When shit things happen to you, what do you do to pull yourself back up again ?

[LovelyYellowLabrador]

What helps you ?

Absolute peace and quiet, being on my own, resting up, maybe some MNing or the radio on quietly in the background, maybe I'll do some writing of my own rather than writing for work/money - but the imporant thing is that I have some people-free time.

For various reasons my life is always going to be hard and shitty with only poverty and poor health to look forward to in old age.

Giving up hope of anything better helps because you accept the little things you have are all you'll ever have so you appreciate them more. Anything extra that comes along, well then you'll be almost hysterically happy to have them.

"It is what it is" is also my mantra, as is "take it day by day".

My Mum gave me two quotes that I always think of:

'The only way out is through'
'There is nothing left at this moment but to laugh'

And I've always told my DC and others that are struggling:

'You are never stuck, ever. There is always a way, it just might be a different route. Keep asking for help and you will recieve it'

My ways of dealing:

Go for a drive with fav songs playing, windows up and sing at the top of my voice.
Cuddle DDogs and have a good romp with them outside.
Listen to fav books with earbuds/earphones so the story is right inside my head and I can't think about anything else.

Hope all is well for you soon OP

Most of these accept I do like Yorkshire tea.

gardening
reading
arts and crafts
knowing that ups and downs are part of life. Life is hard.

I give myself a set amount of time to feel sad. I'm allowed to cry, go to bed and eat chocolate for a day and then I normally feel better and afterwards. I just do anything I need to do for a bit to feel better and go really easy on myself. Then I give myself tough love like right that's enough, get on with it.

If I still feel bad after my cry fest, I turn to talking to friends when my head is clearer, self care, exercise etc.

Wow this are all so helpful and really practical tips, I will take time to re read this as I know there’s things here that will help

thanks to all those that asked what’s up and am I ok etc
i will be, I don’t really want to list all that is up here as it’s so much stuff some people Probably wouldn’t even believe me, and the ones that do would probably think that’s so bad they can’t advise
where as I’d rather hear all the practically tips I can do and try and listing it all off might just make me feel worse

but thanks for asking
I will be ok, I’m determined
I will make my life and my childrens life the best it can possibly be and these tips will really help so thanks and good luck to all of you with everything you are all going through too 💐💐