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Was I wrong to be upset by this?

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 05:48

I have had an laparoscopy and had a lot going on in my life lately.

Yesterday my partner got news his mother has passed away.
So I was saying to a friend of mine that maybe I can't meet her Saturday. First she did say sorry to hear. Then after that she saying you to remember to look after yourself and your son but just went on and on.

I completely snapped at saying she really needs to watch how she says things and comes across at times. I told her she needs to take your own advice Not to think she can look after other peoples children all the time when her health bad. Basically I layed into her when messaging.
So then I said I understand what you were saying but definitely inappropriate timing.

I just told you my partner's mum has passed away. Because I use to speak to her on video call it's really upset me so much. I don't need a f**king lecture just wrong timing. The thing is I do listen to everyone problems but helping them I been home relaxing bored.

At this point if she doesn't come and apologize for lecturing me instead of actually asking if I am okay. I wouldn't mind.

Sorry so annoyed

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AuntieMarys · 27/05/2022 17:11

I'm surprised you have any friends

wellhelloitsme · 27/05/2022 17:11

OP that poster @WinterDeWinter literally just made a factual statement as it sounded originally like you maybe got the wrong end of the stick and took the comment about taking care of yourself literally. It was a really neutral post, a helpful one even.

Really odd to lash out at them too saying you don't give a shit what they think etc.

You say it's all sorted with your friend. So chill out.

Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:13

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:14

headofpotsandpans · 27/05/2022 06:26

Yes, you were wrong.

Simple answer thanks

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:17

TidyDancer · 27/05/2022 06:50

Wow. You were absolutely in the wrong and need to make an apology. A grovelling apology even. If she's a good friend she'll hopefully understand that you were having a bad moment and it's not who you are, but you've been vile to her so don't be surprised if she wants some time to digest it.

I have apologized to her and lucky she is okay.
She knows I am having a bad moment.
I think people say and do far worse than me so stop making it a big deal.

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LoveLarry · 27/05/2022 17:20

Well this is going well

OP you can swear on Mumsnet. You don't need asterisks

Oh, and your poor friend. I wonder what you bring to her life

RollOnWinter · 27/05/2022 17:26

You were in the wrong. You shouldn't have spoken to her like that. It's your bloke's mum who has died, not your own. He needs the support for that, not you.

SpiderVersed · 27/05/2022 17:28

You've posted asking if you were wrong to be upset by your friend.

Everyone agrees that not only were you unreasonable to be upset with her, you cruelly ashed out at someone who was concerned for you. Your response has been to lash out here again in abusive terms.

You won't get the validation you're after, so it might be time to step away from the keyboard. Each post is more unpleasant than the last.

I'm sorry for your partner's loss.

@CentrifugalBumblePuppy , I'm so very sorry. Losing a parent is devastating and chronic conditions really grind you down. 💐

Crankley · 27/05/2022 17:31

I'm shocked you have a friend at all quite frankly. You sound mentally unbalanced and if it's not possible for you to post on here without being rude and aggressive, I suggest you don't post at all.

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wellhelloitsme · 27/05/2022 17:51

@Scorpio8

You need to watch you mouth going round talking like that.

Surely even you see the irony in saying this OP? 😬

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:53

Crankley · 27/05/2022 17:31

I'm shocked you have a friend at all quite frankly. You sound mentally unbalanced and if it's not possible for you to post on here without being rude and aggressive, I suggest you don't post at all.

I can post what I like because I could write a post on and be attacked even if it wasn't me in wrong or relationship post. So when you attacking someone who seriously asking for advice and your rude don't expect what you give out not to get in return.

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:55

SpiderVersed · 27/05/2022 17:28

You've posted asking if you were wrong to be upset by your friend.

Everyone agrees that not only were you unreasonable to be upset with her, you cruelly ashed out at someone who was concerned for you. Your response has been to lash out here again in abusive terms.

You won't get the validation you're after, so it might be time to step away from the keyboard. Each post is more unpleasant than the last.

I'm sorry for your partner's loss.

@CentrifugalBumblePuppy , I'm so very sorry. Losing a parent is devastating and chronic conditions really grind you down. 💐

I am ready for it. If s

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:56

Next time you go on the attack be careful who your dealing with.
I can type say what I like get blocked who cares.

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wellhelloitsme · 27/05/2022 17:58

Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:56

Next time you go on the attack be careful who your dealing with.
I can type say what I like get blocked who cares.

Be careful? It's an anonymous forum...

Nobody is scared of you 🤷🏻‍♀️

SlightlyGeordieJohn · 27/05/2022 18:00

Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:09

I do know what that means thanks. She had been driving me crazy in a good way telling me to rest look after yourself. But yesterday was in the mood for the look after yourself please and just driving me crazy. Like I hadn't been resting.
I knows she means well but sometimes well lol.
I actually couldn't give a s**t what say or any go judge a person you don't know.
Especially when I literally am the one there listening to everyone problems. Dealing with this and that. So it's not major if we sorted it out.
This friend upset a lot of family/ friends when organising my bridal shower doing exactly same as what I did. So please don't judge what you don't know. In fact probably trying to prove a point. You can apologize and move on.
Especially to someone family when she didn't. So lash out was needed if not happy. Otherwise she a decent person.

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Are you currently on medication, or do you have someone who helps to care for you?

Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 18:02

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wellhelloitsme · 27/05/2022 18:04

All of you should of be strangled at birth.

You need help. I'm not even being sarcastic. You genuinely need help.

Saying shit like that and making threats people should be careful as they don't know who they're talking to, as if you can do anything whatsoever to harm people on here. You know, an anonymous forum...

All a bit cringe really.

PurpleDaisies · 27/05/2022 18:08

Well that escalated.

PAFMO · 27/05/2022 18:09

Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 17:56

Next time you go on the attack be careful who your dealing with.
I can type say what I like get blocked who cares.

Enjoy your last few hours on Mumsnet.
You might need a new forum to troll as well as new friends this weekend.

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 18:09

wellhelloitsme · 27/05/2022 17:58

Be careful? It's an anonymous forum...

Nobody is scared of you 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Neither am I lol.

But I got better things to do.

Maybe you get off on attacking people on here.

Some people answered nicely and was very aware I am wrong.

What you dish out don't expect to get back serious didn't murder somebody and expect to forgiven only lashed out like sure many of you have in your life.

You are not perfect but definitely need go fix up your attitude.

I am not scared enjoy y

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wellhelloitsme · 27/05/2022 18:10

You are not perfect but definitely need go fix up your attitude.

Yes we could all learn a lot from your attitude. It's ever so attractive.

Seek help. It's not normal or healthy to be this angry.

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Scorpio8 · 27/05/2022 18:13

PAFMO · 27/05/2022 18:09

Enjoy your last few hours on Mumsnet.
You might need a new forum to troll as well as new friends this weekend.

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I really don't care to be honest. Some of you need to be taken down a peg or two.
I did kill someone and I do know I am wrong.
But you all don't know how to stop.
What ever happens bad to you will deserve when you remember being horrible to someone on Mumsnet.
When your crying remember how much if sick person you are.

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