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Saying thanks?

37 replies

familyissues12345 · 07/06/2022 08:31

Hi

If you fed someone's pet, on a daily basis, for a week, what would your expectation be when it ends? A pop round to say thank you? Payment? A box of chocs?

Twice a day, 15 mins each time, neighbour so not too far?

Didn't see neighbour the whole time?

Thanks!

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missymarrk · 07/06/2022 08:36

I'd probably give some chocolates/wine and make sure they knew I was grateful! X

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 07/06/2022 08:38

Who?
An adult... wine or chocolate.

A teenager... gift voucher for anazon/gaming/shopping centre

PurpleDaisies · 07/06/2022 08:38

Thanks and a bottle of wine.

VenusClapTrap · 07/06/2022 08:38

I charge £12 a day, but I do it professionally. If I was doing it for a friend I’d be happy with a thank you and a promise to return the favour.

Circumferences · 07/06/2022 08:39

Did they ask you to feed their pet?

InTheNightWeWillWish · 07/06/2022 08:42

When we’ve gone on our holiday and someone has fed the cat, it’s picking up a box of goodies from wherever we’ve been to say thanks. However, when our neighbour fed our dogs while I was in hospital having DD then we paid and bought her a bottle of wine.

PuppyMonkey · 07/06/2022 08:43

So come on, tell us what happened then, we’re sort of guessing you didn’t get a box of chocs and/or wine?Grin

Vallmo47 · 07/06/2022 08:45

This has happened to me a few times- first time around kids received a card and £5 each to say thank you. The second and third time they didn’t even acknowledge us. I was a fool to do it the third time to be honest because it did annoy me. Manners cost nothing.

Quirkycarrot · 07/06/2022 08:45

At the least a thanks. Box of chocs or similar would make me more likely to want to do them a favour again (unless I knew they were struggling). Not payment unless agreed beforehand.

Flatandhappy · 07/06/2022 08:48

Wine/chocolates/flowers depending on their preferences. A bit of cash if kids and of course an in person thank you.

Shinyandnew1 · 07/06/2022 08:48

Depends on who it was-either wine or money.

Didn't see neighbour the whole time?

?? But, why would you expect to see them?! Surely they could feed the pet if they were there?!

bigbluebus · 07/06/2022 08:54

I do this for a local friend from time to time - sometimes just for a weekend, other times for a week. They usually text when they get home to say thanks and we go out for a meal together every now and again and they pay for my meal.

Original poster
familyissues12345 · 07/06/2022 08:56

Shinyandnew1 · 07/06/2022 08:48

Depends on who it was-either wine or money.

Didn't see neighbour the whole time?

?? But, why would you expect to see them?! Surely they could feed the pet if they were there?!

My point of saying that was there was no opportunity for the neighbour to say thanks whilst there, if that makes sense. Neighbour hasn't been seen since they got back.

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PurpleDaisies · 07/06/2022 08:57

Did they leave a note saying thanks?

Original poster
familyissues12345 · 07/06/2022 08:58

It's DS (teenager), he fed neighbours pets for 8 days and currently no word of thanks from them. I'm upset about it (he's said nothing!), and wondered if I was unreasonable about that. It's likely to be asked again, so feel like it should be a no next time

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TheDoveFromAboveCooCoo · 07/06/2022 08:59

I've asked my neighbour to do this in October but only for 3 days. I was planning on a thank you card, bottle of wine and nice chocolates.

ScottishBeeswax · 07/06/2022 09:01

When I have a neighbour feed our cats for few days I always pop round day or 2 after we come home with bottle of wine to say thank you.
But if they didn't drink then I'd do chocs or posh biscuits.

if it's a teenager I'd give them money

ScottishBeeswax · 07/06/2022 09:04

@familyissues12345
If it's a teenage neighbour I would treat it as offering them a job for the week and I would have stated in advance I would pay them!

SlatsandFlaps · 07/06/2022 09:10

VenusClapTrap · 07/06/2022 08:38

I charge £12 a day, but I do it professionally. If I was doing it for a friend I’d be happy with a thank you and a promise to return the favour.

TWELVE BRITISH POUNDS per DAY?!?!?! Where do you live, Westminster?!?!?!

Playplayaway · 07/06/2022 09:44

He deserves something. It's a big responsibility caring for a pet and factoring in the time to visit daily. Presumably he had to hold a key and be responsible for that too.

For a week I'd probably give him £25/ £30 and a big thanks!

bigbluebus · 07/06/2022 13:38

For a teenager I would expect payment. I paid my ndn teenager to water our baskets and pots last year. I agreed to pay her even if it rained and they didn't need to be done every day. Got paid when we returned and I was sure the plants weren't dead!

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familyissues12345 · 07/06/2022 15:09

Circumferences · 07/06/2022 08:39

Did they ask you to feed their pet?

Sorry I missed this question, yes they arranged it.

DS probably isn't bothered, and enjoyed doing it so wouldn't expect anything, I'm just a bit taken aback by not even popping round to say thanks. I just want to be sure I'm not being unreasonable feeling like that, as I'm questioning whether it should happen again. DS did them a huge favour, left too late to book professionals and no one else who could do it, I'm just a bit surprised and feeling a bit sad about it

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Original poster
familyissues12345 · 07/06/2022 15:10

PuppyMonkey · 07/06/2022 08:43

So come on, tell us what happened then, we’re sort of guessing you didn’t get a box of chocs and/or wine?Grin

Nothing at all, but more importantly not even a word of thanks to DS Confused

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familyissues12345 · 07/06/2022 15:12

PurpleDaisies · 07/06/2022 08:57

Did they leave a note saying thanks?

There was instructions left, and on that said "thanks for feeding etc", but I was maybe expecting an actual thank you at the end?

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PurpleDaisies · 07/06/2022 15:30

I would take a note with a thank you on it as having been thanked. It would have been better if they’d got him a little something too but I with that added information, I’m not sure you’re right to say he hasn’t been thanked for doing it.