Misophonia

[FuckingNoise]

Anyone else suffer with this?? I'm the biggest arsehole on the planet and this really fucking makes me hate people even more. Apples and crisps are the worst. I was on a train earlier and some cunt decided to rustle their fucking wrappers and start chomping away like they'd never been fed before. What is it about trains and crisps? Not even "mild" ones like Skips they always have to be Doritos or Pringles. Honestly I felt like jumping off the fucking train just to make it stop. I can't even express how irritated and uncomfortable it makes me feel. It physically hurts me. I've shed actual tears over this before. I don't go to the cinema anymore. It makes me fucking rage. Go on give me your biscuits... at least I'll be considerate enough to eat the fuckers QUIETLY.

Yes I know I need to go and live on an island. I can't afford to. Thank fuck for air pods!!!!!!

I have this too..it started in childhood. I remember having to sit opposite a boy in junior school who chomped and slopped his dinner, mouth wide open. I struggled not to be physically sick.
After that it was DGF, he ate like a toddler. By the age of 9 I either sat at the table so I couldn't see him, until the noise got to me or left my dinner saying I felt ill. When I complained I was sent as a punishment to the kitchen to eat on my own..bliss 🤣
I can just about cope with noise if I'm eating, but not looking, at the same time. If not, I leave the room.

Even the dog annoys the shit out of me with the noise she makes.
My own DC learnt during weaning to toddlerhood to eat nicely. Eating with mouth open resulted in no dinner! They were frequently complimented on their table manners from about the age of 2.5!
I judge anyone eating like a pig at a trough!

Oh god, sniffing, I forgot that, I recently quit a job because the boss sniffed constantly..he did say he had sinus issues since childhood . He was revolting. We dealt with high value purchases (50-100k) with customers, he would sniff constantly during meetings, You could see customers recoiling he lost so many deals which he couldn't understand 🙄 .
To get to 55 and not have sorted it medically or manage it properly is just lazy.

Yes, I judge sniffers too!

I get this but with me it’s also the pitch of some peoples voices. I literally can’t be near that person and couldn’t ever be friends with them ! It’s not them it’s me I know ….

I work with someone with a voice like a rusty gate and a dreadful case of upspeak, screeching up at the end of sentences. I cannot bear it, I have mute her on Teams else cut the camera and leave the room. It enrages me.

This also me. I had no idea there was so many of us!

Things that give me the rage in no particular order:-

Crisp crunching

People talking loudly on trains

Balls bouncing (I'm looking at my neighbour and their bastard basketball hoops - why does everyone have these now??)

Car engines which are left running for too long (other bastard neighbour)

My stepson slurping his food 🤮

I'm sure there are loads more. Everyone needs to shut the fuck up.

I understand completely. I remember being a child and covering my ears crying because my sister was eating. I did the same when there was a slurpy kiss on tv. People think it's an intolerance of bad manners and eating with mouth open, but someone can have the best table manners going but the sound of them eating is unbearable. I also can't stand whispering, murmuring or teeth brushing. I also have misokinesia. I wish I wasn't like this. I've found mimicking the sound in a caricatured way can help

I rarely go to the cinema now. The theatre used to be safe but people now seem to treat that as an extension of their lounge.

Best place I have ever been was the Wigmore Hall, with strict etiquette about when you could even turn your programme page. Bliss.

Why is it just some people who set it off? My daughter was a far more annoying person as a child re table manners than my son ever was: every meal was a battle to get her to sit up properly and not grab at food and use the cutlery correctly, but her 'mouth sounds' while eating have never ever bothered me. My son is tolerable and got better after he had his tonsils out. My blameless and lovely husband, with brilliant table manners, knows not to eat corn on the cob in the same parish as me.

I have this, and I work in the office. Due to there only usually being two of us in the office that sits 36 people, it's quiet...

The bloke I work with is a lovely bloke by all accounts... however on Friday he cracked out a packet of corn nuts. It was so loud and immediately triggered my miso, from 0 to 11 white hot rage in an instant . I ended up going outside for a cigarette and punching a brick wall, because I know I can't punch him in his fucking throat, and I was so angry.

I end up self harming because I know I can't hurt people. That's why I wear headphones the loudest they can go whenever I'm out and about. Earpods have been a fucking godsend.

Miso is an awful affliction to have, I can't help the reactions I have, in my head if someone is eating, chewing and popping gum, or whistling near me, know that in my head I am calling you a cunt and calling you every single fucking name under the fucking sun, and and I want to rip your fucking throat out. However I won't, I will just hurt myself instead.

No amount of just ignore it, get desensitised to the noise, suck it up, get over it works. The only thing that works is not hearing the noise in the first place.

The saddest thing is, is that the people who are closest to you, that you love the most trigger you the worst

Please, please, please consider letting your daughter eat alone in her room. I am speaking as someone with misophonia, you are actively causing your DD so much stress, anger and anxiety by making her sit with people triggering her. I went through this, and I have the self harm scars to prove it. I was so angry inside, so I released it by hurting the outside.

Misophonia is a neurological condition, she literally can not help it. What you're doing is the the equivalent of telling a blind person to just see.

I second what YouCantTourniquetTheTaint says, @HelpINeeedSomebody.

Let her eat on her own. I didn't eat breakfast for years because I couldn't stand the sound of my family eating. I got downstairs right before I had to leave for school, and I was sometimes light headed during morning classes as a result.

Can I join in too? I’m not too bad if we are all around the dinner table but if one of the DC eats beside me on the couch I want to scream. Years ago I worked with a woman who wore a jacket with buttons on it then hit off the table as she typed. It made my brain scream. Also false nails typing argh!!!

This is me too and I feel like it's getting worse and worse as time goes by. I feel so anxious whenever I go to a hotel regarding noise from other guests and also feel like I'm lying there almost intently listening to see if there is any noise and then get all worked up. I also can't bear neighbours talking, the sound of their TV, and especially dog barking. I have also started being sensitive when going to see shows in addition to noise I feel distressed regarding if anyone sat behind me touches my seat with their legs and I can feel it. I am finding it so hard just to live my life. I'm terrified about moving due to the fear of neighbours. It consumes me.

What gets me is kissing sounds. I hate parents with babies. When I'm trying to do a quote for them and I can't concentrate because they KEEP FUCKING KISSING THE BABY and it makes me want to kill them. I hate it. There is no worse sound for me. I would rather listen to someone vomit than kiss.

I get the rage with eating noises, particularly OH. But anyone slurping or eating crunchy food can set me off.

I live near a roundabout and the noise of lorries waiting really really hurts. I haven’t worked out though if it’s a particular type of lorry. Tractor noise also hurts.

I used to drive home from work and get the rage when I came in as OH would have music on - and I needed quiet.

Spot on. It’s really cruel. And to find her condition annoying shows a lack of understanding and empathy that will make her feel resentful, whether she shows it yet or not.

For me the worst is that wet, clicky, lip-smacky noise that noisy eaters make. And my husband’s incredibly loud swallowing. And the noise his knife makes on the plate when he cuts his food - he presses so hard with the knife it’s like he’s trying to cut through the glaze on the plate and it makes a terrible scraping/ squeaking noise.

We’re all saying “I know it’s me not them” but disgusting eating really isn’t ok, is it? It used to be considered very rude to have bad table manners, but now we’re supposed to laugh it off. I don’t understand why people even want to eat their food with their mouth wide open. It isn’t even easier. What’s going on with the people who stretch their lips to the corners like a big wide smile, then chew with their mouth wide open in that position? I’m sure some of you will know what I’m talking about.

My ex husband, not only ate like a pig at the trough but refused to talk during dinner, just sat there looking gormless shovelling food in and sitting there with his fists on the table knife and fork pointing to the ceiling.
Go out to dinner with friends, everyone would be talking as well as eating and enjoying each others company - he would just sit there chewing loudly not saying a single word.
In the end I just had meals separately from him, I just couldn't stand it. I noticed his family all ate in absolute silence too and then left the table as soon as they were done. There was no talking, no excuse me when they left.
I don't know what that was all about, he couldn't seem to adjust to fit the modern world and be sociable.

But it’s not necessarily disgusting eating though. My OH doesn’t eat with his mouth open, but I really can’t abide his eating noises.

I’m not saying that the noises are always due to disgusting eating. It’s certainly not the case for my dh for example, who swallows unusually loudly, which isn’t his fault and is nothing to do with bad eating habits. I’m saying that some of these noises are to do with disgusting eating, which is not frowned on as much as it used to be.