Hi mumsnet, i'm a long term user who has name-changed.
My husband is not white British and my sons are aware of their heritage.
DS2 is currently sitting his GCSEs (and doing well too).
Today a package arrived addressed to him. His first name had been changed to his father's ethnicity (so think "Blackary" instead of "Jackary" - it's obvious who it's meant for but also obvious in the reference). His second name had been changed to something silly that he's probably been called loads of time over the years - think "Yorkie" if your name was "York" or "Carrot" if your name was "Carrant".
There was an incident a couple of years back where a couple of boys in his year set up an impersonation account for DS2 at a party he was at and posted parody posts. One was a friend, one a frenemy. We involved both parents and they apologised. The incident was very stressful for DS2. In the short term our reaction (particularly his brother's) was the most stressful but in the longer term I hope he was glad we responded.
The package contained something harmless but nonsensical so that's probably an in joke shared by the wrongdoers and intended to be understood by dS2. The wrongdoers must have requested a sample from the company which is not local.
My husband and I are concerned that this might be the tip of the iceberg/that there is online bullying going on. He's quiet, studious and easily led and can't always see who's got his interests at heart and who hasn't. He's happy with his own company but has a good active social life and there are no signs of depression,etc.
We are not sure what to do. We've agreed not to jump the gun and I'm here gathering information and ideas.