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An ex with a vengeance potentially going to talk about me in his podcast

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Rosewaterblossom · 27/05/2022 19:14

Do I have any rights?

I have an ex who is feeling particularly vengeful who has said (to a mutual friend) that "I am fucked because he's going to tell all in his postcast.

Now it's a relatively small podcast and I won’t be mentioned by my name. But it will be out there forever and he's going to be speaking of our intimate moments (some very embarrassing) in a really derogatory way. People he knows will be listening to this and its on Spotify. It's not been recorded yet.

Do I just not listen and hide or can I actually do anything about it? I'm guessing not 😔

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Divebar2021 · 27/05/2022 20:36

I doubt I would be listening to his podcast but if I heard some bloke discussing a previous relationship and revealing intimate details I would immediately file him away under brainless & immature. I can’t imagine any woman wanting to shag him ever again.

SomersetONeil · 27/05/2022 20:37

Rosewaterblossom · 27/05/2022 19:55

Thank you for the replies. They have made me feel so much better!

I agree that I personally would avoid and not think much of a guy who publicly spoke of his ex like that, especially taking the piss and especially about their sex life embarrassing moments.

One moment is me accidentally bleeding during sex (as in I thought my period had finished but sex obviously brought on a bit more blood.) He told our mutual friend that I'd "lied" about being on and he looked like a saw victim after. 😔 That kind of stuff.

I could not be more embarrassed for him that he thinks this is weird / noteworthy.

Pretty much any man who’s had sex with a woman has experienced this.

Anyone listening to some nobody bitching about their ex on a podcast, is just going to think he’s a stone cold loser.

littleburn · 27/05/2022 20:39

Well OP, he's clearly still obsessed with losing you, whereas your life is so much better without that dick in it.

His behaviour in doing this is pathetic and people will see it for what it is. I'd affect a rolling of the eyes, 'seriously you'd have thought he'd have moved on by now' attitude if anyone mentions it to you.

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wordler · 27/05/2022 20:41

If he says something that is untrue about you and it is reputation damaging you can sue for defamation - but however nasty the disclosure if it's true then you can't win a libel or slander case.

Information about your sex life might come under an invasion of privacy, if you can prove that it was you that was easily identified as the person in the stories - if you can afford it, it might be worth consulting a solicitor to see if they recommend sending a letter to warn your ex that you do not consent to private information being shared, that it would be an invasion of privacy if you are easily identified etc.

TheSpottedZebra · 27/05/2022 20:45

It's just a higher-tech equivalent of a bloke in a pub moaning, thinking he's hilarious. A few people like him might listen, but many will think he's a twat and ignore/switch off. But the vast, vast majority won't have a clue who he is (who you are!) and will never hear of it.

Don't give him any more credit, or any more thought.

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Rosewaterblossom · 27/05/2022 20:47

OK thank you so much everyone! I feel so much better reading your replies!

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altiara · 27/05/2022 20:53

Well unless he’s only had sex with 1 woman, then he could be talking about any partner or ONS! It’s not even something rare and plenty of women actually have sex during their period. He’ll just sound like some weirdo that’s scared of bodily fluids.

If anyone says to you they heard his podcast and he spoke about your sex life, I’d answer “really, I’m the only women he’s had sex with… 🤔… that explains a lot”

Springblossom2022 · 27/05/2022 20:59

I can't believe he thinks this is going to reflect well on him at all. Nobody likes someone who talks like that about an ex. I'd run a mile if a man said any of the things he's thinking of saying about you. The 'embarrassing' story about you bleeding during sex is just him being ridiculously childish. I can't tell you the amount of times that's happened to me. I also have suspected endometriosis so bleeding during sex is common for me. My partner would never think that to be embarrassing or something to share with anyone to make me look bad, it's literally so normal. Ignore this awful man, OP, and walk with your head held high knowing that his actions and words are a reflection on him and not you

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Rosewaterblossom · 28/05/2022 15:38

I did also accidentally use a bit of 😳 during a blow job to which he claimed to have a bruise (I never saw it.) I think that's going to be a topic too 😒

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Rosewaterblossom · 28/05/2022 15:39

*teeth

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SamphirethePogoingStickerist · 28/05/2022 15:44

Oh ignore him. Pretend he moved to Jupiter.

And tell the mutual friend to fuck off. Think about why they told you that? It wasn't to help you, it was titillation. So send them skyward too.

NOTHING you have said is embarrassing for you, but does show what a prize twat he is.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 28/05/2022 15:45

Who cares? He'd be complaining about getting a blow job.

No man in his right senses complains about those.

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