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Tips for a simple easy life

287 replies

emerald226 · 15/05/2022 09:49

Your tips please

OP posts:
uncomfortablydumb53 · 15/05/2022 22:11

Accept what you can't change

Thelnebriati · 15/05/2022 22:11

Keep drama addicts, narcs, toxic people and psychic vampires as far away from you as possible. If you find yourself forced to spend time around them, tell them as little about yourself as you can.

Yellowhase · 15/05/2022 22:11

Work on yourself
journal
keep your circle small
appreciate those who appreciate you
do what makes you happy
dont over work to over pay
live to your means
ignore the materialistic lifestyle
having a dog - getting outside makes such a difference

TheGetaway · 15/05/2022 22:12

Accept you can’t control what others do and say. You can only control your reaction and response.

Live life by the golf ball analogy

Never trust anyone 100%

Understand that absolutely everything happens for a reason. EVERYTHING

Anjo2011 · 15/05/2022 22:13

If you have no intention of doing something/going to an event, say no from the outset. Much easier and less stressful for all involved.

coodawoodashooda · 15/05/2022 22:18

Thelnebriati · 15/05/2022 22:11

Keep drama addicts, narcs, toxic people and psychic vampires as far away from you as possible. If you find yourself forced to spend time around them, tell them as little about yourself as you can.

I did this today. Felt good.

AngelinaFibres · 15/05/2022 22:46

"Some people in life like to bring the drama. You are not obliged to stay for the performance ".

Opaljewel · 15/05/2022 22:47

I will add something that sounds a little more sage but this little nugget saves time.

Nearly my socks are black trainer socks or ankle height. I never pair them as I don't have to and I just reach into a drawer and pull some out. Zero stress. I hate pairing socks.

RachelGreeneGreep · 15/05/2022 22:48

Thelnebriati · 15/05/2022 22:11

Keep drama addicts, narcs, toxic people and psychic vampires as far away from you as possible. If you find yourself forced to spend time around them, tell them as little about yourself as you can.

Took me longer than it should have to start to do this. Have had to put it into practice with a sibling. Very effective.

She hates the fact that I don't give any grist to her favourite mill of repeating things out of context behind other people's backs. I nod and smile a lot instead.

Badbaddog · 15/05/2022 22:51

Sleep a lot. Get a dog. Get a cleaner. Don’t buy clothes that need ironing.

AngelinaFibres · 15/05/2022 22:51

If you like to cook and do it really well, then do it and enjoy it. If you don't then ,when it's your turn to host, order a lovely take away, buy nice ready made food from waitrose or M and S. If other people have made it into a competition then remove yourself from that and do your own thing. If they don't like it then they aren't your friends and you don't need to feed them again.The same applies to birthday cakes, contributions to school parties/ bake sales etc .

AngelinaFibres · 15/05/2022 22:55

Google " grey rock" . It changed my life and how I relate to my mother.
Also adopt and repeat whenever necessary " yes X , but I am not you and my life is not your life. I am going to do xyz and that is the end of the conversation ". Then go and do whatever it is because you are fabulous.

MrsBlaue · 15/05/2022 23:05

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 15/05/2022 14:54

For me personally, not having children gives me a simple life.
I know most mothers wouldn't trade their families for my simplicity! But I enjoy not having to:

  • buy and live with as much 'stuff'
  • deal with the logistics (and often politics) of childcare and schooling
  • rush around to after school activities and kids' birthday parties
  • do as much cooking (and likely wasting food), washing, ironing and cleaning
  • rely on others for help - rather, I'm pretty self-sufficient in my own life
Like I say, it's not for everyone, but it certainly brings me a lot of inner peace.

Doesn’t make much sense tbh. It’s like me saying my life is easy because I don’t have an expensive sports car that I would have to maintain when I have never had an expensive sports car in the first place..?

I don’t know how you can possibly appreciate your life is easier than it could be if you had children, unless only hypothetically and theoretically…

BuddhaAtSea · 15/05/2022 23:09

Run :)

notacooldad · 15/05/2022 23:25

Go to bed at 9:30 pm. Read at least 20 books a year. Go out for a walk in the wild nature at least once a month
Not sure abou this.
I work until 11:00pm a few nights a week and go into the city a couple if nights. A half nine curfew isn't going to work.
20 book a year! I haven't read a book in 20 years (assuming you mean novels)
Wild nature , I'm with you ut definitely more than once a month. Several times a week more like!

wildthingsinthenight · 15/05/2022 23:33

Read a book called You Can Buy Happiness (and it's cheap) by Tammy Stroebel
Don't send Christmas cards.
Clean less.
Eat simple foods. Things on toast, one pot recipes and dump and go slow cooker recipes.
Say no A LOT ( politely 😊)
Count your blessings.
Be comfortable with living a life that others may not understand.
Work as little as you can manage.
Reject the glorification of busy.

CheekyHobson · 16/05/2022 00:49

Avoid significant relationships (of any kind) with drama llamas, emotional vampires narcissists and bullies.

Keep drama addicts, narcs, toxic people and psychic vampires as far away from you as possible.

Agree with PPs that this is so important but before you can do this, you have to know exactly how to recognise drama llamas, toxic people, psychic vampires etc.

Many people who were raised to be people-pleasers, peace-makers, who were told "don't be a show-off/judgemental", were taught to "be kind" and always put others first etc – in general weren't taught how to stand up for themselves, know their own worth and what they want and need, and actually don't know automatically how to recognise toxic people. The learning often comes by way of an extremely harsh experience of becoming enmeshed with a narcissist or other user.

So if you are the sort of person to whom strangers 'always seem to tell you their stories', if you find yourself being the go-between when family members have conflicts, or the calm in the eye of the storm at work, if you tend to be a 'problem-solver' or a sympathetic ear for people who have been treated badly, but have never had a really brutal experience with a toxic person, you're high risk because you've just been lucky enough not to encounter one in a close relationship.

Learn all the terms for toxic behaviours in relationships (eg gaslighting, psychological manipulation, stonewalling, blame-shifting, projection etc and exactly what they look/sound like), what 'red flags' are, and promise yourself that no matter how trustworthy someone seems, never invest significant money or time into a personal or employment relationship without a watertight contract.

Investment in this will protect you against decades of potential pain and complications.

Theoldwoman · 16/05/2022 03:57

One word.

MINIMALISM

Theoldwoman · 16/05/2022 07:55

DishAndSpoonOnTheRun · 15/05/2022 10:43

pants can be worn 4 times before needing to be washed.

What the heck?

CatrinVennastin · 16/05/2022 08:42

Declutter. This has genuinely changed my life.

Completely agree with those who have said don’t people please and stay clear of toxic relationships.

Accept that there are many things you can’t change so it’s not worth the stress.

kateandme · 16/05/2022 17:51

Get enough sleep.forget the elitism that seems to about getting up early.its fine,not lazy,unproductive to sleep in,be rested.you don't need to be up with the park to be winning.all people differ and some just don't do early.this doesn't make you a failure or not winning at life.

OMG12 · 16/05/2022 18:22

Pick 3 things that really matter to you. The 3 things you’ll think of fondly on your deathbed. Prioritise those, always. Realise very few things actually matter, as much as you think they do.

unless something material is necessary to your existence, eg food, shelter, water, heat it’s expendable, don’t complicate your life trying to get it and it doesn’t matter if other people do.

the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself, everything flows from this, prioritise yourself

FrequentFlyer96 · 16/05/2022 18:46
  • If at all possible, hire a cleaner - even a big clean up once per month makes all the difference
  • Have a drawer with some spare generic cards and gifts for emergencies
  • Say no to invitations that make you grimace when you imagine yourself at the event
  • Outdoor walks as often as possible, listen to interesting podcasts
  • Tan handbag will go with pretty much everything. Likewise Veja trainers.
  • Be satisfied with ticking one to do list item per day - reduce expectations and be kinder to self
RampantIvy · 16/05/2022 18:55

Disagree about the tan handbag. As a jewel winter tan wouldn't go with anything I own.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 16/05/2022 19:11

Same here. I’m a Summer. I hate tan and own nothing brown based. Grey or silver are my neutrals.