their fears and a high five when they post a photo having done it… but I always find it such a shame that so many are scared to do things on their own, and wish it wasn’t so common. It’s often women who’ve acquired the van during or after divorce! Great that they’re asking and trying to do it… but it always makes me wonder - are there swathes who’d like to, but are too low in confidence to even get to that point?