Unexpected and joyful things that happened after you were 34

[Whatsgoingonhere76]

My life feels a bit up in the air at the moment. I had a very short marriage in my late twenties - left him due to EA. He bought me out of our house. I have recently left my job as I was burnt out and I had enough savings to take 2-3 months off (lots of available jobs in my sector and I have great references and contacts)

So I'm 34. I have 25k in savings. Live in a shared house with no job, no relationship and no plan.

I'm really proud that I got myself out of an awful situation, and I have my health and great friends, do lots of volunteering, exercise etc but I feel like I have failed at life.

Any positive stories of things falling into place after 34 would be appreciated!

Children.

Oops sorry that posted too quickly!
Children - because I met my husband at 35 and had the kids I was told I would never be able to have.
Anything could happen in your future so stick around with a positive heart to see it happen.

At 34 I wasn't doing too badly but I was single and lacked direction. By 40 I had a baby, a stable relationship and my career was just about to take off. Hang on in there OP.

At 34 I was single, living alone, working in an unfulfilling job in an area adjacent to my dream career but seemed to be no way to make the jump.
Then I

• met a guy


• moved cities to be with him


• found a job there in my dream career which led to me getting my (current) dream job at 38


• got married


• bought a house


• had a baby age 42

so 34 is plenty of time to do anything you want to do!
34 yo me would not recognise 42 yo me.

I will say that I wasted time waiting for something to happen to me instead of going out and making it happen, I was lucky that meeting my husband gave me the kick I needed to change things up and take a leap of faith.
leaving your job may be the kick you need, best of luck!

Thank you so much for all of these.
I'm feeling a bit low at the moment and they are such a powerful reminder that there will be good things ahead and that life can change.

Had two children, watched them grow up, go to uni etc!
Changed career - I love my 'new' career so much (Been doing it 25 years now)
Had a book published
Visited some amazing countries
Moved to a big house in a village from a small terrace in a city
Achieved quite a lot of bucket list things

I'm 31, two failed long term relationships, and a lone parent. Whilst on benefits. You're giving me hope!

34 I can't honestly remember. Had kids late 30s, then at 40 I made a whole bunch of new friends who are now my tribe, I went back to uni, retrained, got my perfect job... You have so many opportunities ahead of you. Go and enjoy!

In my thirties, happy long term relationship, business related to my degree, buy to let properties as our "pension"... 39yo, OH dies horrifically, not married, no will, fecked!!

In my forties, awesome job I love and I am good at (that has a decent pension!), new husband (another vote for Tinder), lovely comfortable life. Total 180 that I didn't see coming but six years on life is genuinely brilliantly good.

My forties have been tough at times but I've been incredibly lucky.

Between 34 and 44, I got back together with an old bf, got married, had DC. Retrained. Changed career. Fulfilled a number of lifelong dreams regarding career goals and travel. Honestly I think 33 / 34 is a real transition point for lots of people.

Met DH when 34 and had a baby at 37

Meet DH at 33, married at 34 and had my 3 children at 35,37 and 38. He was also my first boyfriend and I had given up hope of meeting someone and having kids.

Met an amazing man (still together and very much in love after 15 years)
Career took off in a big way and started getting paid well
Bought a house, then paid off the mortgage
It's all been pretty good, bar a few wrinkles which I'm really not bothered about

So much! My 40s have been better than my 30s. (Except having kids) Published 2 books, learned to speak up for myself, be myself. It just gets better. Especially for you. X