Bad scar under nose after vessel cauterized, really unreasonably upset

[theotherfossilsister]

Had my nose cauterized today. I know it's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things but when I came home dp pointed out scar. It looks like a nosebleed but won't budge. I wore a mask straight after the procedure so didn't notice.

Will it get better? Just super dashed as I've had a really shitty few weeks with a broken arm and high risk pregnancy and just felt like I was beginning to get back to normal.

Dp seems annoyed with me I went for the cauterization. I just feel spectaculary alone tonight not knowing whether I'm scarred forever and getting into a right silly state.

If it was only today then I would imagine the scar will lighten and lessen a lot. You could try asking the chemist if they can recommend anything to help with healing?

Why is your DP annoyed with you? Sorry he’s not being more supportive.

Thank you @BulbasaurusRex

They didn't tell me it would scar at all and I'm quite upset. I know it sounds silly but a scar on my face on top of all that's just happened seems horrible. I wish I hadn't had it done.

I also wish dp didn't blame me.

I think just because he's not feeling well and what with my broken arm and problems with the baby and nosebleeds lasting ages it's just been one thing after another and he's exhausted.

Is it not a bruise?

Is it a scar or just a scab/bruise/blood under the skin?

Is it a wound or is it from the cauterizing stick they use? My daughter had a vessel cauterized on the outside of her nose and it was discoloured for a short while.

@HalloHello I'd love it to be but it's browny red, not really bruise colour.

If it does scar then use some bio oil once it's healed. It is really good for scars.

@HoundHound I don't know. I'd love it to go away. I know the baby is far more important and if course I'm worried about him all the time, but the idea of a scar on my face really gets me down

Thank you @Babyroobs

The amount I am upset by this is probably really out of proportion.

You’re not being silly at all. Hang in there, I’m sure it will fade loads over the next week or so though

Bio oil will heal it. Apply asap.

It's very early days, most likely it will fade soon, but start putting scar treatment cream or oil on it as soon as its safe to.

Thank you all

I'm going to get bio oil first thing tomorrow. I was actually considering going back to the ENT department and asking if this is normal but it's in the next town and I don't drive.

Thank you for the flowers @Hatinafield

Not bio oil that stuff is shit. You need silicone for scars. This is what you need:

https://www.boots.com/kelo-cote-scar-gel-treatment-6g-10259814?cmmmc=bmm-buk-google-ppccPLAsAsHeroCompareareCatchAll---UKSmarttShoppingCatchhAll&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI9OnI7IKN9wIVibPtCh13BwEhEAQYASABEgI2afDBwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

It really should not be a scar from the cauterisation so is probably bruising of some sort. Speak to the doctor who did it tomorrow for reassurance. It sounds like you have had a rough time lately so time for you to be kind to yourself. Then when you feel better you can give your partner a big hug.Think how nice it will be not to have nosebleeds.

That seems more like a scab than a scar. Let it heal. Once the scab falls off ON ITS OWN!!! look into scar creams or the silicone scar sheets if there is anything there that bothers you.

Thank you @findingsomeone

I will get some tomorrow from Boots. Amazing to think a cream can stop scars.

@Jjjayfee thank you.

I've used silicone patches on the scar from my knee replacement and the scar is all but invisible. They stick on but they're not adhesive. Will last for ever

Thank you @loopylindi

I'd love to not have a scar or a broken arm and for my baby to be ok and get to almost term and be well. Everything is so overwhelming atm

Just spoken to the hospital and apparently it's scarring from silver nitrate. I have been prescribed some peanut oil to put on it. It will fade in three weeks.

@theotherfossilsister

I think just because he's not feeling well and what with my broken arm and problems with the baby and nosebleeds lasting ages it's just been one thing after another and he's exhausted.

No offense, but HE'S exhausted? He needs to get over himself because you're the one going through all of this. Sorry OP, I can see why this is making you feel bad but I can't help feeling that if your DH had done the right thing and been kind and reassuring to you over it, you wouldn't feel nearly as bad as you currently do.

I can 100% reassure you it'll fade a lot, use bio oil on it later, also just wait, it fades quickly with time. It's part of the healing process.

Don’t bother with bio oil it’s not going to work. Silicone patches or gel is gold standard treatment for scar therapy.