Tips for a simple easy life

[emerald226]

Your tips please

You can’t control others, only how you react to them. Accept that and embrace it.

Stay single.

Don’t have kids.

Realise there is no “normal”; only expectations of others. You don’t have to be anyone else’s normal; just your own.

Declutter.

Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses. Do you and let them do them.

Don’t collect stuff, collect experiences.

Work is work. You are replaceable and the more you do in your own time the more it is expected.

Dont be a martyr.

Learn the difference between want and need.

Live within your means.

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Declutter.
Online delivery.
Don't work stupid hours.
Prioritise quality time for you
Keep on top of housework so it never builds up - I find having a routine helps
Get outside in the fresh air everyday

For me, I would also say don't have children, lol. I'm too selfish for that.

Marry someone who is well organised and likes routine and cooking and who is good at seeing the main thing that needs to be done and then just does it .

DH does all of that stuff, shopping, food planning and 70% of the cooking. He also does all of the stuff to do with bills and choosing the best deals. He also makes sure anything routine based gets done, like making sure DS leaves at the right time for his college lessons, reminding DH to take his medication ( I often forget when it is left to me ), topping up DS's bus pass each month and lunch money (when he was at school) each week. He did all that

He also does the cleaning once a week if I haven't got round to it, even though it is really my job what with him doing a lot of other things at home (without a word of complaint) .

DH makes my life immeasurably simpler. I know this because when he is away I find myself getting irritable at all the things I need to do. DH doesn't seem to mind doing it to be fair. He certainly has never complained in 20 years.

Make a meal plan each week and do your best to stick to it
Don't have kids
Be goth - all my clothes are black so everything goes

Tell friends when things are getting on top of you.

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Short hair. So much less faff.

Depends on what kind of hair you have! When mine is long I can just let it dry naturally and tie it back. When it's short it needs product and blow-drying!

Lots of good stuff on here.

Small tip- when meeting good friends, I now always get the next date in diary/agree plans before we part (e.g. book restaurant via smartphone there and then)- even if it's a few months away. We can always change plans if needed (but rarely do) and so much quicker to sort/agree face-to-face. We may or may not contact each other in between but are fairly relaxed about it as there's always another meeting coming up. Great for friendship maintenance without the faff.

Mine are more general…

Appreciate the small things, be thankful.

don’t compare yourself to others

avoid cycles of worrying about the same thing round and around and getting nowhere, sometimes you have to be firm with yourself - just stop, i can do no more by worrying.

try to see the best in others and be quick to say sorry when necessary (and mean it.) but avoid people pleasing.

try to see the good in yourself and speak words of understanding and reassurance as you would a friend, not negative thoughts and putting yourself down.

pray (if you’re spiritually inclined) - particularly when walking/driving without the radio as this feels more conversational than forced.

Make everyone in the house contribute! I've still for now got 2 dc (18 and 20) at home and they know it's up to them to pitch in with laundry/dishwasher/cooking/sweeping etc. I'm disabled so I need a bit of help round the house but tbh I'd make them do this all themselves anyway as it's good training. 20 year old ds is moving out in September for uni into halls and I've no worries about him taking care of himself.

Declutter, stop buying stuff.

Midday masturbation. Good for both my physical and mental health and a great destresser. Or at least a daily orgasm.
And dismiss the opinions of people who don't matter to you/ avoid drama.

Love that thread !

Don’t get caught up it societies expectations. You don’t have to move to the bigger house, have the more important job, the newer car. You can just settle at whatever level is comfortable and happy for you.

I don’t have kids which definitely makes life a lot more simple! 😂

Lots of time to yourself to chill out.

No more responsiibilities than you have to take on.

Don't own a car!

That is simpler.

Blimey @bumblingbovine49

You struck gold🙂

Never skip your dental check up

Don't accumulate stuff you don't need so it becomes a burden to you later (I wish I could take my own advice.....).

Only if you live somewhere urban with good public transport.

I love this thread!

Few of my tips (I'm a single parent of 2, and work FT):

-don't be in a relationship that toxic or isn't making you happy (whether that is with a DP or a friend).
-learn to say no to things you don't want to do/can't do. Time is such a precious thing.
-live within your means.
-make sure you give yourself time for yourself every so often (whether that is for R+R, or a hobby, or whatever).
-if you have the means/facilities to do so, then batch cooking/menu planning is fab for time and money saving.
-routines/lists are fab for keeping organised.
-do chores as you go along: i.e. wash up after each meal, put laundry on to wash when enough for a load, take the rubbish out when bin is full, tidy up as you go along. If you have kids/other people in the house, get them to help out too.
-if you can afford to get some stuff in that makes life easier, then go for it. My Instant Pot, robovac, and Thermomix are the most used gadgets in my house. It means my house is cleaner and it saves me a lot of time with cooking. Online food delivery is also great to make life easier.
-frequent decluttering of stuff you don't use!

1. Divorce.
2. Just stop doing so much stuff. Honestly I am a million times happier since I’ve embraced doing nothing sometimes. For whole weekends I just potter and chill out.
3. Work from home at least 3 days a week. I’ve never felt to un-stressed even though I do better work
4. remember you only have one life

Be comfortable being alone; ultimately, we are alone.
Drink lots of water.
Look after your posture - keeps you looking youthful in your 40s.
Don’t be afraid of saying “no”.
Do something to take you out of your comfort zone - you’ll learn a lot about yourself.
Move your body every day - it will help your mind.
Bad shit happens to truly good people. There’s no rhyme or reason to it. Accept it.
You need little materially for a good life.
If you are partnered and never plan to marry, make sure you have protected your finances legally. Don’t trust your partner will treat you ethically if things fall apart. Harsh lesson…