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‘It’s like trying to choose your favourite child’

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PriamFarrl · 29/04/2022 21:45

I heard this phrase again today but I’ve never really thought about it.

I’m not in the position to be able to choose a favourite child, but, if you have more than one child, and you know that no one will ever know, do you have a favourite?

OP posts:
Kite22 · 29/04/2022 22:08

No

isn't that the point of the saying ?

JayAlfredPrufrock · 29/04/2022 22:10

Has nobody ever seen Sophie’s Choice?

Workinghardeveryday · 29/04/2022 22:12

I love them all equally.

like some more than others on any given day depending on behaviour!

blacksax · 29/04/2022 22:13

"It's like trying to choose your favourite child" is a saying used when you are basically in a position where it is impossible to choose. That is literally the whole point of using the phrase in that context.

So what's your point in asking, OP? Why do you want to know whether people will admit to having a favourite?

DramaAlpaca · 29/04/2022 22:14

Nope. I've three boys, all now adults and all very different in personality. I love them all equally but differently.

I've said it before on here, but I once overheard the three of them discussing which of them was my favourite. It turned out each of them thought he was my favourite. I took that as a sign I've done something right Grin

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 29/04/2022 22:14

JayAlfredPrufrock · 29/04/2022 22:10

Has nobody ever seen Sophie’s Choice?

I really want to but I don't think I'm brave enough

Original poster
PriamFarrl · 29/04/2022 22:15

I thought it might be an interesting conversation.
Nothing more than that.

OP posts:
PinkyPie41 · 29/04/2022 22:18

Usually the one who is making the least amount of noise 🙉

lookingsusbro · 29/04/2022 22:28

I don't have a favourite, I love them all the same. They're all very different to each other but equally amazing. I've always said to each dc "you're my favourite Jess/Jack/Maddie/Charlie" (not their real names obv) which used to get giggles but now gets eyerolls.

Like pp I sometimes like one more than another depending on behaviour.

GreenLunchBox · 29/04/2022 22:32

DramaAlpaca · 29/04/2022 22:14

Nope. I've three boys, all now adults and all very different in personality. I love them all equally but differently.

I've said it before on here, but I once overheard the three of them discussing which of them was my favourite. It turned out each of them thought he was my favourite. I took that as a sign I've done something right Grin

Is this real?

I'd be so happy if I overheard that convo between my boys about me Grin

RiverRats · 29/04/2022 22:33

Nope, I love them both exactly the same and I couldn’t imagine choosing

SheAndHerAreWomen · 29/04/2022 22:36

I always say to mine: 'hello favourite ' they say 'but mum I'm your only '
I think they quite like it though as they are all my favourites 🥰

MuchTooTired · 29/04/2022 22:36

My favourite is whichever child is causing me the least aggro. I tell them they’re my favourite boy/girl but I only have one of each 😀

DelurkingAJ · 29/04/2022 22:37

Nope. I don’t. I mean this morning when one of them got the milk from the doorstep unprompted and the other threw his shoes at me in a tantrum when I suggested he might put them on…well, in that instant I might have preferred ones company over the other but tomorrow they’ll have traded places.

diamondpony80 · 29/04/2022 22:55

They’re very different but I love them equally. I’d hate for one of them to believe they were (or weren’t) the favourite.

CorsicaDreaming · 29/04/2022 23:04

I do. He is my favourite boy in the whole wide world. I've said this to him for years.

The other night he said, "yes but I'm your only son... and you're my favourite mum."

It was worth the wait.

RaininSummer · 29/04/2022 23:07

No. I love both my daughters beyond words and value and admire them for the different people they are and the different relationships we each have. Definitely can't rank one above the other even though I spend a lot more time with one of them.

Rupertgrintismyguiltypleasure · 29/04/2022 23:38

Mine both know the dog is my favourite....😂😂
they are both equally loved, I’m sure they will both tell you each other is my favourite. Problem is, I’m a tomboy and dd is a proper girly girl...so we don’t have too much in common whereas with DS we like similar things.

Deadringer · 29/04/2022 23:47

I have a least favourite, if that counts.

Sunnytwobridges · 30/04/2022 00:02

I know soooo many people that have a favorite child. I was surprised. I only have one but I always wondered if I had more if I would have a favorite. I’d hope not as my DPs favored my sister and it had lasting effects on me.

trainnane · 30/04/2022 00:08

DelurkingAJ · 29/04/2022 22:37

Nope. I don’t. I mean this morning when one of them got the milk from the doorstep unprompted and the other threw his shoes at me in a tantrum when I suggested he might put them on…well, in that instant I might have preferred ones company over the other but tomorrow they’ll have traded places.

THIS

trainnane · 30/04/2022 00:15

I have a boy and a girl. Both share lots of interests. Sports / music etc Both do loads of stuff. Emotionally they are very different & needs are different. DS is easier in some ways but my DD is very talented whilst mildly neuro diverse. I love both of them for the people they are

EatTheToast · 30/04/2022 00:21

No, I genuinely don't, which surprised me. Prior to my second I thought maybe everyone secretly had a favourite. I wonder if parents do once their kids are adults and you see the person they really are?

Ticksallboxes · 30/04/2022 00:44

Absolutely no.

I have two teens and (although they'd probably beg to differ) I absolutely love them both equally!

Newforumnewname · 30/04/2022 00:48

I always say DDog is my favourite child, with DS1 and 2 in joint second place.
In reality I love them both so much it’s painful.