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OW friends requesting me on SM

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 18:32

I was with my ex for a short period around 7-9 months. Found out he was seeing someone else at the same time. We argued and I was done.

Its been 3 months and this girls friends have been requesting me non stop on SM for the past week.

Part of me what’s to message to him to ask them to stop? Is that reasonable or should I continue to ignore?

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:10

girlmom21 · 01/06/2022 19:08

They're all paediatric nurses with business pages?
Assuming they do nails or personalised clothing or whatever as a sideline, are you sure they're not just trying to drum up followers?

How do you know they're all her friends if it's business pages?

All lip fillers etc.

We live 2 hours away from each other so it’s not a coincidence their adding me as the only link is her. All her friends as I can see her commenting on the posts.

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TabithaTittlemouse · 01/06/2022 19:11

Unless they have that they are nurses or where they work on their bio their trust probably won’t be interested.
what are they sending you?

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:11

worraliberty · 01/06/2022 19:03

It's not hard at all and this is all very childish, honestly.

Yes it is. But not on my part.

I don’t understand why months down the line they’re now repeatedly added me. I’m blocking them and then another one adds me.

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newnamethanks · 01/06/2022 19:12

If you don't like it, stop it.

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:13

TabithaTittlemouse · 01/06/2022 19:11

Unless they have that they are nurses or where they work on their bio their trust probably won’t be interested.
what are they sending you?

That’s why I thought.

There just repeatedly adding me via different business pages. It’s annoying more than anything. I ignored them initially and they’d resend it. Blocked them and another one then added me. The whole thing is very childish and odd.

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:13

newnamethanks · 01/06/2022 19:12

If you don't like it, stop it.

I’m blocking them but others re add me?

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YukoandHiro · 01/06/2022 19:14

Just come off social media for a couple of months or if you need it for work only use it in that professional capacity

MichelleScarn · 01/06/2022 19:14

Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:10

All lip fillers etc.

We live 2 hours away from each other so it’s not a coincidence their adding me as the only link is her. All her friends as I can see her commenting on the posts.

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How many individuals are there? All paeds nurse with a side line in lip fillers.....

worraliberty · 01/06/2022 19:17

Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:11

Yes it is. But not on my part.

I don’t understand why months down the line they’re now repeatedly added me. I’m blocking them and then another one adds me.

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It's childish on your part too.

They're not banging your front door down, just sending requests.

Unless you enjoy drama, ignore the requests.

girlmom21 · 01/06/2022 19:18

How many friends does this girl have?

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:21

MichelleScarn · 01/06/2022 19:14

How many individuals are there? All paeds nurse with a side line in lip fillers.....

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Quite a few by the looks of it…..

4 of them also include Alder Hey in their bios

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:22

worraliberty · 01/06/2022 19:17

It's childish on your part too.

They're not banging your front door down, just sending requests.

Unless you enjoy drama, ignore the requests.

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Why is it childish on my part?

Im blocking them and ask other peoples opinions on whether they’d tell the Ex?

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worraliberty · 01/06/2022 19:22

Nurses have a Code of Conduct. They're not allowed to harass people. The Trust won't do shit, but threatening them with it might be enough to spook them into stopping.

They're sending friend requests that can easily be ignored.

That's not harassment, although it could be mildly annoying.

PurpleButterflyWings · 01/06/2022 19:24

Definitely block. It's very likely they're trying to add you for nefarious purposes.

worraliberty · 01/06/2022 19:25

Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 19:22

Why is it childish on my part?

Im blocking them and ask other peoples opinions on whether they’d tell the Ex?

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Even to consider telling your ex who you were only with for a few months, is just childish.

Being bothered enough about a few friend requests to start this thread in the first place, is childish.

They want your attention. Don't give it to them.

Ewi · 01/06/2022 19:26

Continue to block and change your friend request settings, anything else like getting back in contact with ex is likely to just fuel whatever drama is going on.

Stomacharmeleon · 01/06/2022 19:40

Just ignore, ignore, ignore
Don't message the ex
Block where necessary....

Onwards22 · 01/06/2022 19:57

My account is on private.

Sounds like they’re looking for evidence to see if you’re still together.

He’s probably got another OW on the go.

If someone sends me a request that I don’t know I just send them a message asking if I know them.

Why not do that and see if they reply?

Pinkflamingo87 · 01/06/2022 20:04

If they are harassing you then I would be clear that if they do not stop you will report them to the police and employer.
The NHS trust will have a clear policy on employees and social media use. If the trust decide to investigate and deemed they had harassed you, therefore brought the trust and profession into disrepute they could face disciplinary action, suspension or dismissal (depending on there previous employment record). If this was the outcome they would also be seen to be in breech of the NMC code of conduct and dependant on the action taken the trust may refer them to the NMC fitness to practice panel.

YouCantSpellAmericaWithoutErica · 01/06/2022 20:13

You can either ask them why they’re contacting you and see what they say. I assume he’s cheating on her, like someone else said upthread and they want to know if it’s with you.

Or block them every time until they get bored.

Don't contact your ex about it and tell tales. What’s he even meant to do about it? Ground them? Stop their pocket money?

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 21:43

YouCantSpellAmericaWithoutErica · 01/06/2022 20:13

You can either ask them why they’re contacting you and see what they say. I assume he’s cheating on her, like someone else said upthread and they want to know if it’s with you.

Or block them every time until they get bored.

Don't contact your ex about it and tell tales. What’s he even meant to do about it? Ground them? Stop their pocket money?

I’ve messaged the latest one and she’s read it and not replied.

I hoping contacting him would get it to stop. He values he’s reputation over anything. I won’t contact him and keep log if continues.

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BadNomad · 01/06/2022 21:49

Are they definitely friend requests and not just suggestions showing up in the "people you may know" section?

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Paigeworkerx · 01/06/2022 22:18

BadNomad · 01/06/2022 21:49

Are they definitely friend requests and not just suggestions showing up in the "people you may know" section?

Its Instagram requests

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BadNomad · 01/06/2022 22:35

Oh! Sorry. I'm so old I forget SM doesn't always mean Facebook.

girlmom21 · 02/06/2022 08:57

Point still stands - you get suggested accounts on Instagram. Is it definitely requests?