How much pocket money for 14yo

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How much pocket money does your 14yo get, what do they have to pay for themselves and what do they have to do for it (if anything)?

My 14yo ds gets £3.50 per week, only has to buy random stuff he wants, but I buy all essential stuff, pay phone etc. He has ASD and doesn't go out alone ever so doesn't need money for doing stuff with friends (sadly), so I pay whenever we do go out to do anything.
He doest have to do anything to get it (specific rewards for specific tasks tend to lead to mega meltdowns).
But I think he's of an age now when he should probably be getting more. So interested in what others do.

My daughter is almost 12 so somewhat younger, but she gets £5 a week which she tends to save but may buy some sweets or a bit of make up sometimes. If she's going out with her friends, she gets some money for lunch and a drink from us which is separate to pocket money. We pay her phone and buy clothes for her.

I have a 13 year old and she gets £10 per week plus I pay for phone credit. She saves the money up and uses it for holiday spending money or uses it to go out with friends.

My 13yo gets £20 per month. Its better that way as he can buy himself something decent otherwise he'll waste £5 on junk then regret it.

DS did have to do chores for pocket money but I appreciate your DS has ASD. Is there any sort of chore he actually likes doing at all or is it the time pressure of knowing he has to do something or out of his schedule just too much for him hence his meltdowns.

My dd gets £40 per month on her Hyperjar card as her personal money. I pay for her phone/clothes and everything else. She's 10.

My 15 year old gets £2.50 week but I literally pay for everything she needs. She also babysits so earns some extra month that way, which she obviously doesn't need to spend as she's got a few hundred in savings. If I gave her more pocket money it would disappear on crap. My 14 year old gets £2 a week and doesn't seem to need more. If she was going out with friends I'd give her money/pay for transport etc. I also pay for presents for friends birthdays etc. I don't really believe in giving loads of money just for the sake of it to be wasted on chips and sweets.

Do you mind me asking what she spends the £40 a month on?

I give my 12 yo £25 a month by standing order. I also pay for her phone and a base level of clothing. If she then wants a new dress for say a school disco then she'll use her money to pay for it.

Luckily she's a real saver so currently don't need to worry about her squandering money on rubbish.

He doesn't need more of there isn't much he wants to buy with it.
My DS1 (14) gets £15 per month, but I also pay for his phone, clothes and give him extra when he goes out with friends. He also gets the bus fare if he chooses to cycle to school so this is a good earner.
My DS2 (13) has £12 per month. I pay for everything else including his bus fare.
We tried giving DS1 £45 per month which was supposed to allow him to budget for everything apart from his phone, but he felt he was out of pocket at the end of the month so we went back to the old system.

You could give your child a fixed allowance and they have to buy their own clothes etc.

My 14 year old gets £30 pm. He spends it on a few subscriptions... playstation plus and apple music. Also just started making him buy his own deodorant.

I pay for phone, clothes etc.

DS will be 14 in July. He currently gets £4 pw and we pay for his phone and clothes.

I was thinking we need to increase it on his birthday as he is starting to go out more now. He buys sweets, pop, ice creams etc but they have started being out for longer so might get fast food or chips while they are out.

He also puts birthday and Christmas money in his bank account and buys football strips, FIFA stuff and his PS network subscription himself.

Not chore related

We follow the advice I read on here once. School year = £ per week. So my year 4 gets £4 a week every Saturday. We then put it up to the new amount at the very end of the school year so they have a little extra over the summer holidays. For me, I think weekly helps with getting used to budgeting, but there is enough that they can save up fairly quickly for something medium sized.

My DS14 gets £10 a month but we pay for his Xbox live subscription and his phone. We also buy all his toiletries and clothes and I normally give him a little extra if he's going out for lunch with his mates. He doesn't get paid for chores as such but as a member of the household he does have to help out. He empties the recycling, picks up the dog poo and either makes a meal or a weekend breakfast once a week.

My 12 yo gets £20 per month. I pay for his phone and clothes etc. He spends it on gaming or eating out when he goes down the city with his mates.

13 year old dd gets £10 a week, nearly 9 year old ds gets £3 per week. Eldest is a spender. It goes on drinks/treats before and after school, shopping with her friends and books. Lots of books!

Youngest rarely spends anything although also likes to buy the occasional book and fifa points.

DD15 £5 a week, which we top up to cover friends' birthdays and if she goes out for a big meal with friends.

DS13, ASD, gets £3 a week. Doesn't go out with mates but we encourage him to go to the local newsagent alone and buy sweets and drinks. He will also buy small gifts with it, eg a choc orange for his dad's birthday. We are working on expanding to other shops at the moment, and buying other things like meal deals and milk (which we pay for). He doesn't like being given cash much, he worries about what to do with it but this just gives him a little bit of independence.

Money for chores didn't work here either but he does do some jobs anyway.

Dd's 14, get £15 per month plus £10 off DGM. Plus we pay for phone and clothes and toiletries. They use it for makeup and extra non essential clothes 😀One dd wants to earn more, so she is on a trial period for doing laundry, £1.25 a load...

@Alwayspaintyournails I just got her the card for Christmas as a stocking filler and to help her budget money/think about spending etc. The first month she spent it in about 10 minutes online (dh supervised) on arts and crafts bits and pieces. Then the reality sunk in that all her money was spent. She saves a big chunk of it now and thinks about spending/managing money. When we went on a day trip the other week she bought herself a picture for her room.

My 14yo DS sounds v similar to yours - ASD, mostly stays in (mostly gaming) - and gets £5 a week on the Hyperjar thingy, plus we pay for phone (he only uses it for Dischord) and any bigger things like clothes or IT, and we get the DC sweets so they don't blow their money on that. The pocketmoney is really just to teach him to save/manage money and occasionally if he wants a new game or non-essential tech, that's what he'll use it for.

My 14yr ds gets £20 a month by standing order from me. I buy clothes, phone, haircuts, toiletries etc. He earns extra by babysitting/gardening/labouring for family friends. DS uses his money for gaming, socialising, to buy birthday/Christmas presents for siblings, and saves for big purchases such as computer consoles, bike etc

My dd is 14 and she gets £40 a month. With this she buys all her, none school clothes, any bits n bobs she wants, friends birthday presents etc. I also pay for her clubs and phone

DD15 has had a job for the last 18 months, she makes between $100-$200(aud) a fortnight depending on shifts.

She pays for her phone, clothes, dates and other bits and bobs like books etc. and we pay for essentials.

She’s been pretty good with saving and has just bought her first car that’s she’s going to be fixing up with her dad until she’s old enough to drive it!

DS12 doesn’t get pocket money but we pay for his Xbox live. He doesn’t really go out with mates much but we pay when he does. If he’s saving for something special we give him extra jobs to do.

He also has a little refereeing gig at his soccer club that he gets $5 a match for. We’ve made a deal with him if he saves all his reffing money til the end of the season we’ll do a trip to the Lego Store so he can spend it. He’s doing well so far, looking up lego sets and working out how many matches he’ll need to do to earn enough money for the one he wants haha.

My ASD 11 yo gets £5 a week. It burns an immediate hole in his pocket and he's obsessed with it until he's spent it. I am trying a new tactic of putting £20 a month on a Go Henry type card and he will get not a penny more so if he spends it all at once then that's it. I'm not sure if this will work though. Like you OP, mine doesn't go out alone but I'm desperate to teach him budgeting and saving.

13-yr-old gets £5 per week on to his bank card. £10 comes off every month for a gaming subscription so he's left with about £3 per week.
We also give him random change so he has some money in his pocket for school in case he wants to go to the shop or get something from the vending machine.
He does chores. We pay for his clothes and phone, and any clubs he goes to. He doesn't buy very much tbh. He tends to save his pocket money up for a big purchase eg a new gaming headset or a big Lego set.

My 14 Yr old gets 20 a month from me, plus 20 from my mum. I also pay his phone contract.