Lonely - please can I have a hello

[Depressedbywork]

I’m WFH at the moment- at least a few weeks and the maybe one day a week in the office. Live on my own. Just started for the day, have a meeting later so can’t start detailed work. Even then will have the loneliness in the background. Went out and had a coffee before work, hasn’t helped.

I saw people at the weekend but am not good at friendship (autism with no help available) in last job was hybrid in 3 days. Now but possible unless I disclose how I feel. (Job change due to Tupe).

please hold my hand.

Hand hold and Hello

Morning! Loneliness always worserer when the weather is gloomy too!

Hello @Depressedbywork sorry you're feeling crap. Have you had any counselling /therapy? It might help with the social stuff
Loneliness is hard, not surprised you're struggling

Good point Lesso!

Hello!
I am sorry you feel lonely. So much valuable interaction has been lost with wfh.
I do like wfh and the time and fuel costs saved, but I have office days as well.
I live with my family and I often feel lonely.
Before covid (cast your mind back!) were you going to a workplace regularly?

Isolation is the worst thing. Hand hold from me. I get autism comes with difficulties re socialisation but have you considered joining local classes/groups to help you get away from the four walls?

I work in HR in NHS. Could you ask for hybrid working to support your mental health? Perhaps you wouldn't need to be more specific than that?

Anyway, we're all here

Same OP. No advice to give as I'm 51 and have never got the hang of people . I do send you a big hi and 💐

Hello! 🍰☕️👋

Good Morning from me! I hope you feel a better as the day progresses xx

Hi OP. Hand hold from me. I feel lonely too sometimes. Live with DH, DD away at Uni. Miss her so much. I spend a lot of time alone when DH is out working. I have a part-time cleaning job where I get to chat to people but that's about it. Not sure how to change things. Keep your chin up.

Morning!

Could you have the radio on, or would that distract you? I find having R4 on provides a bit of company.

Hello from me! Sorry you are feeling lonely. I totally get how isolating it can be working from home.

Hello!

Do you have a local FB page - I started chatting to one of my neighbours in lockdown as she (bravely) put on it that she lived alone and had to shield due to medical conditions and was really struggling. We chatted on the phone at least once a week for an hour and then as restrictions eased, I used to go and sit on her wall and she sat in her front door so we could chat in person. We don't have a huge amount in common really, but I've enjoyed getting to meet someone different and I think she's appreciated the company.

The suggestion upthread to ask for hybrid working so you aren't completely isolated is good too - you wouldn't need to say why.....

Hope you start to feel less lonely soon - if you said roughly which region you are in, perhaps there will be others here in the same ish location who you could stat chatting with....?

hello everyone- thank you for your support. Before Covid I was in office full time (same work). Getting ready for the meeting- there will be one person that I know there so at least I’ll see face to face.

Morning! Sorry to hear you are feeling like this. I think life is getting lonlier for everyone. I'm a stay at home Mum and have to put in lots of effort to keep in contact and arrange things to stave off the lonliness and then the lower mood that comes when you haven't seen anyone in a while.

If I didn't have small children I would look into an evening class at the local college or do some volunteering or something like that maybe. Is it possible for you to arrange a mid week social in the week with anyone to get yourself over the hump until the weekend?

Hello. I understand how you feel. I'm not able to work, following Covid (on a ventilator) and a stroke last summer. DH works full-time. I find that Mondays are worst, after I've seen the family at the weekends. I go to Aqua Aerobics Monday mornings (going soon) and do some voluntary WFH in the afternoons.

Hi OP 👋🏻

Am also Autistic, also wfh. Just dashing out so no time to stop just now but at least wanted to send a wave 👋🏻 🙂

Hope you are doing ok 🤞🏻

Hi, hope you are OK. I imagine the long term impact of working at home will be found to be negative for many . Why not bite the bullet and say that you'd like to go into the office as being at home all the time isn't a good thing for you. Especially as you've been moved across they should be helpful about this . Good luck

Hi how was your day OP?

Hi there, how'd it go today?

Hello from me as well

Hi, I am also lonely. Monday to Friday isn't too bad as I am busy doing things with, and for, the children I foster but the weekend is a bit of a killer. I am newly widowed so am having to try to rebuild my social life which was never great to start with. It sucks doesn't it?

Hello 😊

Hello OP, feeling lonely is crap. Have you thought of getting a cat as a companion. My son moved up North with work and all his friends are here and he had never lived on his own before. He told me is is so glad he took his cat with him as he is great company. Can you suggest doing Zoom calls with person you know in workplace?