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I had my first ever experience of a man waving at me to help me park
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AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 12/05/2022 18:05

In my own driveway Confused The man had come to do some work on the rear of my car so he asked me to drive forwards onto my drive, so the back end was pointing towards the road. As I did so he walked to the front end of my car and waved me in. Why do they DO this?! I was so tempted to ask him if he'd have done that if I was a man Hmm It's my drive, I park on it several times a day, I know where it ends and I know the size of my car. And even if I was struggling, my car has parking sensors on both ends anyway!
Urgh.

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DenholmElliot · 12/05/2022 19:33

😂They just cant help themselves can they?

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Sparklingbrook · 12/05/2022 19:47

If he was working on the rear of your car did he want a certain amount of space behind it to put stuff etc? Just a thought.

I've never encountered this. Grin

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AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 12/05/2022 20:12

Sparklingbrook

If he was working on the rear of your car did he want a certain amount of space behind it to put stuff etc? Just a thought.

I've never encountered this. Grin

@Sparklingbrook No, there was plenty of room for him at the back of the car as he had the pavement there too. I guess he thought I couldn't see my house in front of me or something and was worried I'd drive through the wall...

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Clymene · 12/05/2022 20:13

You should have pinned him to the wall

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AmandaHoldensLips · 12/05/2022 20:15

I'm particularly fond of the way men will try to recreate the problem you've just explained, then suck their teeth and explain the problem to you which you already explained and showed to them.

It's like some weird space/time continuum.

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AppleKatie · 12/05/2022 20:18

Did you say anything to him?

it is infuriating when this happens. The last time it happened to me I glared at him until he stopped but I wish I’d said something. Fortunately it’s been a long time since someone did this to me- I thought (hoped) it was dying out.

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Sparklingbrook · 12/05/2022 20:22

AintNobodyHereButUsChickens

Sparklingbrook

If he was working on the rear of your car did he want a certain amount of space behind it to put stuff etc? Just a thought.

I've never encountered this. Grin

@Sparklingbrook No, there was plenty of room for him at the back of the car as he had the pavement there too. I guess he thought I couldn't see my house in front of me or something and was worried I'd drive through the wall...

Ah ok. (Although he shouldn't block the pavement to work on a a car) Don't know then, trying to help but got it wrong, maybe some people appreciate it? Who knows what he was thinking. Did he fix the car though?

I am now worried why this has never happened to me.

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vipersnest1 · 12/05/2022 20:27

It could be worse - I was looking for a particular item in a DIY shop, and wanted to know if a particular product was suitable so I asked a member of staff. He turned the product over, took out a pen and read the back to me, pointing at each word as he went. Just to confirm, I am perfectly literate! HmmConfusedGrin

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MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig · 12/05/2022 20:28

I once parallel parked my car and got out to an elderly gentleman watching me. He said well done, that was a marvellous bit of parking! I just smiled and said thanks, he was genuinely being nice but it did occur to me that a man parking his car so well might not have garnered such surprise. 😄

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Bouledeneige · 12/05/2022 20:30

A friend of mine was telling me her elderly Dad was compulsive about doing this. She found it really embarrassing. One time when she was with him and he did it the young woman got out of her car and said 'fuck off old timer'. He was very shocked.

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bellac11 · 12/05/2022 20:30

A woman did this to me at work. I was annoyed because she kept telling me to move back but my sensors were beeping and Ive already dented the back myself because I thought I knew better than the sensors so i wasnt going to trust a complete stranger.

I wouldnt want to trust someone else because if you dent your car, its their fault but you've got no comeback because you let them guide you

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bellsbuss · 12/05/2022 20:31

If it's a small space normally really glad of the help, if it's one that's no bother I just think duck off.

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PowerfulWombSpaceRespector · 12/05/2022 20:36

When I was too young and too nice, parking in a car park, an old man leant in the open car window and grabbed the steering wheel to turn it for me.

Only yesterday DH banged the back of my car to indicate I should stop reversing. One, I had already stopped. Two, I was only driving him because a. He's too scared of driving my car and b. He couldn't park it anyway, even with front and back beepers.

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EatingToast · 12/05/2022 20:40

I drive a bus, often down residential streets where it can be a bit tight, parked cars, trees etc. I know the gaps I can get through and the gaps I can't, but for some reason guys, normally ones in a white van, seem to think I need 'help' driving my bus. They get very enthusiastic about waving me through, "you can get a bus through there love" etc. Actually no I can't 'love' cause those branches are gonna take out all the windows on the top deck if I tryHmm 100% they wouldn't be trying to 'help' one of my male colleagues like that, they'd assume he knew what he was doing.

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MiniatureHotdog · 12/05/2022 20:49

I get a similar thing often when reversing onto our drive. I pull up alongside it (not blocking anything) and wait until the road is clear as I need to swing out to be able to get the right angle.

So many times men (always men) stop and wave for me to pull out (onto the road). I wave them on, because obviously I don't want to drive down the road.

Sometimes they get quite cross that I'm not doing what they say and start waving madly at me to pull out like I'm an idiot. A guy the other day actually flicked me the finger before driving off when I smiled and waved him on several times.

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AintNobodyHereButUsChickens · 12/05/2022 23:00

If men have nothing else, they have the audacity...

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dollymuchymuchness · 12/05/2022 23:07

I was reversing out of a space at a supermarket; I look in my side mirror and a man was waving me back. I opened the car door and politely told him I could manage as I had mirrors, sensors and a reversing camera!

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richardhammondsgoatee · 12/05/2022 23:08

A man tried this with me the other day but stood in such a way I couldn't even see him properly anyway. He had a kid with him as it was school pick up and I couldn't see the kid at all when he moved into his oh so helpful position! I stopped and twisted round so I could glare at him til he went away. I was just about to roll down my window when he decided to move on....good job really, I'm super hormonal and I'm pretty sure that excuses me from any responsibility for my actions 👍

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SisterAgatha · 12/05/2022 23:10

I get it all the time and I can reverse park anything.

“See you in love?”

no mate, watch me park this car like a bad bitch, stand back!

I’ve had men clap me after. Or “I couldn’t have got in there”. Condescending to the end.

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FrankGrillosFloof · 12/05/2022 23:12

How did you resist just flooring it and running him clean over? I honestly couldn’t stop myself.

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Blaze1886 · 12/05/2022 23:18

Why didn't you say something to him at the time?

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vipersnest1 · 12/05/2022 23:19

Oh, and another one....
I was buying a second hand mobile in a well known shop and asked about transferring my contacts. The man serving me told me all about how it would be transferred 'through the cloud' complete with hand gestures above his head. DC2 and I fell about with laughter - and no, the contacts didn't transfer.

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Kat1953 · 12/05/2022 23:34

God, I have discovered that nothing takes me from peace-loving hippie to total raging psycho more quickly or more effectively than a bloke Mansplaining my parking or manoeuvre.

Nothing.

If I'm ever up on a murder charge, this will be why.

🤬

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BitOutOfPractice · 12/05/2022 23:41

DP “helpfully” turned off the auto “engine off when you’re stationary” button today while I was driving. He got short shrift.

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whatisthisinhere · 12/05/2022 23:43

I've had this from random men, who have no interest in why I'm parking. Once a man stopped his car in front of my drive to tell me how to park my car on my own drive which I have done on multiple occasions very successfully.
But the absolute worst, is random men telling me how I should walk or instruct my big for his age German shepherd, while he walks to heel, and I'm obviously busy guiding him past some heavy traffic and socialising him to a busy environment. That one gives me the fucking rage. It's usually Ken with dogs too, the ones with dogs usually respectfully give me space because they recognise what I'm doing

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