Do you think most people can become attractive with the right effort/money?

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Somewhat inspired by the threads on here and conversations with friends about how to look more polished / glamorous. Also because I've been feeling a bit rubbish about my appearance recently and I'm wondering if there's some hope out there!

Do you think most people can become physically attractive if they put effort and/or money in?

By attractive, I don't mean supermodel gorgeous but generally nice looking. Someone who doesn't necessarily turn heads but you'd think of as fairly pretty. I'm also thinking more about smaller changes like eating well, getting good haircuts and even small amounts of filler/botox, rather than completely changing your appearance with cosmetic surgery to the point you're barely recognisable.

It’s personality. It shows through. Very little to do with how you actually look.

Look at Maggie Smith and Amber heard. They’re personalities show. Maggie Smith comes across as absolutely beautiful and Amber Heard is just ‘meh’.

Hair, eyebrows and diet can make a huge difference. I don't mean diet just for weight loss (there's no denying that people of a healthy weight find it easier to look good in most clothes) but not drinking too much, eating too much sugar and processed food. Eating well can make a difference to your complexion, the state of your skin and your mood which will come through in your demeanour.
The people I know who have regular facials do look good.

Sleep is also important. As well as looking well rested with brighter eyes, good sleep helps with all the cell repair that needs to go on. Apparently fasting is good for that too.

Yes to a certain degree. You have to want to put the effort in though.

Yes definitely. And as some has said everybody is attractive to someone.

I society has groomed us to think that done/glamourous = attractive so people who look that way are automatically assumed to be attractive, even when they're not really anything different to the majority.

I do think most people are attractive when they're relaxed, kind, happy. Those things really come through in your appearance, even if you wouldn't be traditionally eye-catching.

Anyone can look better by exercising, eating well, not smoking, using sunblock, getting plenty of sleep, dressing well, looking after their hair and skin, standing up straight, smiling and being confident. Fillers, Botox, nails and eyebrows are a matter of taste but if you like them you can achieve a certain look. Teeth can be straightened and whitened also according to taste.

I don't think any of these things can make a plain person look beautiful, or deceive the eye on closer inspection. But at the end of the day we are animals and the way we look is part of how we communicate with each other about our health, well being, prosperity, reproductive capacity, and social status. You can definitely choose to look like a lively, glossy healthy animal rather than a sluggish and run down one.

Yes definitely. Looking very groomed and wealthy makes people instantly more attractive. If you have beautifully cut glossy hair, well-cared for skin, great brows and nails, your body is fit and toned and well dressed and you smell fantastic, people will rate you as very attractive.

If you have a small budget the biggest difference is weight loss and weight-training/HIIT to improve tone and posture. Then good hair, nails and simple clothes.

Absolutely. The difference in my face with and without makeup is stark. I look at women my age who don’t do their face, wear the epitome of old lady clothes and have the ubiquitous pixie cut and just wish I could just sort them out.

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Gross. Presumably you also look at men without makeup and wish you could ‘sort them out?’ Or is their face already done and acceptable naturally? Just worry about how you look instead of other people.

I look at men and wish I could sort their appearance out quite often.

If they don’t ‘have their face done?’ You look at men without makeup and think they need ‘sorting out?’

Sometimes.

I think someone can become more presentable and look nice, but not become more attractive

How odd of you. Maybe just spend more time focusing on how you look and don’t worry about women (and apparently men although you didn’t mention them at all and specifically said women) who don’t want to wear makeup.

Hmmm if I look at the random sample of people at the supermarket today then you can really see that people who smoke and drink too much really look less attractive than the ones buying lots of fruit and vegetables and healthy foods. I don't think that everyone needs makeup, but a good skincare routine can make the skin glow, which I find an attractive look for all ages. Good posture and a good haircut also help.

Me too. I'm OLD at the moment and most men above the age of 45 look like they need a jet wash (I mean the ones on OLD sites anyway).

Too answer your question OP, I think people can look more healthy if they put the effort in. Exercise, including weights and / or Pilates /Yoga for toning, and a healthy diet go a long way to give a glow. In addition to that then a bit of make up, so tinted moisturiser and bronzer plus lip gloss. I get my brows tinted and shaped and LVL lashes done, so I can get out with minimum effort in the morning. I also buy clothes in mostly neutrals for work, so I can grab things and they match. Not drinking (or only drinking occasionally) and defo no smoking really make a difference after you hit 40 too. I think I look ok but there is a bit of effort involved. Not sure I'd say I look younger than 43 but I'd say I look healthy for 43.

@pixie5121 I had Botox a couple of weeks ago for my "11s". I can tell a difference. I don't know if people have noticed and been too polite to say "oh have you had Botox" but no one has said anything other than a couple of comments from people saying I look refreshed and have I been on holiday etc. Its £150 every 3 months to start with but if you keep it up you have to have it less often. Personally I don't see it as any different from covering my greys.

That's OK because we're too busy living life, making a contribution and appreciating people for who they are/what they do to care what you think

I agree with this, you can see what people have in their trolley and how they look reflected in that. Not 100% but quite often the schlumpy looking people will have a trolley full of processed beige food.
Obviously not true of everyone, all the time!

With regard to the original question, you could take a million and spend it on my SIL, she would still be a bitter twisted viper and it shows in her face, so in answer to the question most but not all.

@pixie5121

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Not me.
You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.
I've come to terms with being an uggo. 😁

You’re almost certainly not ugly. I can honestly say hand on heart I’ve rarely seen someone really ugly. Most people do look pleasant, especially if they’re clean and fresh and look calm/happy.

And most normal people don’t walk around wishing they could ‘sort out’ women who don’t wear makeup or thinking people are ‘schlumpy’ then judging the contents of their shopping trolley. People like that are ugly in a way no amount of money will ever be able to fix.

Agree with good posture making people look nicer though but I don’t think I’ll ever have it. I’m not sure how people actually remember to have good posture. I remind myself but I can only do it while I’m making an actual effort, then I revert to slouching.

No need to give @Blossomtoes such a hard time. I know what she means. If I wear no make up and neglect my hair I look tired, grumpy, frumpy and ancient. In 5 mins I can make a big improvement just with mascara, lipgloss and a bit of hair product. In 20 minutes I can look 5-10 years younger and reasonably attractive for my age. I know from having let myself go in the past that people do react differently to you if you scrub up a bit. And why look more exhausted and sour than you feel inside when 5 minutes effort makes you look as well as you feel?