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Misophonia

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FuckingNoise · 14/05/2022 16:28

Anyone else suffer with this?? I'm the biggest arsehole on the planet and this really fucking makes me hate people even more. Apples and crisps are the worst. I was on a train earlier and some cunt decided to rustle their fucking wrappers and start chomping away like they'd never been fed before. What is it about trains and crisps? Not even "mild" ones like Skips they always have to be Doritos or Pringles. Honestly I felt like jumping off the fucking train just to make it stop. I can't even express how irritated and uncomfortable it makes me feel. It physically hurts me. I've shed actual tears over this before. I don't go to the cinema anymore. It makes me fucking rage. Go on give me your biscuits... at least I'll be considerate enough to eat the fuckers QUIETLY.

Yes I know I need to go and live on an island. I can't afford to. Thank fuck for air pods!!!!!!

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NellesVilla · 14/05/2022 21:51

@BlueBeeSpots , I’m so sorry to hear this. It’s shit, isn’t it?

I once had a similar situation and ended up living in my car each weekend for a while to escape it. Slightly different to your case insofar as I was living in same flat as this nuisance, but I do sympathize as when I requested quiet he just laughed and told me to F off. I was late 20s; he was 18 and a student who felt it was acceptable to come back at 1am, and put a wash on, then the dryer. I would creep to the kitchen and turn the dryer off 2 mins’ after he’d left the room every time. Awful prick.
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Neverendingmindfuck · 14/05/2022 21:54

Dogs barking/howling (fucking neighbours) lawnmowers, strimmers, shears, hedge trimmers, repetitive kids songs (baby shark can fuck itself) screaming children, cutlery on plates, TV too loud, two different sounds at once is way too much!!
Sorry, I needed to get that shit off my chest. 🤣
I think I might be a grumpy bitch 🤔

Badger1970 · 14/05/2022 21:54

You need silicone ear plugs. They filter out noise like eating. I'd be in prison without them..........

I can't bear to hear people eating, especially DH.

CornishPorsche · 14/05/2022 21:57

Another misophonia sufferer here.

Things that literally make me want to stab people:
Chewing with mouth open
Chewing noisily
Talking with a mouth full of food
Crunching crisps / apples etc
Slurping any food or drink
Biting spoons or knocking them off your teeth. Makes me shudder
Licking noises, including by animals. The cat having a bath gives me the rage, but I have to walk away or evict her from the bedroom if she's next to me
Dripping taps
Ticking clocks
Distant car or house alarms
Scraping cutlery on the plate

I used to work with a guy who the most revolting water I've ever had the misfortune to encounter. My office thought it hilarious that I was so distressed by his eating. I literally turned down evening events with the team if it was going to involved sitting at a table with him as I actually left the office whenever he ate something.

So I have huge sympathy OP. I have expensive over ear headphone for public transport - I quickly regret travelling without them.

CornishPorsche · 14/05/2022 21:58

*most revolting eater

Ohdearohdearohdear6 · 14/05/2022 22:03

Omg. Me me me 🙋‍♀️. Mouth and wrapper noises make me rage. Like 0-60 angry and I want to punch faces in. If we go to the cinema, I have to sit at the back so no-one can rustle behind me. We went to the theatre recently (my husband could only get seats 3 rows from the back) and someone behind me would eat a couple of pieces of popcorn, scrunch the packet closed, reopen it and do the whole thing again. My husband whispered to me, 'it's only a child'- must've read my mind as I couldn't focus on the show and just had delicious visions of ripping the fucking packet out of her hands and lobbing it across the audience in front of me.

mummabubs · 14/05/2022 22:09

Oh my gosh thank you! I just had to Google what misophonia is and it's 100% me!! I physically shudder at the sound of DH eating and have never been able to stomach the sound of people kissing, literally makes me want to be sick.

Bunnyfuller · 14/05/2022 22:15

As well as all the eaty/unnecessary noisy stuff I cannot bear that frantic legjiggling some people (usually men) do. Was recently at a corporate event and the chap that sat next to me…..arrghhh just fucking sit still.

my husband eating grapes is hideous, or if he gets too hungry and overfills his mouth. My youngest DD has inherited my sensitivity and gets wound up with me eating or drinking!

dontknowhow2help · 14/05/2022 22:36

Bunnyfuller · 14/05/2022 22:15

As well as all the eaty/unnecessary noisy stuff I cannot bear that frantic legjiggling some people (usually men) do. Was recently at a corporate event and the chap that sat next to me…..arrghhh just fucking sit still.

my husband eating grapes is hideous, or if he gets too hungry and overfills his mouth. My youngest DD has inherited my sensitivity and gets wound up with me eating or drinking!

I fear my daughter has taken after me as she clamped both hands over her ears when I was having corn on the cob with her (something I'd usually cut off but she likes it off the cob so thought I'd match her) and said "stop!! The noise!" She's 3.

Totally get all the rage comments, DH finally knows he has to eat his magnums elsewhere before joining me on the sofa.

midsomermurderess · 14/05/2022 23:01

Yes to fantic leg jiggling, women fiddling with and stroking their hair, gum chewing. Trains can be hellish for this. I had a colleague who ate so loudly I could have killed her. I'd have to leave the room.

CoodleMoodle · 14/05/2022 23:19

RibNSaucyArseCrack · 14/05/2022 21:24

My husband makes noises that make me want to shove him off a cliff. I don’t know how we’re still married?

the worse is my poor daughter though. She’s allergic to the dust particles in the air so she sniffs. Every 3 seconds. 24/7. It’s really effected our relationship because I have to spend a certain amount of time away from her just to calm the rage.

I feel sorry for your DD but also for you - sniffing is horrendous.

Neither of my kids, nor my DH, can blow their nose properly and when they have even the tiniest of colds the sniffing makes me want to scream. DS is 3 so I should let him off a bit (and yet I can't), but DD is 8 and DH is 33 and they both need to bloody well learn how to blow their noses!

AllKnowingGerbil · 14/05/2022 23:29

Same here

Imagine my delight when my (office) workplace started playing the radio all day. Now I leave work with a migraine and spend my day in a state of anxiety and rage trying to block out noise so I can focus. I've complained but was told its the reality of office life.

Oh and my neighbour has the news on 24/7 so there's no respite at home, other than when I resort to wearing ear defenders and sleep with a white noise app running.

If I win the lottery I'm buying several acres and building a thick walled house in the middle of it all.

Handyweatherstation · 15/05/2022 09:21

SlatsandFlaps · 14/05/2022 21:22

What did you say?!

It was a while ago now, but something along the lines of 'That's disgusting, will you please stop licking every meat ball' which, thankfully, he did.

I don't understand how his parents hadn't noticed that their children had such revolting table manners, though it was likely because they often ate in front of the television and would have missed the slobbering. Still, they did eat at a table here and there so it should have been obvious.

AffIt · 15/05/2022 09:38

The noise that really makes me want to put my fist into somebody's face is that awful 'appreciative' half gasp/slurp noise that some people make when drinking a cup of tea, often accompanied by 'ooh, that hits the spot' or some other nonsensical fuckery.

FOR FUCK'S SAKE CALM DOWN - IT'S A CUP OF TEA, NOT A CURE FOR CANCER.

I have a very dear friend who does this. All I can say is thank god for her many, many other good qualities.

thewooster · 15/05/2022 09:58

Thanks for posting this OP, I am totally with you. I need to leave the room if folk eat crisps - I hate the crunch, the sound of the hand rustling the bag. Apple eating or raw carrots give me the rage as well as slurping cereals, soup and jangling the spoon in the bowl.

I wanted to strangle my sister when she ate a boiled sweet, oh god the noise, I can still hear the sucky sucky slurp noise.

Also had a boss who used to tidy up A4 paper documents on by tapping them on the desk until they were all straight. Tap tap tap all horizontal, turn and tap tap tap all vertical. Could have killed her.

I turn off babies crying on the telly and Beyonce wailing on the radio.

Even that Butlins advert on the tv at the moment with Fleur East wailing gives me the rage.

Noisy cars and motorbikes get to me too.

I know it's me and my problem.

SuziSecondLaw · 15/05/2022 10:00

AffIt · 15/05/2022 09:38

The noise that really makes me want to put my fist into somebody's face is that awful 'appreciative' half gasp/slurp noise that some people make when drinking a cup of tea, often accompanied by 'ooh, that hits the spot' or some other nonsensical fuckery.

FOR FUCK'S SAKE CALM DOWN - IT'S A CUP OF TEA, NOT A CURE FOR CANCER.

I have a very dear friend who does this. All I can say is thank god for her many, many other good qualities.

Omg my dp does this, every single sip of tea is a slurp.. I hate it 😤

Nevergoingtobemrsjones · 15/05/2022 10:18

Thank god it’s not just me
mine are snoring and screaming (I just give dp a whack and he moves)
it hurts so badly-it’s like razor blades in my brain
i remember going to the zoo one day with dp and my stepdaughters (aged 11 and 16 at the time)
they sat in the back and just made loud ‘rah’ noises at each other
the pain was that bad I almost jumped out of a moving car
i asked them to shut up,they ignored me and once we got there,I ran away-the pain in my ears was awful
they only fucking ‘rahed’ all the way round until I ended up losing it with the pair of them
its not a joke-I wanted to sling myself in the lions den to get eaten-it would have been less painful

i was ‘unreasonable’ and ‘nasty’ to the little poppets…

ladymalfoy45 · 15/05/2022 10:24

@mathanxiety slurping hot drinks. I could punch my DH. And he slurps cereal.

ladymalfoy45 · 15/05/2022 10:30

AND AND DH howls when he yawns.

BlueBeeSpots · 15/05/2022 10:33

I wonder whether anyone else has particular syllables (for want of the right word) that they dislike? I take phone calls all day for work so it could be a side effect of that. I DETEST the word ‘book’ (as in to book this or that) It makes everyone who uses it sound like a chicken.

Or anything with a ‘ck’ sound for that matter. ‘Orthopaedic Clinic’ gives me the rage. It annoys me when it comes out of my own mouth too: instead of using the word ‘can’ I’ve swapped to ‘may’ which feels a lot better to me.

FuckingNoise · 15/05/2022 10:34

BlueBeeSpots · 15/05/2022 10:33

I wonder whether anyone else has particular syllables (for want of the right word) that they dislike? I take phone calls all day for work so it could be a side effect of that. I DETEST the word ‘book’ (as in to book this or that) It makes everyone who uses it sound like a chicken.

Or anything with a ‘ck’ sound for that matter. ‘Orthopaedic Clinic’ gives me the rage. It annoys me when it comes out of my own mouth too: instead of using the word ‘can’ I’ve swapped to ‘may’ which feels a lot better to me.

The word "delicious" makes my shit itch. Hate it.

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beautifulworldwhereareyou · 15/05/2022 10:39

My ex used to eat so loudly. It was like he’d just mash the food against the roof of his mouth with his tongue instead of using his teeth. And the lip smacking 😣it was ok with food that was crunchier but he used to constantly eat ready meals that were like lasagna or cottage pie and it was unbearable. I would beg him to please please eat quieter and he would say he could do what he wanted in his own house. No wonder he’s an ex.

SmurfysLaw · 15/05/2022 10:41

The rage is irrational, nothing make me more angry than those annoying little noises. I have given myself headaches from clenching my teeth so tightly. I know it’s my issue and wish it didn’t affect me.

Normal chewing isn’t too bad for me. It’s the first crunch into a crisp, prawn cracker, apple that is infuriating or open mouth chewing or sucking your tongue against the roof of your mouth while open mouth chewing 😡

My husband is a fast eater and he only chews his food a couple times. He’ll put a big forkful in, chew a few times and noisily gulp swallow because he hasn’t broken down the food properly. I actually counted once, he’ll have 3-4 bites to my 1. He also makes a little noise before putting the fork in his mouth, like a little gasp of air. I don’t know how he is still alive.

People sucking or clicking their tongue against their teeth, especially after eating😡Use a damn toothpick if if you have food stuck.

Slurping 😡
Screeching children 😡
Dripping taps 😡
people who don’t use earphones when listening to music, playing games or on a call 😡
tapping against my seat (especially on a plane!!) 😡
Cracking knuckles 😡That one also makes me feel queasy
Disgusting wet sniffing which you then hear them swallowing or the noise someone makes when clearing their nose and throat to then spit out 😡😷😩

Starbucksbasic123 · 15/05/2022 10:42

I hate loud breathing, eating noises and tapping. Snoring is another. I’ve been in airports before and wanted to scream. I need my air pods with me at all times and I even take the old apple wire earphones in case the air pods are out of charge.

I am aware that it’s my issue but so many people eat like absolute animals.

Lillygolightly · 15/05/2022 10:46

I have this, the ridiculous thing is is that I’m deaf in one ear too which you think would help but doesn’t!!!

I have never known anyone gulp and swallow a drink so loudly as DH!! His sneezes are on another level (loud and dramatic) and makes the babies cry. He has learned to try and drown his sneezes or goes into another room but the gulping and eating I can do nothing about. To be fair I haven’t even mentioned those to him as I feel really bad so I sit there silently ranging instead.

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