Deliberately putting this in Chat because I am hoping for not excessively dramatic replies:) Long term friend, we went to uni together and have remained friends through thick and a lot of thin. I live in London in a very small flat with DH, DS and DD ( who is at uni most of the time). Friend lives in another country but has recently begun travelling through London often for work, like every few months. She obviously did not visit in the pandemic.
The last year has been quite tough for us with various family problems. DS is currently doing his A level exams. Dh and I both working from home with stressful jobs. I told my friend quite frankly when the pandemic eased that it would be very inconvenient for both her and me to stay with us. For instance, we are all early risers and she likes to sleep till noon. She is allergic or dislikes the smell of certain foods that we eat or cook. DH's loud Zoom calls are often audible through the walls. She agreed and all was well. She stayed in a hotel last few times. I took her out for several nice meals.
But lately she has begun hinting that London hotel rates are very high. She is visiting again this week. I feel pressured to offer her an ( uncomfortable bed) but DS has his exams going on. I don't even have a proper spare room. Am I being mean?. Generally, I never stay with friends any more because I think post pandemic, everyone wfh and I will get in their way. I fork out for an AirBnB.