Don't know where to turn

[freshpatchouli]

Please help me. I've got nowhere to turn to and don't know what to do. I'm stuck in hell. There aren't any answers. Abusive relationship ended. Don't have one single person I can turn to.

What is in your head, OP? Nobody can stop your thoughts. But we can be here to support you through them. You are not alone. People want to help you through this. I understand why you feel alone but even this thread shows that you aren't. You do not have to be. What you do need is to be free of the abusive man and it sounds like you are now so well done to you - you have done the hardest part already IMO.

When a relationship ends it can feel so isolating and frightening especially when there has been abuse and your self esteem has been trashed.

There are people here like me who can just listen, if you want to talk to us? Although I do need sleep so won't be back for a while! But others are here now.

As I suggested upthread Women's Aid could help you. If you don't feel up to calling you can email or do an online chat?

What do you need? You have people to talk to here that will support you. Or do you need counselling? Or more practical help? People here - many of whom have been through similar - can help you to find it.

Hang in there, you can do this even if you don't think so right now. It's always darkest before dawn.

What are the thoughts going through your head?

This might sound silly and simplistic but when I've been in a bad place what has helped me a lot is a simple routine, getting dressed, breakfast, a walk outside, lunch and dinner at regular times. It's one foot in front of the other until things look up

Things will get better. Even if it doesn't feel like it yet.

Still here. Thanks for all the replies

You can call helplines every day until you feel better, they won't mind, that is what they are there for.
Perhaps you could speak to your GP as well?
Do you have church groups nearby, I am sure they would welcome someone new.
You can be alone and be fine with being alone if you choose to be. You can and will come through this, everything passes eventually

Thank you. I will try the church. I don't feel
Like this will ever pass. I can't change my dysfunctional uncaring family and horrible 'husband'

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
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MNHQ

You are processing what has happened, the lead up to him leaving, how that was, what you’re going to do next. It’s a lot to process and talking is the way through it. Talk here, call the Samaritans as often as you need, they are there for you.
I left an abusive marriage but had a small window in the day to “ escape” I’d managed to rent a flat 200 miles away, been for an j get Jew and got a job — I was running on adrenaline. Of course I crashed and felt just like you do.

It will pass, not straight away and it goes away in waves. You’ve been incredibly brave to come through this and you will have a better life.

Try writing down what has happened, anything and everything, just get it out. And stay strong, you’re doing better than you think you are.

Went for an interview —- sorry fat finger typing.

Signing in as another caring, listening ear.

You have been, and are being, so very strong, and very brave.

I think the Church group is a brilliant idea, and also, another one, might sound silly, but in our neighbourhood we have groups of litter pickers, and they seem lovely souls. Could be a nice way to get out and about, outside of your head, and have company, if there's something similar near you?

Please make sure you are eating, and drinking lots of water (fuss, fuss!). I know it's hard, but you need to look after you physically, to help you get better, mentally.

Aroha nui (much love), Kia Kaha (keep strong).