Sneezing and wetting yourself ffs

[motherofchihuahuas]

I'm 43.

Ffs sneezed violently a few times and a slight bit of wee came out. Ffs. Is this my life now.

This absolutely!

Same as the current HRT situation, if it were men who were suffering, it would be sorted.

Omg I'm so pleased I'm not alone. I have a dreadful cold atm (not covid). Can't stop coughing and sneezing and have gone through 3 changes of knickers and leggings today. Good job I am wfh and can change easily and put the washing on.

I recently had some kind of stomach bug and hadn't realised how bad my pelvic floor had got till I was vomiting into a toilet while standing up (in a brand new hotel room bathroom of all places) while a pool of urine slowly gathered at my feet. I was splashing through it.....

I now dread the thought of having a sudden bout of vomiting in public. I really want to go on a boat trip on holiday but it's guaranteed to be choppy and I do get seasick so I don't know how I'm going to get round the vomiting/peeing myself thing! Surrounded by people, as if the vomiting in front of them isn't bbad enough!!

For weeks after I had proper flu, every time I coughed I would wet myself (a bit) and fart at the same time. 😱

Exactly!

I've had four children, am nearly 60 and do not have a problem coughing and sneezing.

Probably because I was told and told and told to do pelvic floor exercises by the midwives.

That ^^

Link below 70-80% of stress incontinence can be cured within 4 months

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/guest_posts/2085688-Guest-post-Stress-incontinence-Fallen-fanjos-are-a-feminist-issue

I think midwives get you at totally the wrong time. I was only told about doing pelvic floor exercises when I was in hospital after giving birth. I'd had been awake for 32 hours straight, was in huge amount of pain and discomfort in my nether regions and was struggling to breastfeed. I couldn't be discharged because I had a suspected clot in my leg. I just wanted to go home to get comfortable and start recovering. What I DIDN'T want is a midwife coming to tell me that in in the near future or maybe much later I might wee a bit when I sneeze unless I do the exercises on the piece of paper they give you. I barely listened I was nearly incoherent wtih exhaustion and worried that my baby wasn't feeding properly. It's TOTALLY the wrong time to approach women about this, I have no idea at all why they do that at that time. No-one wants to attempt to squeeze the muscles down there when you're still agony from stitches and you're scared to go to the toilet so its' pointless a hospital midwife trying to get you to do it while you're in hospital so that they know you understand what they mean. What should happen is at the postnatal check weeks later with the GP (if they still do that), you should also see a nurse separately specifically to discuss pelvic floor stuff.

The physio I saw gave me a gadget which was excellent.
A later physio told me you have to feel your muscles start and stop and then build up the time- it's no good thinking you are squeezing for ages when the muscles have just stopped.

I am nearly 77 and have just started to have what is called stress incontinence now.I have had COPD for the past 5 years , which is the cause of it. In COPD you get flare ups which consist of wheezing and terrible violent coughing fits about every 3-4 months.The severe coughing is what causes you to wet yourself.
I resort to period pants then as I hate pads with a vengence.
Up till now I have had any trouble at all.Both of my children were born by caesarean section.I remember getting post natal exercises shown to me while in hospital but I failed to carry them out because of the pain from my wound.

I've had 3 children and my bladder is getting unreliable. Today I needed a wee and I tripped over and a little bit came out. Must have been the shock/lack of focus on holding it n!

Not all incontinence can be fixed but an awful lot of it can be improved if not cured with the right treatment. A good women’s health physio can really help. So many women think it’s inevitable after babies and it really isn’t. I have to admit to shouting at the tv when the Tena ads are on, if
my mate told me at a yoga class her pad was bursting with wee I’d be advising her to seek medical advice not chuckling and telling her to buy Tena instead.

Yup. Have to do a quick leg cross every time a sneeze comes.

Trampolines are only safe if I've cleared my bladder before I go on them.

Wouldn't mind so much but I've never even had a child! I'm also 43 OP.

When I had pelvic floor physio the physio ensured I was doing the kegals correctly by placing her finger in my vagina whilst I did them. She actually discovered my pelvic muscles were permenantly in spasm from a combination of me constantly clenching for fear of wetting myself and some nerve damage so I had to have therapeutic vaginal massage (not in anyway kinky). Only then could I learn to correctly do my pelvic floor exercises in a way that made a difference.

I still can't cough much without wetting and I'm never going to be back to a pre-kids state and I have to wear pads, but it's soooooo much better than it was, I feel I have my life back.