Neighbour let herself in, would you say something?

[Zippidy123]

I have a lovely elderly neighbour. I've been giving her lots of lifts over the last month to various medical appointments.

I'm full of cold today and have stayed in bed watching TV. I just heard a knock at the door, decided to ignore it as I'm not expecting visitors and none of my friends would turn up unannounced. 2 minutes later I hear 'hello!" Being called up the bloody stairs! When I didn't answer she tried the door and let herself in!

Now the moral of the story is to always lock the door after you've let the cat out but would you say something or let it go? She's lovely but I do find her a bit much sometimes. She clocks when I'm in work, will comment on my comings and goings, she also likes to tell me when I look tired or pale or like I've lost weight (I don't ever loose weight!). I'm not sure how to put the boundaries back without upsetting her which I'd hate to do.

I wouldn't say anything as she is probably of the generation that did pop out and in to each other's houses like that and she had wanted you to have the bunch of flowers while they were still fresh. I would also make sure my door was locked from now on.

Your mum doesn't speak for all 80 year olds, no one said it's something they all do but it's something that could be more common amongst those who grew up in different times.

No, the Yale lock (automatically locking) is the most common type in the UK. They are very common and normal. That’s what I have, and everyone else I know has.

I'm currently walking the dog and doing a quick reccy. So far a total of 2 out of about 100 have an automatically locking door.

The high security locks are barrel locks so almost everyone has those, where you lift the handle and turn the key to lock the door.

No she doesn't @IcedOatLatte but she grew up in a working class home where her auntie lived two doors down and there was a lot of popping in and out.

Suggesting that most elderly people are mentally stuck in the 1950s is a tad insulting

We're clearly reading different threads or I've missed the posts that suggest anyone is stuck in the 1950s, that 's not my interpretation at all. What's wrong with posters saying that maybe the neighbour has always popped into houses and so doesn't see anything wrong with it?

You seem to be taking offence where none is intended.

@SundayTeatime I live in a new build with a very expensive, composite front door......that requires a key to lock it

Yale locks that lock when closed are very outdated and dangerous. Children have managed to lock themselves out, that's why they're no longer standard

Every single house on our development and the other 18 developments in our town, all have 'lift & turn key' style locks on the doors

I really don't understand why people leave doors unlocked, then complain when people come in!

I'm not remotely offended. I just don't think this is something that old people do

I really don't understand why people leave doors unlocked, then complain when people come in!

Toddlerteaplease what the hell?! I've read some weird replies on this site in my time, this one is up there with them! Just because a door is unlocked doesn't mean someone has the right to just walk into a private property! Would you do that? No, I'm sure you wouldn't because it's completely unacceptable!

@Zippidy123 Tbf toddler does have a point - where I’m thinking of living, the front doors open straight onto the pavement. In the center of town. The amount of people complaining of strangers walking into their houses, kids opening the doors and letting pets etc out into the road and of opportunistic thieves is alarming. All due to not locking their front doors and carrying a key.
Yes pele should be able to leave their doors unlocked, but in this day and age?

People not pele - sorry.

I think @YellowLemonshade has it. You made me jump a bit earlier, drop me a text/give me 3 rings next time so I can shove all the mess in a cupboard first!

Or imply that she might catch you and your DP up to no good if you have a DP.