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If you went off work sick with stress

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Redsheetbedsheet · 26/05/2022 19:26

What was your breaking point?

I can't even think straight. I don't know if I should just leave but I'm not in the frame of mind to get a new job.

I have a long history of mental health issues but have always worked, except for a 2 year period after having DC where I had a total breakdown (many years ago). Now I'm not in a good place anyway and the stress of work is making life unmanageable.

Don't know what to do

Name changed to ask this

OP posts:
Thisbastardcomputer · 27/05/2022 07:34

dalmatianmad · 26/05/2022 22:22

I'm so sorry you're struggling.

My breaking point happened when I was in charge on a busy shift.
I was short staffed, 4 Nurses had called in sick. I was sent a bank HCA who had never worked in ED before. I was told by the night nurse coordinator I should be grateful for the HCA.
We had a stabbing in Resus, he went into cardiac arrest and I didn't have a Nurse to look after him (I was dealing with a nasty trauma in the bay next door). I had to ask the paramedics to sort the stabbing. He died. Likely would have been the same outcome if there was a Nurse. The Paramedics were more skilled etc. I blame myself. I shouldn't have been so short staffed. The poor HCA looked terrified. I wanted to hug her.

I've been off work ever since. Nearly 4 months, I attempted to hang myself. The guilt i feel for that poor lad and his family.
Going back next week. Don't wanna work there any more. I've done nearly 30 years service in ED. Held the hands of many as they passed away from covid (in the early days when they were very poorly).
I feel like a shit person and have failed that family.

@dalmatianmad you need a bloody medal, the last thing you are is a failure.

My heart goes out to you x

jamesspaderismine · 27/05/2022 07:44

mdh2020 · 26/05/2022 19:38

I couldn’t sleep and started shaking and crying when I started to get ready for work.

Yes this, along with sleepless nights and started shaking uncontrollably at work.

Go to your GP Flowers

Peterbear · 27/05/2022 07:59

I just cried and couldn't stop thinking about work. Don't regret being signed off several times over the years. No job is worth it. Now work in a less stressful field. Fuck em OP they'd replace you in an instant. If a mate told you what you've posted what advice would you give them?
I know it's hard to apply the same rules to yourself but be brave and do it. Good luck to you it's so hard.better skint and happy.

dalmatianmad · 27/05/2022 14:12

Thank you thisbastardcomputer. But I don't deserve anything.
I failed him and his Family.

I have palpitations just thinking about going back next week. I feel so low about the amount of patients and families the NHS has failed recently.

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