How would you book hotel room for this?

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My DP and I are going away for a night, taking both of the children. Mine is an 11year old girl, he has an 11 year old boy. I'm just looking at accommodation- this is probably a stupid question but would you book a double for us and twin for the kids?!? They get on really well, both responsible etc as far as kids that age are! I've never had to think about it before. Can you ask that the rooms are close to each other?

I'd book a family room or two rooms one for each parent and child. I wouldn't put two 11 year olds in a room by themselves.

I wouldn’t want to impose that on them at that age, assuming your DD has started puberty. I would share with my child and get DP to do the same.

Family room, or family suite, or interconnecting rooms

As mature as 11yr olds can be, I wouldn’t leave them both together in a room without adult supervision unless it was an adjoining room with door between. Or a family room.
think of a fire, fire alarm goes off what would they do.
something goes wrong what would they do.

Id get an adjoining room with door, or two rooms one for you and DD and one for your other half and their child

Apartment hotel? Air bnb?

otherwise 2 hotel rooms and each adult shares with their child.

you can cope being apart one night surely!

You absolutely cannot expect an 11 girl to share with a boy she isn't related to! How awkward for her.

My 11 year old would likely also feel uncomfortable in a family suite with unrelated men.

I think you book two twins, for each parent and child.

Of course we can cope being apart for a night, I've just never done this before so was looking for ideas! 😂 looking at airb&b too.

No, at 11 they are too young to be in a separate hotel room. Many hotels insist on someone in the room being over 16.

Even without that I wouldn’t make two opposite sex 11yos who presumably don’t know each other that well share a room.

The first time we went away as a blended family, I shared a room with my DD and DP shared with his DS.
We went away for a week.
Now we take DSS, 17yrs old, on holiday abroad, my DD is older and has moved out, we share a family room, I've seen a thread on MN where this scenario is considered strange but it doesn't bother DSS.

You simply get a family room can’t believe you’ve had to ask tbh. You can’t leave 11 year olds on their own in a hotel and not together when their not related. Your thinking’s way off .

@Fcuk38 I did ask because I wanted to check what people thought the reasonable thing was - one of my friends had said that she would book it like this so I was just asking opinions! There is no need to be rude.

It's not really appropriate to leave two unrelated, opposite sex 11yo's unattended in a hotel room overnight.

I would either get two rooms and you each share with your child, or rent a flat or apartment so you're all in the same area together.

What? Seriously??

You can't have 2 11 year olds in a room alone gat the very least the hotel booking form would need to have one adult/one child per room.

We'd get a family room, all in together.

Is your daughter comfortable sharing a family room with two males she isn't related to? It does feel like asking a lot of her.

I don’t think you can expect two unrelated different sex 11 year olds to share on any basis. So no family room either.
Two rooms, each parent with their respective kid.

In order of preference in a hotel for one night:
family room
two inter connecting rooms
one adult and one child in two separate rooms
I doubt hotels will allow two 11 year olds in a room alone

However I’m more likely to book and Airbnb for the extra space for anything over a night

@WaterBottle123 she knows them both very well, but I will book two twins. I'm just looking at airb&b too.

To add if a family room has shared beds you would need to share with your daughter

Yes I've got that @CeeceeBloomingdale, I wouldn't expect her to share a bed with anyone else!

I would book an air b&b with 3 bedrooms/sleeping spaces.

Everyone jumping in to say "you can't possibly leave two children in a room unsupervised..." is it not obvious that the OP would only book them all in the same room or 1 parent and 1 child in each room? 🙁

OP directly said that that's exactly what her friend would recommend, so no, not obvious at all.

It wouldn’t even occur to me to put them together, I would get a room with my child and he gets a room with his... simple.

Two twin rooms.

I am not keen on Air BnB or similar sites because of their impact on local communities.

I would say a) they're too young to be sharing a room alone, regardless of their relationship & being opposite sex - two 11yos are just a bit young. Maybe OK if interconnected rooms? & b) by the time they ARE old enough, the fact that they're opposite sex & unrelated will make it inappropriate.

I feel your pain though - I've got a 17yo ds, 16 & 14 yo dds & a dp with an 11yo dd to juggle. It's like that puzzle where you have to get a fox, a chicken & a bag of grain across a river in a rowing boat that only has room for two of them at a time...