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OW friends requesting me on SM

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 18:32

I was with my ex for a short period around 7-9 months. Found out he was seeing someone else at the same time. We argued and I was done.

Its been 3 months and this girls friends have been requesting me non stop on SM for the past week.

Part of me what’s to message to him to ask them to stop? Is that reasonable or should I continue to ignore?

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SedentaryCat · 02/06/2022 09:11

I went through a similar situation with an OW, who went through a lengthy stalking campaign. I changed my name on FB, used nicknames on Instagram, and Twitter, and went through a lengthy blocking process on LinkedIn.

I made it almost impossible for her to find me. Very occasionally, 5 years on, I get something through LinkedIn, which I suspect is an attempt to find out what is going on in my life.

She somehow managed to find out my debit card details and ordered thousands of pounds worth of kit from Apple US - suspect she hacked into our servers at work (she's very tech savvy).

Sorry to say that you may be in for the long haul @Paigeworkerx keep plugging away. Block, block, block. They will hopefully soon lose interest.

User0610134049 · 02/06/2022 09:15

Just ignore it, I hardly even notice or see people who have friend requested me. They might just be doing a blanket ‘people you may know’ friend request thing to grow their business pages so would be pretty embarrassing if you messaged asking for them to stop harassing you thinking it was to do with your relationship 😂

balalake · 02/06/2022 09:18

Block.

Justkeepon · 02/06/2022 09:26

When you block someone on Instagram it also blocks any new accounts that person makes - so either these women are going to the lenghts of setting up new emails addresses everytime they add you again OR the OW has endless amounts of friends willing to add you for some weird reason.

Honestly I think you may just be paranoid as often if you accept a person on Instagram say for example who sold weight loss products then a flood of new requests come in from people also the same shite will also come in, it's happened to me.

I just can't imagine someone having so many friends, all nurses with lip fillers, and being able to get them all to add you over and over again. Doesn't make sense.

TabithaTittlemouse · 02/06/2022 11:19

Pinkflamingo87 · 01/06/2022 20:04

If they are harassing you then I would be clear that if they do not stop you will report them to the police and employer.
The NHS trust will have a clear policy on employees and social media use. If the trust decide to investigate and deemed they had harassed you, therefore brought the trust and profession into disrepute they could face disciplinary action, suspension or dismissal (depending on there previous employment record). If this was the outcome they would also be seen to be in breech of the NMC code of conduct and dependant on the action taken the trust may refer them to the NMC fitness to practice panel.

But sending follow requests would not be considered harassment.

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Paigeworkerx · 02/06/2022 13:15

100% then requesting me. I’d screenshot but it’d be pretty outing.

I wouldn’t be a suggested friend as they all live 2 hours away and we have no mutual friends.

I’m also very hard to find as I go back my nickname that doesn’t resemble my name.

I know there friends of the other women as she comments and likes all the posts. He met her Alder hey when they worked together and 4 of the accounts actually say that and the others a mix of BA nurse or paediatric nurse.

I did message one yesterday and she left me on read but has now removed her request. So hopefully that is the last of it. Yesterday I did have several miss calls from an unknown number but that could be a coincidence.

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Paigeworkerx · 02/06/2022 13:16

Justkeepon · 02/06/2022 09:26

When you block someone on Instagram it also blocks any new accounts that person makes - so either these women are going to the lenghts of setting up new emails addresses everytime they add you again OR the OW has endless amounts of friends willing to add you for some weird reason.

Honestly I think you may just be paranoid as often if you accept a person on Instagram say for example who sold weight loss products then a flood of new requests come in from people also the same shite will also come in, it's happened to me.

I just can't imagine someone having so many friends, all nurses with lip fillers, and being able to get them all to add you over and over again. Doesn't make sense.

They’re all lip filler etc pages. Non of which I accept. I also don’t follow any accounts based on Liverpool and the surrounding areas as I’m not from there.

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RedToothBrush · 02/06/2022 15:55

Why are you even bothered by a request? Just ignore it.

You are making a thread about unnecessary drama.

youdroppedthis · 02/06/2022 16:30

Just leave the requests there hanging. They'll feel stupid after a while.

youdroppedthis · 02/06/2022 16:33

Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:01

How?

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Well you could change your settings to only accept requests from friends of friends, or from nobody. That would stop it.

You can also block unknown numbers from ringing through to your phone. I know iPhone can do this.

So if it's just calls and requests then technically it's true, you could stop it instantly.

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