I’ve just been heckled on my run

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I never get any comments when running outside normally, but for the first time (in my relatively sleepy town) I heard a very witty teenager shout to me about my weight as I was on my route. I ignored them of course, and actually it spurred me on to do a longer run than I planned (trying to see the positives), but now I feel a bit low. Can you help me feel a bit better about it at all?

If I only warm up one body part before a run it's the middle finger

I only ever get comments when I use my route that goes past the pub, but then only good natured ones from people I know. Otherwise, I rarely see anyone else.

dh got heckled after parking his car and walking to our door. He was in business attire and 2 kids shouted oo, briefcase cunt at him.

we still howl at it. Such a rubbish nonsensical put down. Genius

My car was in the garage a couple of years ago so ran the 3 miles or so to my boyfriend's house. Some cunt heckled me, and because of an unfortunate symphony of misogyny that week I absolutely lost my shit, ran ever faster, caught up with the the car at the traffic light and ninja kicked his passenger door!!! It was extremel out of character! He looked terrified (I'm guessing I looked properly u going!) and sped off L. I spent the next week absolutely shitting myself that I would be arrested, but thankfully nothing came of it. I do hope he learned a lesson from that though. I most certainly dented the door so at least I hope it cost him some money. What he shouted was absolutely vile.

*extremely
*unhinged

And some other random typos.

In an unrelated matter she called me via the messenger app on fb to complain that my son had 'a go' at her. She had been teaching her daughter to ride her bike up and down the avenue but shouted at any other kids who attempted to play there in the meantime. My son who has add/adhd and isn't known for his diplomacy told her to stop bossing them around, that she doesn't own the street and she can't stop them playing there. When I went outside my son further explained that they(kids of other neighbours) had stayed off the road for over an hour so she could ride but now they wanted to play too. I told her that I agreed with ds but I would make sure he came to me in future if similar issues arrive. She decided this wasn't good enough, she was an adult and my son was way out of line and that he needed disciplining. Furthermore she felt that children learning to ride bikes should have priority on the avenue and would like me to keep ds inside when her dd was out. I just laughed at her and told her that we have 2 massive parks nearby where she could take her child. My other neighbour then got involved and told her she couldn't monopolise the street and did she think we were peasants who happened to live within the grounds of her stately home? She hasn't spoken to either of us since 😂

I've never been heckled, but I have never run alone, which probably deters any would-be hecklers cowards.

I'm glad you haven't let it put you off, OP!

I did something very similar. A car load of lads shouted abuse at me as I was putting shopping into the boot of the car. I had ds with me and he heard everything. Dh was already in the car so didn't hear it. Ds told dh that some nasty men shouted at mummy. Then he repeated the insult which.sounded horrific coming from a 5 year old. I was so upset. As we were leaving we happened to pass them as they were parking up. I screamed at dh to stop and I jumped out of the car and started kicking fuck out the shitty little souped up hairdryer they were in. I was absolutely unhinged and kept screaming that this fat cunt was fighting back. They stayed in the car while I ripped off the wing mirror and used it to pummel the car. I had suffered years and years of taunts, humiliation and even physical abuse for simply being fat. I was done. It was unfortunate for these 5 wankers that they were the ones to finally make me explode but that was their fault. One showed me his phone and that he had called the police and I decided to stay put. Just as the police arrived another shopper approached and told the police that he heard everything. He saw them shout abuse at other women too. The driver got out and said they were shouting in my direction but not at me to which I launched myself at him and was held back by the police officer. The driver said he wanted me arrested for the damage to which the police officer looked at me and told me to go home.

They stayed in the car while I ripped off the wing mirror and used it to pummel the car.

I thought this thread was about running!

I had a potato thrown at me from the top of a double decker bus. Was a size 8-10 at the time so it’s not what you look like, it’s just bullying behaviour, cowardly and aggressive Some people are just very aggressive towards anyone running( or indeed anyone they come across 🤷‍♀️Keep Running 🏃‍♀️

Definitely don't let it put you off, you did the right thing, using it as motivation! Keep going 💪

I absolutely hate the way society is going, strangers randomly talking to people like they're shit when it's usually the pond life who are talking down to the decent people. Or men (and rarely women) thinking we want to be whistled at/called a slut just because we're out taking care of ourselves when they don't have the confidence to even try!

Like Dory 🐠, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming (or running, running, running, in this case!)

I think the title makes it clear that it's about being verbally abused.
While running. 🗣🗣🗣🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🖕🖕🖕😂

I snapped. Certainly not my proudest moment but they picked on me while I was feeling weak physically as well as emotionally. The week before we found out that our baby had died and as it hadnt "passed" I was slowly being poisoned and was given medication that then caused me to haemhorrage more than anticipated so had been in the HDU till the day before. I was swollen all over and my face very puffy.I looked dreadful and that was my first venture outside in a long time. I often wonder if they dared to abuse any other females. I mean they shouldn't be picking on anyone at all but they really picked the wrong one that day. It's not liked I snapped at someone for asking me the time, they were being abusive pricks and it came back on them ten fold.

My grandma had a saying but can't quite remember it only the message.
Not everyone is having the same day as you basically. They shouldn't have bullied what they presumed to be a meek and scared lone female with her child. Arseholes.

Just think...He was only catcalling you because he couldn't keep up. 😂

Yes, verbally abused while running I thought it was.

@ShrimpIsTheFruitOfTheOcean - my worry would be that they might have physically attacked you in retaliation for attacking their car. It's probably safer to ignore, though people have only ever honked on the horn, when I've been running, and have been easier to ignore for me.

Sorry for laughing, as I'm sure it was awful....but your reaction had me laughing out loud at 330am!!

Bloody good for you!

I'm so sorry, I posted before I read this

I’m late 20s, pretty average weight, neither particularly attractive nor unattractive… just a normal, healthy-ish lady. An older man drove past me while on my run the other day and shouted “do you have any idea how slowly you’re going, you fat fuck? Embarrassing!”

I was pretty shaken by it to be honest. I told my best friend about it and her response really helped me. “What a sad, pathetic, venomous little man. It’s unfortunate that you had to suffer 15 seconds of him. But just imagine how awful it must be for him to have to spend every day with himself.”

One of the unexpected bonuses of living in of the Middle East is being able to run with absolutely no hassle from men. Through covid I was running 5-10km most days along the beach road and didn't get a single hoot or comment. I feel so much safer here than in the UK, and it's also much better mentally as I'm not running in a state of 'is this man/car a threat'?

This thread is a sorry read isn't it? Disgusting behaviour from men and young teenagers.

Absolutely 💯 %. I always hear that women/girls are each others worst enemy. Not once in my 43 year career as a female has another female shouted abuse at me from a vehicle. Not for any reason. However at least once a month (more in the summer) I have abuse shouted at me. Nowhere is safe either. I've had it from cars, vans, buses, a police car, men in the street, passers by in shopping centres and last week from a group of party goers on a narrowboat when I took the dog for a walk by the canal. Yes yes I'm fat but is a size 20 female in a midi dress and doc marten sandals really that much of an eyesore? 😬🤔👀

It's terrible behaviour.

No I agree with you. They could've retaliated violently but I think I terrified them. I terrified myself in truth. It was like my body and mind were taken over. I certainly didn't enjoy my spectacular meltdown and haven't behaved in that way since. In fact I'm very quiet and reserved. It takes a lot to make me go off but when I do I really frighten myself. I once exploded at my manager after months of being micromanaged. She would change my shifts with no notice and wouldn't let the staff swap shifts which was the norm before she was promoted. I finally snapped when I arrived to work on New Year's eve to be breezily told that I could go home as my shift had been changed from 6pm to-10pm to 8pm - 3am. My sister who lives in Vancouver was supposed to be dropping by my house at 11pm to see the new year in before heading to the airport at 5am. When I told my manager I couldn't do the shift swap she told me to suck it up. I blew my top and told her to stick her job up her arse. I walked out and she started to panic saying that there was no one else to cover. I told her she would have to get off her arse then. She was used to me not complaining and just getting on with it.