Life after death - mediums?

[Yumyumcakes]

So I’ve been watching that show ‘life after death with Tyler henry’ and it’s all so believable, it’s got me thinking despite my logically rational mind that I really want to see a medium. My dad died last summer and he is terribly missed.

I know the majority consensus is mediums= con artists who exploit grief. Logically I can see why, they may ‘prove’ themselves with details on the deceased death, but the person grieving person already knows that and aside from that even in the case of Tyler henry nothing new is really presented. But god emotionally there is a pull.

anyone had a remotely positive experience with a medium?

also what do people make of that Tyler henry? Con artist with a smile?

(also worth saying I DO see a grief counsellor, mentioned it to them and all the said was for some people it does provide a great deal of comfort and closure)

please no nasty comments

Firstly, sorry for your loss. Grief is a terrible, physical pain that, unfortunately, only begins to heal with time.
I lost my mum suddenly 25 years ago. She was only young and obviously I still miss her, but I'm no longer on the floor. I went to see a psychic and looking back, he did provide some comfort (you just want to know they're OK, don't you?!). I know now, though , that he wasn't talking to my mum at all. He was hot / warm / cold reading. I watch a lot of you tube videos ( Miklos Jako debunking James Van Pragh is the best), and I know they're just charlatans. But I understand what you're saying.
My friend lost her dh very suddenly and was absolutely distraught. She just couldn't cope. Anyway, she went to see a psychic and the next day, practically bounced into the staffroom, having had finally a decent night's sleep. That psychic did provide a service, at the same time, he took money and lied to someone at her most vulnerable.
So, overall, no. I don't like them.
Continue with your counselling ; remember your dad and all the good times and he'll never be far away.

My now exH went to see a medium with his mother after his father died suddenly in 1992. The medium refused to take money, refused any personal information other than first names. He revealed some very personal information (in times before internet was around) that could only have been known about by someone in the family and my ex fully believed he was communicating with his father. He took great comfort from his visit, but his mum was very very angry that her husband had died and was OK, with her father, etc whilst she had been 'left behind to deal with all the shit' and it wasn't a positive experience for her at all. Apparently a true medium will never take money for their 'services' believing that they have been given a gift and should not profit from it.

i think the ability to have a conversation with him one more time god how amazing that would be. I guess it’s confirmation that death isn’t the true end, you know that eternal comfort that we’ll be reunited with our loved ones. But mainly I’d like to know he’s ok and he’s not alone, he never really believed in anything so talking about him in the context of heaven, especially in the theistic sense , seems disingenuous and provides no real comfort. His passing was traumatic, it was an icu, casualty of no joined up healthcare and covid delays, so I’d like to know if he’s ‘ok’ with how it happened.

i had a google and all the mediums charge around me, i mean they have good reviews but yeah if you throw enough shit out, something will stick. God I’m conflicted. That ol’ heart v head dichotomy

@Yumyumcakes , I hear you and I understand that need for one last conversation. But you wouldn't be having a conversation with him because, sadly, it's not true.
When I feel like this, and my siblings and I still often do, we get together, get the photos out, sing some hymns ( some of us still practicing catholics. I'm not, but doesn't matter, my mum was ), drink her favourite drink and, remember.
Do you have family / friends you could do that with ?

No I don't believe the living can communicate with the dead

Sorry about your loss, I often have a cry that I can't talk to my loved one again, instead I just chat to their picture, I find it comforting even though its a one way street.

Please don't pay money for those grief thief's though, they cannot talk/communicate/know anything, they're preying on people, as they know people would do anything for that one last Convo, I'd give anything to have it, but it's not possible. They're horrendous con artists who should feel ashamed of themselves.

Is there a Spiritualist Church near you? You’d have to attend a service I expect but I got great comfort from that.
Some mediums are better than others of course but in my experience, towards the end of the service, the medium comes to people in the congregation with information from “the other side.”
Try that first?
More for fun than anything I also watch “The Long Island Medium” on TV. Not sure what channel but up in the 40’s somewhere. She’s American but brings a lot of comfort to many people.

Google her.

Google your local area to see if you have a spiritual list church. Attend a service. A service is where a medium stands at the front and gives out messages to those they are called to.
It will cost very little and hopefully will give you what you need.
I attend my local church regularly. I also practice mediumship but I don’t charge, I do it where and when I can to help people through their grief. I don’t and would never ask for more than their first name and the only responses I ask for during reading are yes or no. A genuine medium may charge for their time, your local church would be a brilliant place to ask for a genuine and talented local medium recommendation.

They're just vague things cleverly presented. If they were real, they would be more specific. If you were dead and wanted to reach someone still living, no sensible person would say 'It's John, with a message for Mary' and rely on that finding the person. You'd say 'It's John Michael Jones of 1 Anystreet, Milton Keynes who died in 2007 of a heart attack with a message for Mary Jane Jones, his niece, of 10 Acacia Avenue, Milton Keynes.'

@Amdone123 unfortunately not, which is what I think makes the allure all the stronger. Sibling acted atrociously during his death as did mother. And sadly I’ve noticed that a lot of ‘friends’ distanced themselves after he passed away.

That’s a good idea! Thank you!

Also @RubyReigns what do you make of Tyler henry?

@Yumyumcakes , sorry to hear you're not in a position to chat with friends or family.
You've got your counselling which is great. What about, support groups in your area ?

I had a gypsy come into work one day trying to sell heather. She grabbed my hand, and said that she was so sorry that I was grieving so hard and that it would one day be better (my Nan had recently died). She said that whoever had died had taken great comfort from my looking after them, and that they were at peace. She also told me that I had 4 DC only 1 hadn't made it and I was terribly sad for not having them with me. She told me that I needed to open up to others and not carry my sadness alone. And that reaching out for help wasn't the weakness that I thought it was...........

All of which was true. She refused to take any money, and told me that I would a very lucky lady in life and gave me a crystal to keep with me at all times.

Who knows...........

But talking about grief is the best way of dealing with it, OP. Whoever you chose to talk to. Just don't keep it inside.

Honestly I have no idea who Tyler Henry is sorry!

I had a telephone reading with a medium last year. All the people I cared about who have died have been gone a long time so I wasn't desperate for information. The medium told me what the last conversation I'd had on the phone with my late dad had been, very specific as it was about his son from another relationship having got out of prison for armed robbery. I've had lots of other "explain that" moments over the years too but I also think there are a lot of people who are fakes .

I’m sorry for your loss.
Mediums are charlatans who at best are themselves delusional and at worst con artists.
No counsellor should be recommending you visit one.
Unfortunately dealing with grief is a terrible thing and there are no easy answers.

I really do not know if there are any real mediums, or indeed if there is life after death. But so many people say they've had an experience or a really spot on reading. My first love died from cancer over 20 years ago and he promised me that if there was life after death he would show me by blowing out a candle. Well, I lit a candle every night and in my intense grief I begged for him to show me but it never happened.
However a few years later I was at my very lowest during a really dark time in my life and I was honestly sat thinking of ending my life, all of a sudden I felt such a strong loving presence and there was a shadowy figure next to me. I was mesmerised and from then on my life turned around. No idea what that was but I've always told myself that it was my late partner, or my guardian angel!

You might have misread what I put in the OP, I mentioned it to the counsellor and they said they said people believe different things and some people find comfort and closure from these sorts of things…

i hadn’t until I saw this Netflix show… basically he’s an American medium with tv show lol

I didn’t misread your post.
A lot of people claim to be mediums and psychics. But they’re not. They can’t reach the dead. There is no evidence of life after death. If you find comfort in your beliefs then obviously you can do whatever you want. But please don’t pay anyone to tell you what you want to hear. It really is a very exploitative industry set up purely to tap into vulnerable peoples strongest hopes and desires. Again, I’m very sorry for your loss.

I’m sorry for your loss.
I saw a Medium 3 weeks after my partner died. She knew nothing about me, just my first name. I’d never met her before and I wasn’t even driving my own car that day. She told me at least 20 facts, all true, about 8 names, all correct. There was no dithering and I definitely didn’t feed her.
I’ve also given messages to people who told me what I said was accurate. No idea how it worked, it just did.
Try to get a recommendation from someone local to you or go along to your local Spiritualist church. I hope you get a good reading, it’s a help.

I watched the Tyler Henry programme and I thought some of the mediums - especially that Dutch one with her colleagues were absolutely faking it and had googled the subjects previously.

My best friend saw a medium in the London area and thought she was genuine but all the dead apparently wanted to talk about was cushions, a new sofa and the like. Nothing particularly about the relationship with the living or unfinished business.

Personally I don't believe you can communicate with the dead.

Ha, so many posters giving their personal experiences with mediums who have seemingly been the real deal, taken no money etc…. Then every few posts there are the typically narrow minded ‘No, it’s categorically not true, they’re all thieves and charlatans’. So predictable 🙄