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An ex with a vengeance potentially going to talk about me in his podcast

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Rosewaterblossom · 27/05/2022 19:14

Do I have any rights?

I have an ex who is feeling particularly vengeful who has said (to a mutual friend) that "I am fucked because he's going to tell all in his postcast.

Now it's a relatively small podcast and I won’t be mentioned by my name. But it will be out there forever and he's going to be speaking of our intimate moments (some very embarrassing) in a really derogatory way. People he knows will be listening to this and its on Spotify. It's not been recorded yet.

Do I just not listen and hide or can I actually do anything about it? I'm guessing not 😔

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MadMadMadamMim · 27/05/2022 19:16

I wouldn't listen. And if anyone mentions anything to you I'd laugh and say Bless him! Tiny penis, tiny brain and still obsessed with me by the sound of it'...

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Rosewaterblossom · 27/05/2022 19:18

I suffer from clinical depression and I think if I listened to it it would really effect me for a long time.

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DenholmElliot1 · 27/05/2022 19:22

Honestly don't listen to it. Decent people won't be impressed by him slagging off his ex and revealing intimate details - it will reflect badly on him, not you. Keep a dignified silence. He's not going to name you anyway.

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EmmaH2022 · 27/05/2022 19:23

OP I am sorry you are going through this

My late father used to say "let the dogs bark".

Samatha Jones in Sex and the City said "honey, if I worried what everyone in New York was saying about me, I'd never leave the house".

I also have A&D and these two phrases help me, so I hope they will help you.
And anyone who slates their ex in public just sounds batshit.

dubyalass · 27/05/2022 19:24

Wow, what a prince among men.

He must be pretty dim because it won't reflect well on him at all unless all his pals are incels.

To my mind you have two options:

  1. Don't listen to it but do ask Spotify to take it down if there is even the merest hint of identifying you (ask a friend to listen if they can bear it).
  1. Still don't listen to it, but post the link up here using a random username and we can all downrate it.

What kind of listener numbers are we talking here? Is there a chance this would be considered "revenge porn" of sorts?

AlisonDonut · 27/05/2022 19:32

I wouldn't worry about it, I've had songs written and recorded about me [by exes]. It just means we made an impact. Honestly the sooner everyone stops worrying about what other people think [hint, they really don't care] the better.

Wallywobbles · 27/05/2022 19:41

My odious ex husband published books of poetry. Just before it went to publication he changed the one about me basically from compliment to insult.

Vanity publishing at a loss. Fuck him and the lizard he rode in on.

TwinklingFairyLights · 27/05/2022 19:46

He's not based in Liverpool is he?

I was chatting to guy on bumble who sent me a load of podcasts. His take on women. Not pleasant listening.

I blocked and moved on.

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Rosewaterblossom · 27/05/2022 19:55

Thank you for the replies. They have made me feel so much better!

I agree that I personally would avoid and not think much of a guy who publicly spoke of his ex like that, especially taking the piss and especially about their sex life embarrassing moments.

One moment is me accidentally bleeding during sex (as in I thought my period had finished but sex obviously brought on a bit more blood.) He told our mutual friend that I'd "lied" about being on and he looked like a saw victim after. 😔 That kind of stuff.

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Rosewaterblossom · 27/05/2022 19:58

dubyalass · 27/05/2022 19:24

Wow, what a prince among men.

He must be pretty dim because it won't reflect well on him at all unless all his pals are incels.

To my mind you have two options:

  1. Don't listen to it but do ask Spotify to take it down if there is even the merest hint of identifying you (ask a friend to listen if they can bear it).
  1. Still don't listen to it, but post the link up here using a random username and we can all downrate it.

What kind of listener numbers are we talking here? Is there a chance this would be considered "revenge porn" of sorts?

What happens if its downrated

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rahjama · 27/05/2022 20:00

As long as you're not named I don't know if there's much you can do. It's actually pretty common for celebrities to do podcasts/interviews talking about their sex lives with past partners. And that goes to a much wider audience

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/05/2022 20:00

At the very least, if it’s heavily downrated, it will hit him right in the ego.

starlingdarling · 27/05/2022 20:01

One moment is me accidentally bleeding during sex (as in I thought my period had finished but sex obviously brought on a bit more blood.) He told our mutual friend that I'd "lied" about being on and he looked like a saw victim after. 😔 That kind of stuff.

I'm pretty sure even any man who listens won't find that embarrassing. It's happened to me in more relationships than not.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/05/2022 20:04

Ugh. He thinks that telling people he's found out that ladies have periods that don't stop like a tap is something that reflects badly upon you?

Shrug it off, I know that's easier said than done - but really, all he's doing is showing what an utter prick he is to a huge audience of about 10 equally stupid males.

thevanilla · 27/05/2022 20:16

what a loser. most (non incel) men would listen to that period story and think ‘so fucking what’

Boood · 27/05/2022 20:17

It’s likely that his audience will be really small and the podcast will sink into obscurity very quickly. It’s equally likely that anything at all you do to try and stop it will just give him some publicity and make it disappear less quickly. Ignore it.

Mymoneydontjigglejiggle · 27/05/2022 20:21

Anyone who has the misfortune to end up listening to that kind of crap is going to be roundly judging him for his lack of understanding of the female anatomy and his immaturity/stupidity in sharing it with the world. No one at all would judge you, even if they could identify you from what he says. Let him crack on and ignore it all.

TwinklingFairyLights · 27/05/2022 20:26

starlingdarling · 27/05/2022 20:01

One moment is me accidentally bleeding during sex (as in I thought my period had finished but sex obviously brought on a bit more blood.) He told our mutual friend that I'd "lied" about being on and he looked like a saw victim after. 😔 That kind of stuff.

I'm pretty sure even any man who listens won't find that embarrassing. It's happened to me in more relationships than not.

Exactly. If you shag women who are premenopausal then this will have happened.

DawsonsUglyCryingFace · 27/05/2022 20:26

Every average, tedious, insignificant and bitter white man had a podcast nowadays. Why they think the world wants to hear their drivel, I have no idea.

no one will listen to it. Unless it’s to make fun of it on tiktok. There is a trend on tiktok of people sharing clips from Tedious White Man podcasts and ripping the piss out of them. I can imagine any man acting affronted about a woman getting her period during sex would be met with the utter derision it deserves.

Regularmumnetter · 27/05/2022 20:27

Make a rival podcast and expose all the embarrassing things he’s done?

sorry.
seriously try and ignore it OP I promise you anyone watching will just think what a prick.

Grandville · 27/05/2022 20:27

Bleeding during sex at the start or end of a period is very, very normal. Sometimes it's only after sex that you realise you are on! Most men who are experienced with women and aren't arsed won't be phased and will have had it happen before. He will out himself as inexperienced and pernickety if he tells that story and it will reflect badly on him.

SlowHorses · 27/05/2022 20:29

Men used to tell those sort of period/sex jokes what, about 20 years ago? It’s right up with there with the saddo MIL from hell and racist jokes. It wasn’t funny then but it sure as hell ain’t funny now. I can tell you my DPs reaction to that (having seen someone attempt the same on TV) would be to think he’s a right dick. Same as what we’re all thinking.

Hold your head up high lady! You’re well rid of him.

sunlight81 · 27/05/2022 20:32

Some men love having sex with women when they are on their period ... likewise any women listening will no doubt relate as I'm very sure every pre-menstrual women with an active sex life has once upon a time come on during sex.

Perhaps change ur mindset a little ... the embarrassing things are actually embarrassing they are just normal shite that happens in life!

Likewise if that's as far as his material goes then I very much doubt his podcast will be listened to by many.

Have u thought he may have told people he was going to talk about u to wind u up? He doesn't actually intend to do it but knowing ur an over thinker, means the fear is actually worse!!

TheWeeDonkey · 27/05/2022 20:34

There is a whole genre of comedy dedicated to men with microphones for a reason. YouTube it, its very funny

MargaretThursday · 27/05/2022 20:36

Does anyone even listen to it other than himself?

I know someone who does podcasts. He tells people he has 5k listeners.
What he does is post it onto loads of group chat FB groups. When someone scrolls past with the sound off that registers as a view. He once left the statistics up and I could see that of the last 5 videos he'd posted not one had watched past 3 seconds. The only person that comments on the videos is him.

And if that's the sort of thing he's going to "tell all" about then I think he is the one who will look bad not you. He'll probably lose any faithful listeners he had his mum