Just found out I'm pregnant with a third and now petrified!

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Hello, DH and I thought I'd be nice to have a third...

DTD once thought nothing of it. And this morning found out I'm pregnant!

Is it normal to feel this way with a third? Don't think I felt this way with the first two.

Any advice/support welcome!

Haha me too! Except I found out on Thursday. Congratulations!!

Thanks! And congrats to you too! How are you feeling about it?

Congratulations. Perhaps because you conceived so quickly it’s taken you really by surprise. Thinking you’d have a third at some point is different to number 3 will be here in 9 months. It’s probably just the realisation that it’s a reality, not a theory any more, if that makes sense.
Congratulations @Zapx too.

@Ohtoberoavingagain @uhohuhohuhoh thanks! Yeah feeling really excited but with a healthy dose of “what on earth were we thinking” 😂 still getting used to the idea but overall it’s starting to sink in…!
@uhohuhohuhoh how old are your other two?

My third child has just turned 1. I took a long time to conceive DC1 and 2, with losses along the way - like you OP DC3 was first time trying, I was absolutely shocked - all the other pregnancies I know to the day when I was due my period and tested the moment I was due, the last time I was two weeks late before I thought to check!
Many congratulations, once you've got over the shock it will be fine, our DC3 is amazing and the whole family is so happy with her.

Yeah, I had this. When look down at the two lines and confirm you've just jettisoned yourself out of the standard 2 adult, 2 children mold and into new territory. My third is eight now. I love having three kids. I think it's a real blast, congratulations!

Thanks for the reassuring messages.

@Zapx I have a 4 and a 2 year old. Eldest will be at school, and 2 year old will continue to do two days at nursery. How about you?

You wanted to get pregnant but probably not this quick, but it’s happened. It’s like when you order something online and it says 3-5 days to deliver but it’s such a welcomed surprise when it comes in 2 days 😂 so my point is, don’t worry, consider yourself fortunate and just enjoy each day without thinking too much. Keep yourself as relaxed as can be x

Me!!! Except it took a year and a half. Now its happening. Im 38 yrs old with a 6 yr old and a 2 yr old. Complete panic mode, full of anxiety attacks and crying. Its so strange to me that I wanted this for a long time...and now Im reacting this way. Is it just the 1st tri hormones? I forgot (somehow) that I do not like pregnancy. I keep thinking.. what have I done to myself??? I will say the full on panic attacks and crying have slowed...but constant thoughts of OMG, is this a dream??? I sure hope these feelings subside...I am a bit worried! On top of pregnancy and age, the worries of caring for three. Where were all these worries all the past months???😖

@SCBH oh no, the panic attacks sound awful! Hugs to you. Yes I know exactly what you mean about 'where were these emotions before?!' 🤷‍♀️

I think I thought if we didn't 'go for it' we'd regret it forever. I think that's still true but I'd love to be able to click my fingers and skip the pregnancy part, and be at the other end where I know everything turns out fine.

How far along are you?

I am 8 weeks. Honestly I worry so much if I can handle one more person to care for. I sweat just thinking about it. I have NO IDEA why these feelings werent there prior to being pregnant. Sometimes I really feel like this is going to do us in. I do have brief moments of being ok with it, but I hate that the majority of the time Im filled with worry.I like you wish I could see into the future.

Congratulations!! Three children are amazing. I have a just-turned five year old, a two year old and an 8 month old. It's busy and chaotic but it's just so lovely! ❤️

All the best OP. 💕

Thanks for your words. Do you think any of these feelings are normal?? I never experienced these feelings with my first or second! Am I going to forget about all of these worries once the baby is here?

@IsabelaYourBoyfriendsHere thanks that's good to hear!

I felt that way too. The oh my goodness what have we done feeling 😂 now 30 weeks and get it less so something to look forwards to?! I reckon it's the in theory Vs in reality that's the problem, in theory it'll be lovely and it should all work but in reality it's yet more bodily fluids and lack of sleep to get through before the nice bits where you have a lovely big family of independent humans.

OP are you feeling any better? I started a post for tips on trying to get excited. I was planning to try and change my mindset, but still havent had the epiphany that i was hoping for!!

Congratulations! Don’t worry I’m sure you will be fine. I’ve found the transition from 2-3 by far the easiest so far. My little dd1 is 7 weeks old and adored by her 2 brothers (3 and 5) and we are so happy we had a third. My husband convinced me as I was happy with 2 but I absolutely wouldn’t be without her now.

This baby just took you by suprise. My sister had one like that and NN her boo.

Thank you! It helps to hear this! Im just so frazzled right now that all the stress is magnafied!! Im finding my two hard to deal with now as well....but I just to CHILL!!

I felt similar - it only took 2 cycles to conceive #3 and although it was planned I still had the ‘what the fuck are we doing’ moments until he was born!

took 7 cycles to conceive #4 there’s just under 2 years age gap the broody never goes away 🤣

Hi @SCBH I've semi tried to put it to the back of my mind now. Not always possible.

When I do think about it and panic, I think well what can I do? Rather than stress why don't I just try and chill? Then I remind myself of what we did in the early days with my other two, and that makes me feel much better as I then think 'oh yeh we'll just do that this time round'

I think the pregnancy is stressing me slightly more as I will have turned 38 when baby arrives so considering getting a NIPT and doing some yoga/hypnobirthing/breathing malarkey - just free stuff that's online.

And hope it all turned out ok?!

Ill be a few days after turning 39 if that makes you feel better!! I have not been able to not think about it. Here's to trying to chill!!

Oh nice we are similar age then! I sometimes feel like I'm the only one having a third (out of people I know). I think I'd feel less alone in the decision if I had a friend that was also planning or expecting a third - nice to know via MN there are others!

Do you get an hour or two free on an evening? This sounds silly but reading a trashy book has helped. With reading a book you can only read the book. Whereas when I'm watching tv, or scrolling on my phone my thoughts start to wander, and panic.

And when I'm with the kids I don't have the time to think because they are just constant.

Congratulation - it will be great! I have 3 and found the transition from 2 to 3 a breeze compared to 1 to 2. I love being a family of 5- feels like a crowd and there's always something going on. Of course when I was pregnant I had the 'oh my god what have I done' moments but it all melted away when dc3 arrived.