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He has really hurt me

40 replies

anotherdaynotanotherdollar · 14/06/2022 00:08

Don't know what to do.

Been hit, thrown against the door and then head slammed against the door.

Had a drink poured over me.

Kicked off with my 15 year old who has a gcse in the morning.

He's very angry because he lost his job today. Currently in the front room with our 5 year old laughing and joking.

I'm currently sat on the kitchen floor

I know I should report, but my whole life will be turned upside down if I do.

I don't know what to do

OP posts:
WhoWants2Know · 14/06/2022 00:08

You call the police.

ThisTastesSalty · 14/06/2022 00:10

Call police now!

Hadalifeonce · 14/06/2022 00:10

Please call the police. That beating sounds bad, the next time could be far worse.

Threetulips · 14/06/2022 00:10

Call the police - you life will be so much better without him

Threetulips · 14/06/2022 00:11

Take photos and call a friend to come over - you need the support -

Rebeccasmoonnecklace · 14/06/2022 00:12

Please call the Police, you and your children need to be safe.

tkwal · 14/06/2022 00:13

Your whole life has already been turned upside down. You can't accept that kind of treatment no matter how he tries to excuse it. If he can be in another room laughing and joking then he wasn't out of control with you, he CHOSE to attack you. You do know what you have to do. It won't be easy but it might save your and your children's lives

nocoolnamesleft · 14/06/2022 00:13

Please call the police. What if he kills you next time? Your children deserve to be safe, and so do you.

Zpoa · 14/06/2022 00:14

Come on OP, you know.you need to call the police. Don't let yourself be treated like this or let your children see any more violence in the home 🌺

You can do this x

LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 14/06/2022 00:15

If you can take your DC get somewhere safe and call the cops or lock yourself in a room with DC and call the cops. If you can't do either safely right now, call women's aide, get help to support you and your DC to leave safely. Your life is already upside down, there's no way back from this, it's unforgivable. Your daughter will never forget this, doesn't have to be right this moment if you don't feel safe to leave but you do need to leave over this. She needs to know it's not ok for a man to treat her like this. I'd also talk to the school as this could seriously impact her GCSE results. I'm sorry he's putting you all through this.

allinadaystwerk · 14/06/2022 00:16

How is your 15 year old? Do you have injuries?

Todonow · 14/06/2022 00:16

Please call the police

Valhalla17 · 14/06/2022 00:20

Are you and your 15yr old physically OK? Do you need medical attention?

Pls call the police if you can now. He needs to be out of your home, you and the kids need to be safe. I'm so sorry you're going through this OP.

DramaAlpaca · 14/06/2022 00:20

You really should call the police.

You don't have to live like this.

00kitty · 14/06/2022 00:20

I take it this was your partner/DH and not the 15 yr old

please seek help this is not normal and isn’t acceptable, I would bundle up kids and get out for tonight. Your future will be much brighter without him

womens aid are fabulous and will help you arrange a safe exit
report to police
sending love and strength 😘

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stillvicarinatutu · 14/06/2022 00:24

My love
I am a police officer. Of
Course my first advice is call 999, but I also understand it's not always so simple.
But he needs to not be there right now - I'd give an ultimatum. Leave or you dial999 . You need time out on your own .
He isn't a good man and you can't risk this again love and it WILL HAPPEN again. You know that .
Lean on whoever you can . He needs to leave . Now . With or without police.

ThirtyThreeTrees · 14/06/2022 00:27

Is there anywhere you can go now?

I would call the police if you can and if it is safe to do so.

You need to get out, women's aid, the police, friends, family etc.

If he's like this he will turn your life upside now anyway. The main regret women who escape have it not escaping sooner.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 14/06/2022 00:28

On a purely practical level, if your 15 year old is aware of what's happened then you need to be able to get them some dispensation for the exam. You need evidence so calling the police will do that.
Obviously you should do it for all the other reasons but since you mention the GCSE...

00kitty · 14/06/2022 00:37

I echo thirtythreetrees re. Biggest regret being not to have escaped earlier

you don’t want your kids growing up thinking this is an acceptable relationship

if he will kick off or escalate at mention of police tonight then try and stay cool if you can’t get out and stop by police station after school run tomorrow if there are no other options tonight. Take photos of any immediate injuries

if you need police urgently but can’t talk I believe you call 999 and press 55 when call is answered

Kimmismth · 14/06/2022 00:41

Been here
please please call for help even family to come get you
it will not change or stop protect u and those kids please

Summerfun54321 · 14/06/2022 00:47

An adult who assaults others should not be part of your children’s life. Please get help from the police.

CJsGoldfish · 14/06/2022 00:55

You call the police.
You protect your children.
If you choose not to protect your children from this life, they should be removed and have the opportunity to live somewhere safe with people who will put them first. It's probably too late for your 15yr old but not for the 5 yr old. Do you have any family they can stay with?

Twinsmummy1812 · 14/06/2022 01:03

I am really so very sorry. Do you feel safe right now? Has this happened before?

Flatandhappy · 14/06/2022 01:07

I am so sorry this has happened to you but you do need to call the police. There has got to be some serious consequences for his actions or this won’t be the last time.

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