Don't know where to turn

[freshpatchouli]

Please help me. I've got nowhere to turn to and don't know what to do. I'm stuck in hell. There aren't any answers. Abusive relationship ended. Don't have one single person I can turn to.

Hello. I am not sure I can help but I am listening. What has happened? Have you managed to get somewhere safe?

Thank you.
I'm at home. He's not here.
I can't believe things have ended up like this.

It ended about 6 weeks ago. Thanks

You still live with in the same house?

If he is abusive, you need to leave. Can you call Women's Aid while he is out?

It's good that it is over. That is the first step of your escape. It must be a huge shock but it sounds like you know this needed to happen. You cannot live with an abuser. You need support in real life. There are charities and organisations who can help you.

I don't have one person in the world and that's hard to deal with. Very painful. My family are dysfunctional, very cold and not interested.

It sounds really hard. For what it's worth, right now I think you need to focus on yourself. What do you need? It sounds like you either need him to move elsewhere or you need to. Who owns/ rents where you live now? You cannot stay there if he is abusive, if he is there as well. Women's Aid may be able to help you and get legal measures in place to enforce him leaving, or help you leave yourself. Do you have children? You sound so low, it is worrying. Have you spoken to the Samaritans or anybody? It would be good to speak to someone with professional training and the resources to help you.

He's left already
I have spoken to Samaritans but I can't keep phoning them every day. There's no way out of this
Thank you for replying

So he won't come back and you are safe now?

If so this is a very good thing. This is the start of you being able to recover and get back to you and have self-worth again. Just the safety part has to be certain first, that he really won't come back and harrass you.

I’m so sorry but you are so strong for escaping. I hope you are safe. Please call women’s aid for advice on next steps and definitely some counselling as you have been through something hugely traumatic. There is a way out, it just doesn’t seem it right now x

There is always a way out. It must feel so totally overwhelming at the moment. But this is the end of something bad and the start of a new and better life. You will find a way through and people will help you. I can't recommend Women's Aid enough.

You can email them or chat to someone online. www.womensaid.org.uk

I was just going to suggest womensaid, so second that. Re. Samaritans of course you can call every day!

Is he likely to return?

If he has gone and your are safe @freshpatchouli why do you feel you have no way out of the situation? Can you tell us why it's so bad now he's left, to help us suggest ways you could move forward?

I'm alone

You can call the Samaritans as often as you need.

What do you need to do today/tomorrow? Can you make a short list or plan?

I think a positive thing would be to get counselling to help you deal with the last few years of hell you have had. You'll be able to move on better from it all. Echo previous poster that said you can call the Samaritans as often as you like they won't mind at all.

The last few years have left you feeling alone and knocked your confidence op, the only way is up xxx

Hope you’re okay OP
Do call the Samaritans or WomensAid, and maybe contact your GP in the morning

@freshpatchouli aww hun I'm so sorry to hear this. What help would you like?

Speak to womens aid please - their support is fantastic and sounds like what you need.

What do you need right now?

Please do as people are suggesting and call women's aid. Sending hugs. xx

I need company. Someone to come and stop this in my head