Retorts please to rude man in restaurant

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I never eat out. I am a carer and I am never cooked for. Today I enjoyed some messy tacos in a restaurant and as I was wiping my mouth some bald headed man tells me I’ve missed a bit. I feel so cross at him trying to make me self conscious at enjoying a rare treat. He is sitting with two women. He has a loud voice. What can I say before I leave to put him in his place?

Christ I couldn't get worked up about this. It was a passing jokey comment. Wouldn't have given it any other thought let alone get offended by it.

Christ, people get more and more offended about such bullshit stuff everyday.

Why mention that he’s bald?

I may be presumptuous, but I think the Op has hopefully left the restaurant by now.😏🌮

The defaut ' thank you random little man'? I am sure it came from a good place but I get where you are coming from. Its never a woman who points this out is it?

He was either being friendly and helpful about your still having food around your chops and hoped to save you the embarrassment of not realising the food was still there or was being friendly and tried to strike up a conversation with some banter which he thought was a kind thing to do as you were on your own.

To take offence at something so harmless says more about you than him.

Bit of an overreaction op.

I find the phrase "thank you for sharing" works well in a wide range of different situations.

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I suggest getting a life instead of asking others for comebacks over piss all

And what's his baldness got to do with anything??

He wasn't being rude, he was interacting with you. Chill out OP.

I've heard people say this and have probably said it myself, as lighthearted banter. It's a way of making a friendly connection with someone.

Unless you think there was something else going on?

'Missed a bit' is a common joke really. Like if they saw someone mopping the floor , they don't see a flaw. But joke 'missed a Bit' . It just awkward communication. It's not that funny but can't be offended by it either. It's like saying 'how you doing' passing someone you don't want to know ifs just a polite greeting really

Christ Alive

Goodness, you are clearly very sensitive. Not sure I could find that upsetting in any context.

If you're not alone point at him amd laugh with the person you're with. Get them to turn round, stare at him and burst out laughing

That is literally what I used to do in infant school. Are you 5?

I am surprised at the number of posts on here that are effectively enabling a man to put a woman down in a public place.
He was sat with 2 other women, and clearly highlighted in a loud voice to them and any others around around that you were messy at that point.
If he had any good intentions, he would have walked over to mention it to you in a low voice.
Make no mistake, your instinct to retort back was right- will dissuade him from doing that in the future to another woman enjoying her meal in a restaurant.
It's always the subtle put-downs that shake confidence I have found.

Had you missed a bit?

What a horrible bullying suggestion. Pointing laughing staring, why would you suggest such a thing? It’s so dismaying that anyone thinks this is acceptable behaviour for someone telling uou you’d some food on your mouth. Or for any reason. Just horrible

I would've laughed and said thank you. And what's the relevance of his baldness?

Very odd

I would have seen it as a joke and laughed. I don't get 'Thank you Random Man' or the suggestion to walk past and snigger at him. We've all eaten something messy, it's a shared human experience that we can all relate to and laugh at.

That's not banter or normal (ie goodheated) social interaction. That's negging. It's common and it chips away at you. However, not much point in responding unless you can instantly come out with something like 'thanks for your unsolicited opinion, random man' which feels so rude it's really uncomfortable anyway. I don't suppose you have the ability to act well enough to make yourself burst into tears with noisy sobs on the spot, do you? That might work quite well.

I'd just laugh. I don't think he was being rude.