I was out last night, and can't understand why the barman acted so strangely towards me. 🤔

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I was with dh, together with another couple, at a lovely pub with live music.
We all took turns going to the bar for drinks, but when I went the barman made me feel so uncomfortable!

He said (in front of various people standing at the bar, and in a mocking tone), "Oh-oh, shall I SERVE you? You might miss the MUSIC'! and nudged his friend, who also laughed. I laughingly said 'It's ok, they've gone for their break'!
He then eyerolled me, then turned to the others, saying, 'Does she look THIRSTY enough'?! More laughter from the others, then he proceeded to put ice in each cider glass, shaking them as if making cocktails, fixing me with a menacing stare. 😮

I didn't know how to react, so just stood aside and waited, paid and went back to our table. He didn't treat the other female in our group like this (I asked her), and was perfectly polite to the young girl in front of me, so I was a bit baffled!

Going up to the bar is hardly unusual for me, dh & I always take turns. I'm fairly quiet though, so maybe he picked up this? No excuse for it though, surely?!

Sounds like a psycho tbh

Nasty little prick.

Really weird. Maybe some stupid in joke between him and the others ?

Probably bored and trying to provoke a reaction. In my opinion you did the right thing ignoring it as it could have escalated and ruined your night. You won't get reason out of someone behaving like that. How horrible.

Well thirsty is slang. So maybe when he said "Does she look THIRSTY enough" to his mates he was insinuating you were up for it.

No idea about the rest though!

Probably some kind of immature bet between him and his equally pathetic colleague. Incel behaviour. Put it out of your mind.

Doesn't thirsty mean something sexual or something?

Anyway, just another man trying to make a lone female feel uncomfortable. A prick thassal. Plenty of them.

Twitchers will take over that pub shortly.

You have had the misfortune of coming across a preening lesser spotted gobby twat.

As DD would say with an eye roll, "time for an online review".

What a plonker.

Sounds like the silly little sod expected you should fancy him, and was trying to neg you. The fact you are confused and oblivious is hilarious. Clearly not the catch he imagines he is.

I didn't think of the 'thirsty' euphemism!!
Hmm, maybe he was bored, and
thought I'd be unlikely to answer back so targeted me. Ignoring him seemed to wind him up though!
Online review - that's an idea! 😉

Seriously do leave a review. Women should NOT be made to feel uncomfortable by this. Stupid bastard.

‘Serve’ with that emphasis is also a double entendre. He sounds stupid and immature and an online review saying something along those lines is a good idea.

as others have said, the phrases are sexual slang. Where I live in Europe these are main words now (particularly thirsty to mean horny) amongst 20 somethings speaking English as a second language. It’s horrid. I’d have directly confronted him…the old mums at classic of do/did you mean to be rude works everywhere!

Sounds like a really crap attempt at flirting with you.

He sounds like a sad little wanker.

With that kind of behaviour I'd call and ask to speak to the manager today.

Be perfectly calm and explain that you'd like to know what's going to be done about it, since if it came so easily to this member of staff with you (and wasn't called out by his colleagues), then you're definitely not the only customer on the receiving end of it.

By all means leave an online review, but before that I'd want to speak to someone directly.

Innwhat shotty universe could this possibky be flirting? Are you also one of those idiots who think boys hurting girls means they like her?

This

Yes do - and email the management.

No it really doesn't. It's gang bullying.

Email the venue or leave a review to say that the staff made you feel very uncomfortable and that their behaviour was inappropriate.

This is guy is using is job to make ''jokes'' and sneer at women.

It is likely that they are doing this with other women too and he should not be in a public facing role.

PPs think he tried to neg you into a shag and it sailed over your head?

he must have been so deflated by your “puzzled expression”

I love that.

it would have sailed over my head too.

Online review, mention the pub is lovely and just focus on the barman, that is completely unacceptable for anyone to have to put up with, although he might think he is being clever. Include date and time so management can work out who he was.

Who in their right mind would think this was flirting? It sounds totally bizarre.
Are you very pretty OP? And around their age? It sounds more like they were intimidated by you?