Food and exercise help needed

[Helpmplease]

Why can't I do what I need to do?
I'm desperate to lose weight and be healthy.
If I eat too much sugar I feel shakey and starving hungry which is horrible yet I still do it.
My husband goes to the gym all the time, he looks great for it and he feels great too.
I just feel really silly and self conscious if I try to exercise and cos I'm on anti depressants I have no get up and go or motivation to do anything.

I'm in such a rut, tired all the time.

I know what I should be eating and it works if I follow it but how do I find willpower and how do I stop boredom eating?

Totally and utterly fed up. :(

Start small, focus on what you should be having not what you shouldn’t. So drinking 2l water and aiming for 7-10 portions of fruit and veg. To get that in you will naturally have less room for the other stuff.

Can you give an example of a typical day and and dislikes or allergies?

Start small with exercise too. Even just parking 5 minutes further from the office and walking would be a start.

I work from home which doesn't help and makes me feel demotivated too.
My husband and kids are all so busy with loads of hobbies and I just don't do anything for me except see friends and walk the dog.

And don’t be so hard on yourself, if this stuff was easy there would be no overweight people out there.

No dislikes, no allergies.
A typical day would be low carb toast with poached eggs
A chicken salad
A healthy low carb tea maybe steak with lots of veg

If I low carb I feel better and fuller, but I get waylaid by sugar and carbs.

If you walk the dog, start there.can you extend the route a little each day. Or look at couch to 5k.

Oh I'm very hard on myself. I had a scone at a friends today and a piece of cake andi feel awful. I feel shaky hungry and so tired.

That looks really healthy, where do you trip up?

I used to run but ended up with injuries. How do I get past the feeling ridiculous if I exercise? I just can't do it. Feel too self conscious.
It is so so hard. :(

@AtleastitsnotMonday

That looks really healthy, where do you trip up?

Eating crap as well!! That's a typical good day! Not a bad day!

I wonder if writing a meal plan would help, plan what you drink and snacks too. Those can be the bits where it all goes wrong.

I think if you know you are having a snack at say 1600 it’s easier to resist at 1500.

Exercise wise, have a look on you tube, start with doing a few videos at home where no one is watching.
Or do something with the kids. God, I went to one of those trampoline parks last week. Honestly completely knackering, far more than anything at the gym. But you won’t look like ‘a fat person trying to exercise’ just like a mum looking after her kids. Similar with bike rides.

@Helpmplease

Oh I'm very hard on myself. I had a scone at a friends today and a piece of cake andi feel awful. I feel shaky hungry and so tired.

These sound like physical addiction symptoms (ie that's what happens when you overdo/withdraw from alcohol/drugs), and it also sounds like you have an addict's relationship with carbs (ie it has control of you rather than you having control of it, in a way that's detrimental to your wellbeing)

Have you tried cutting carbs out altogether for a few days? It might be a useful experiment to work out if you have an addiction problem. Many of us do. If that's the case, you can massively help yourself by altering the timings of when you eat. If your body gets used to running low on carbs and functioning well, you won't struggle so much in your relationship with them.

Exercise wise... how much time can you give to it? Walking is brilliant... stick a podcast on, head out for a couple of half hours each day... would that be possible?

Yes totally possible, I have to walk the dog anyway.
I've gone months without carbs before. I'm pre diabetic hence the physical reaction to too much sugar

I'm 60 and I've been overweight for about 10 years. In October I found out I had high blood pressure so took steps to correct it. I cut out processed food apart from a couple of meals out a week. I aim for 6/9 portions of fruit and veg a day and I've gone very low carb/low fat. I still drink alcohol 3/4 days a week. In just 6 months I've lost over 2 stone and am now a healthy BP, weight and BMI.

This was never about losing weight for me. It was all about the BP but the sheer joy of dropping from a size 16 to a size 10 has been exhilarating. I never thought I'd be this size again and the pleasure is increased by the knowledge there hasn't been one single second of calorie counting or weighing. It's all been driven by considering what is good and healthy.

Incidentally, what has worked well for me is not insisting on three meals a day but having a late brunch and early dinner instead. Those two meals seem enough and I can fit them around a social schedule. I also
If I get hungry outside those times I have healthy snacks like humus and/or an egg or an apple with cheese or a skimmed milk hot chocolate.

Would joining a slimming club help you ? I know they're not for everyone but it might help ; something just for you, once a week, and you could get encouragement from others in the same position. If you joined slimming world for example, you could have a healthy eating plan with a few snacks, etc.
I would try walking, too. Like a pp said, stick a podcast on, or some music, and get out for 30 minutes. Do you have a friend who could join you ? It's easier then, possibly, in that you're more inclined to do it if you've made arrangements.
You just need that initial kick-start, then they'll be no stopping you !
You can do it 💪

Are you able to do something a bit different with regards to exercise? I have always found that I've been fittest when I've had a hobby, and fitness is just an inadvertent consequence of that. So things like martial arts, dancing, hiking, stand up paddle boarding, any gymnastics type things. Literally I've come across hula hooping classes! I am just picking up random things.

I'm not saying doing something like this will result in massive weight loss, on it's own it won't. But if you find something you enjoy you're more likely to stick to it, and it will help!

@Helpmplease

Yes totally possible, I have to walk the dog anyway. I've gone months without carbs before. I'm pre diabetic hence the physical reaction to too much sugar

Did your weight and eating/addiction pattern change during the time you were carb free?

Sounds like your dog might be in for a shock with suddenly long and roaming walks! Good time of year to start though, just as spring's coming...

Maybe look into changing your anti-depressants, they should be making you feel more motivated not less. I've been on anti-depressants and mood stabilisers for over 20 years and my psychiatrist is most concerned when I say I've lost my motivation.

Thank you all very helpful.
I've just booked a course of b12 injections privately due to extreme fatigue.
Got a phone call with Dr this week about my anti depressants as they do seek to be making me worse.

When I was carb free my weight did drop very slowly. The bingeing and desire to binge hasn't ever gone away though.
I used to enjoy kickboxing classes but stopped because I was useless at it.

Maybe you're a sugar addict & solution is simple* (lucky you)
(*simple not easy)

If the reasons are emotional then most this advice won't help much.
That said, I would want to encourage you to believe in the power of small changes. Don't the perfect be enemy of the good, and where you have 2 choices and neither is great but one is worse, be glad you muster self-discipline to take the least worst choice.

I’d seek help from a nutritionist. Although if there are mental health issues going on then CBT can help before a nutritionist.

@Helpmplease

No dislikes, no allergies. A typical day would be low carb toast with poached eggs A chicken salad A healthy low carb tea maybe steak with lots of veg

If I low carb I feel better and fuller, but I get waylaid by sugar and carbs.

Sugar and carbs is the same thing. The body needs carbs to survive. Without carbs (sugar) your energy levels will plummet. Have a look at Munro Fitness he is on TW, IG, FB.

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