Do you think most people can become attractive with the right effort/money?

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Somewhat inspired by the threads on here and conversations with friends about how to look more polished / glamorous. Also because I've been feeling a bit rubbish about my appearance recently and I'm wondering if there's some hope out there!

Do you think most people can become physically attractive if they put effort and/or money in?

By attractive, I don't mean supermodel gorgeous but generally nice looking. Someone who doesn't necessarily turn heads but you'd think of as fairly pretty. I'm also thinking more about smaller changes like eating well, getting good haircuts and even small amounts of filler/botox, rather than completely changing your appearance with cosmetic surgery to the point you're barely recognisable.

That's OK because we're too busy living life, making a contribution and appreciating people for who they are/what they do

It’s possible to do all those things and look good too.

I used to have terrible posture, I put it down to growing big boobs at a young age. Yoga and Pilates have really helped with my posture.

Amber Heard is 'meh'?!

How do you know?

You're saying if you put effort in you will look good/ if you don't put effort in you won't look good?

I don't think that's true and I think it sets a precedent to think that people who don't look great are lazy - simply not the case.

Some people have other issues which means they struggle to look attractive in a mainstream sort of way even if they try.

Loads!

all the fake tan/filled lips/obvious Botox/fake brows/eyelashes etc. 80% look truly awful.

Exactly. Someone on another thread had a dig at me for not wearing much make-up on dates. I genuinely think I look better bare faced or with some simple liquid eyeliner and tinted lip balm than women who do all of that. I genuinely think too much make-up is repulsive. All of that contouring stuff....yuck...it was intended for stage and screen, not everyday life!

If we are dissing Amber Heard, could we keep things balanced by comparing Johnny Depp with Tom Cruise?
Cruise is 1 year and 1 month older. Not saying he hasn't had surgery, but he does take his health, body and fitness seriously and I still would 😉

I think it's more to do with finding what style suits you. Growing up, we see images of this haircut, people wearing this style of clothes and these colours when each of us has a particular shaped face that probably looks best with a certain hair cut, have a body shape that may be dissimilar to the models we were used to seeing and each of us is a "season" so a set of colours may be seen to more harmonise with your natural tones.

I don't think you necessarily need to spend a lot of money to look fabulous. I hate the phrase "best version of yourself" but really to be this there are small things that make a big difference.
Clean hair with a decent colour/style. Take care of your skin. Basic makeup, tidy eyebrows, bit of lip gloss, flick of mascara. Pair of simple but nice earrings. Wear a perfume that suits you, it makes you feel more glamorous. Find a style that you are comfortable with. Get fit. You don't have to be a gym bunny but just losing a little bit of weight or toning up can make you feel so much better. And if you are confident you will look 100x better.

There's a massive difference between putting in a great deal of effort make-up and enhancement-wise, and throwing money at skin care and quality attire.
The ghastly contouring and spider lashes with awful cheap tight clothes that some ' celebrities' sport, are the polar opposite of good looks.

I think what people are seeing are teeth/Botox/fillers done on the cheap. Anything of at least a semi permanent nature needs to really be researched. My sister recent told me that she would only get fillers and Botox from an actual plastic surgeon. Which would cost a lot more than a licences beautician. But if she was going to, that is what she would do. When I found out my son needed veneers we were very lucky to find a doctor who specialised in natural ones. He wouldn’t go to white either, he said these are for real people veneers, not modelling.

I finally had my eyebrows microbladed and I’m delighted. I was so scared before that I would look like an angry bird. But I sort of look more sleek.
Im the opposite of everyone on this thread though, I want to spend the least amount of time possible grooming so I’d rather pay someone twice a year. I’m not above looking for a robot to brush my hair. If I could stay one weight I would pay a stylist and get a capsule wardrobe done.

This is the most depressing thread I've read on here in a very long time.

The amount of comments saying that to be attractive women should lose weight is bloody tragic.

Attraction is about attitude, not just appearance. Yes, I'm clean and tidy, I always have my nails done, only generally wear mascara apart from events/nights out, and I'm overweight. But I have never had problems attracting men. Not once.

If women don't find me attractive because I'm bigger than the size they've been socially conditioned to believe is "pretty" then who cares? I'm awesome, and it's THAT that makes me attractive. Not my waist size. That's why I'm popular, and why my partner thinks I'm the most beautiful woman on earth.

How sad that so many women here are so shallow and so constrained by the belief that slim = attractive, a d more sad that they pedal that crap to other women...

I think a lot of attraction comes from having charisma, you can see an actor in something and not really notice them and the same actor plays a different role and you suddenly you find yourself googling their marital status on the internet lol

I think you're right. Like Viggo Mortenson in lord of the rings. He's so attractive in that role. Other roles? Meh.

The way someone "wears" their face and their body. I've met people who look good in photos but aren't as attractive in real life because they gurn or pull their faces in a funny way or have terrible posture

How does one overcome gurning without being self-conscious of ones face all the time? Asking for a friend.

Most people can go up a notch or two with the right haircut ,clothing and a bit of make up. It makes people feel more confident which shows in your posture and demeanour. This makes you more attractive to others .

Loads!!!
but it’s subjective isn’t it
I don’t think excessive lip fillers and Botox, tons of makeup etc look good
but other people like that and they are without doubt putting in lots of effort!

i know some people who wear clean tidy clothes, smell and look lovely and clean and look fresh faced and happy - I think they look lovely and pretty and they aren’t necessarily making tons of effort.

i really think you can see and feel if someone is happy and healthy or not in their skin, their eyes, their hair, their teeth, how they hold themselves and I think that makes a huge difference, it’s just not open to everyone unfortunately.
you can also put in effort into the right things and look good then too. I think good hair and a touch of makeup, tidy clothes, nice perfume, clean teeth and clear skin are a great place to start.

Just speaking from my own experience I've trained myself not to frown or wrinkle my brows unless I want to make those expressions - I became conscious that I was doing them without intending to, so I just noted whenever I was and would stop. Then over time I stopped defaulting to those facial expressions (for me it was about preventing wrinkles!).

Similarly I used to clench my jaw a lot but have learnt to stop doing that.

So it's just a case of identifying whether there are facial expressions you pull that you're not happy with and then taking note of when you pull them and then consciously training yourself not to. Over time you stop pulling them altogether. It's simple but not necessarily effortless!

Yes. Few people are actively ugly. Losing weight, wearing clothes that suit you, and having a decent haircut and well looked after teeth/skin can all be done with time, inclination, but most importantly, money.

Most people look more than fine with a bit of TLC.

How many people do you know who put it lots of effort into their appearance only to look dreadful

some people do if they wear dreadful clothes and too much make-up

Tastes change over time. I recall a childhood friend who was very unhappy about the size of her bum, a shape which would now be celebrated by many I'd expect.

you could always ask Roald Dahl