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OrlandointheWilderness · 01/05/2022 16:41

Thank you everyone for your input. I am 100% taking everything on board - I did question it which is why I posted. Sometimes it is easy to doubt yourself!

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fairylightsandwaxmelts · 01/05/2022 16:58

CherieBabySpliffUp · 01/05/2022 09:30

Everyone jumping in to say "you can't possibly leave two children in a room unsupervised..." is it not obvious that the OP would only book them all in the same room or 1 parent and 1 child in each room? 🙁

She says the complete opposite right there in the OP:

"I'm just looking at accommodation- this is probably a stupid question but would you book a double for us and twin for the kids?!?"

Hallyup89 · 01/05/2022 17:03

I wouldn't have a problem with two opposite sex 11 year olds sharing a twin room, although I wouldn't leave them in a completely separate room. Interconnecting would be fine. Either that or a family room, or two twins with each parent with their own child.

SausagePourHomme · 01/05/2022 17:11

When you were an 11 year old girl OP would you have wanted to share a room with an unrelated 11 year old boy?

Might get deleted for this but I just despair how when people get a new boyfriend their common sense for their kids goes out the window.

Ponderingwindow · 01/05/2022 17:26

Two 11yo siblings of the opposite sex could be in an adjoining/interconnected room to the parent’s room. These children are not siblings and are old enough that even if the op and her partner were to marry, they won’t be able to form the same bond that comes from seeing your sibling cared for as a young child. They should not be asked to share a room.

TokyoTen · 01/05/2022 17:42

I would either book a whole place on airbnb or similar so it's like a house with 3 bedrooms for you all, or I'd book 2 rooms but ask the hotel to ensure the rooms are adjoining and leave the door open. We have twins and they were super naughty together and that's what we did.

Blossomtoes · 01/05/2022 17:56

Candleabra · 01/05/2022 09:26

I don’t think you can expect two unrelated different sex 11 year olds to share on any basis. So no family room either.
Two rooms, each parent with their respective kid.

This. You each share a room with your own child.

PumpkinsandKittens · 01/05/2022 20:33

SausagePourHomme · 01/05/2022 17:11

When you were an 11 year old girl OP would you have wanted to share a room with an unrelated 11 year old boy?

Might get deleted for this but I just despair how when people get a new boyfriend their common sense for their kids goes out the window.

Yep! Mad someone would even be asking this...

underneaththeash · 01/05/2022 21:00

I’d ask your DD. My 11yo is very young as are many 11yo boys and they’d be happy sharing an adjoined room if they knew each other.
otherwise, yes, you just share with your daughter.

Alwayswonderedwhy · 01/05/2022 21:02

We book two rooms. One adult and one child in each. The kids are too young to have their own room in a hotel.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 01/05/2022 21:11

SausagePourHomme · 01/05/2022 17:11

When you were an 11 year old girl OP would you have wanted to share a room with an unrelated 11 year old boy?

Might get deleted for this but I just despair how when people get a new boyfriend their common sense for their kids goes out the window.

I beg your pardon?!

I was given advice by a friend I trusted on what she thought. I wanted further opinions so I posted on here, there is absolutely no need to be so rude. My BF and I have been together for a year and have introduced the children carefully and considerately. My common sense is well and truly intact thank you, there is absolutely nothing wrong in double checking advice if it does not feel quite right. The fault lies here with people being disparaging and rude - with that attitude people may not even feel they can post. A little kindness goes a long way.

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SausagePourHomme · 01/05/2022 22:49

OrlandointheWilderness · 01/05/2022 21:11

I beg your pardon?!

I was given advice by a friend I trusted on what she thought. I wanted further opinions so I posted on here, there is absolutely no need to be so rude. My BF and I have been together for a year and have introduced the children carefully and considerately. My common sense is well and truly intact thank you, there is absolutely nothing wrong in double checking advice if it does not feel quite right. The fault lies here with people being disparaging and rude - with that attitude people may not even feel they can post. A little kindness goes a long way.

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you're posting on mumsnet, you must have expected a range of opinions. Applying common sense to your friend's suggestion, you'd have rejected it straight away, just like you would if school wanted to put your kid in a room with a child of the opposite sex on a school residential.

downtonupton · 01/05/2022 23:14

TBH I would go family room - but all these people saying that unrelated children shouldn't share - don't know the whole story (and neither do I).

Adopted siblings would share in the blink of an eye - if these two have been step sibling since they were very little, then I would let them share. If only a couple of years, then maybe not.

downtonupton · 01/05/2022 23:15

downtonupton · 01/05/2022 23:14

TBH I would go family room - but all these people saying that unrelated children shouldn't share - don't know the whole story (and neither do I).

Adopted siblings would share in the blink of an eye - if these two have been step sibling since they were very little, then I would let them share. If only a couple of years, then maybe not.

just saw that you have only been together a year - I wouldn't be so keen to have them share a room alone

Boosterquery · 02/05/2022 01:29

If you're staying in a hotel, I think you should book two twin rooms with you and your DD in one and your partner and his DS in the other. I don't think a family room is appropriate, as I don't think it's appropriate to expect your DD to share a room with your partner given your DD's age and the fact you've only been with your partner for a year.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 02/05/2022 09:09

No I won't be booking a family room.
I've no problem at all with a range of opinions @SausagePourHomme, of course I haven't. And yes my initial feeling was to reject the idea but I thought it was worth gathering a few more thoughts on the matter. My issue is not with the opinions gathered, it is with the way they have been expressed by a couple of posters. I do think that mumsnet brings out the worst aspects in people who are far to quick to forget that actually they are giving advice to a real person. I'm not an idiot, I'm just a normal mother trying my best and yes I've obviously asked a ridiculous question but I am not the first to make an error am I!?

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NancyJoan · 02/05/2022 09:15

When I was that age, I was expected to share a hotel room with my Mum’s partner’s son, who was about a year older. I was so anxious about it, but didn’t feel able to say, and ended up being violently sick after dinner, which meant my mum shared with me instead. I was besides myself about it.

mintich · 02/05/2022 09:59

Premier inns do family rooms. I'm sure a lot of larger hotels will too, otherwise an Airbnb

SausagePourHomme · 02/05/2022 13:03

OrlandointheWilderness · 02/05/2022 09:09

No I won't be booking a family room.
I've no problem at all with a range of opinions @SausagePourHomme, of course I haven't. And yes my initial feeling was to reject the idea but I thought it was worth gathering a few more thoughts on the matter. My issue is not with the opinions gathered, it is with the way they have been expressed by a couple of posters. I do think that mumsnet brings out the worst aspects in people who are far to quick to forget that actually they are giving advice to a real person. I'm not an idiot, I'm just a normal mother trying my best and yes I've obviously asked a ridiculous question but I am not the first to make an error am I!?

indeed not and I have had my arse handed to me on here before now. Don't take it personally.

We don't know each other and give advice or opinions on here stripped of any knowldege or preconceptions about the OP, and at the end of the day that's the beauty of it. If we were on another site all the advice would be 'you do you hun' which is no use to anyone.

olympicsrock · 02/05/2022 13:09

I disagree with the majority. If they are 11, know each other well, sensible and get on well they could share a twin room as long as it is en-suite and they know to go into the bathroom to get changed.

I know it’s a little different but my 10.5 year old son and 11 year old niece shared a room recently . They don’t know each other very well ( see each other once a year at most) but do get on well.

I would feel differently if they were 13.

SausagePourHomme · 02/05/2022 13:15

olympicsrock · 02/05/2022 13:09

I disagree with the majority. If they are 11, know each other well, sensible and get on well they could share a twin room as long as it is en-suite and they know to go into the bathroom to get changed.

I know it’s a little different but my 10.5 year old son and 11 year old niece shared a room recently . They don’t know each other very well ( see each other once a year at most) but do get on well.

I would feel differently if they were 13.

totally different - they might not know each other well but they are cousins.

Sparkletastic · 02/05/2022 13:31

Yes everyone has moments of madness when they display poor judgement. But when it's a matter of poor judgement around safeguarding a child it's rather different.

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OrlandointheWilderness · 02/05/2022 13:37

Oh okay then @Sparkletastic, that's really helpful isn't it. What do you recommend for my next move?!? Feel like complete shit and that I'm a crap mother to my beloved daughter because trust me, I'm already there.
My daughter is very well looked after, we have been so so careful to make sure at every stage our children are priority and comfortable within our relationship and have not rushed anything.
I didn't think I couldn't feel worse about it actually, but you've managed to squeeze out a little bit more so a big thank you for that.

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Glittertwins · 02/05/2022 13:38

Not all Premier Inns have family rooms and they can be a little cramped. I'd go for 2 twin rooms with one for OP and her DD and the other for DP/DS

How would you book hotel room for this?

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