Does anyone else have a DH like this? It's sending me round the bend!

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DH is generally pretty good, involved with the house and the kids etc, but it's driving me round the bend the way he only half does things, resulting in me going around and finishing them/doing things properly!

So tonight we were doing the kids bedtimes, he pulls the bedroom blinds down, but not fully, so there's still light coming through and obviously it's still light now when they're going to bed. So I come in and have to pull them down properly.

He did the washing up after dinner, but only decided to wash about two thirds of the stuff, so although I don't have all the washing up to do, I still have to do the worst bits like the pots and pans, but he thinks he's great doing the washing up!

One of the children left their shoes lying in the middle of the kitchen. He picks them up and then sets them down at the side of the kitchen. So I have to them pick them up and take them to where they stay!

I just need to vent tonight because it's really irritating me! Those are only a couple of examples of what happened in a short space of time this evening. Maybe I'm nit picking, but I feel like it's just creating double the work! And then he thinks I'm nagging him if I say anything! Aaarrgghh!

This is my husband. I cook and he clears up, that's the deal. Except there must be one token dirty pan left out until the morning without fail. Just why?! Don't get me started on wiping down surfaces...
On the rare occasion he does wipe down the sides, he never uses spray or hot water on the cloth, despite knowing how much this bothers me! Aaarrghhhhhhhh!!

Yep- does what he would call his fair share of childcare and domestic duties while working ft but doesn't do anything properly and even when 'finishing' a job always leaves something for me to do. Some examples (echoes of a lot on here):

Washing up but leaving the casserole dish 'to soak' rather than just make an effort to clean it.
Clear up kitchen, surfaces unwiped, chopping board unwashed.
Skanky bowl of washing up water left with cloth floating in for me to deal with in the morning
Puts a wash on- then leaves it.
Similar if anything has made it into tumble dryer. Never folded, aired and put away.
Changes DD out of pyjamas. Wet pyjamas left inside out on the floor, wet sleeping bag left dumped in the cot.
Washing put on with entire child outfits inside out but still all attached together
Baths DD, leaves water in the bath, toys floating, wet towels on the floor
Gives DD bedtime bottle, just leaves it by the sink afterwards
If sterilising, crams another bottle in on top of already sterilised one rather than take that out first
Opens drawers then doesn't completely shut them
Takes out bin, doesn't put in new bin liner
Half closes curtains
Walks past stuff that is on the stairs waiting to be taken up
Leaves water glass by the bed every morning
Replaces empty loo roll, cardboard tube left on the floor
Shoes not put away
Empty shower gel container on bathroom windowsill
Household bills left on the side for me to file away.

And don't get me started on the magic spare bedroom bin where holey socks and other unwanted items get thrown and then stay there for literally months until I cave and actually throw them away.

I'm 36 weeks preg and I've told him and told him. Especially when it involves bending down to pick up stuff off the floor. It really gives me the rage and makes me feel uncared for and resentful.

My DH used to elaborately stack dirty crockery on the worktop instead of putting it in the frigging dishwasher, which would have taken half the time. It wasn't even half a job.

He has got a lot better - but it took years of constant reminding. The weird thing is that he was always really good at cleaning the kitchen, apart from this, so it wasn't even laziness, it was random crapness.

Empty shower gel container on bathroom windowsill

Oh god, I used to share a flat with 2 blokes. Over all, they weren't too bad with cleaning, but they never, ever threw out a bottle of shampoo or shower gel. They would get down to the last few mls, then open another, and leave the almost-empty one where it was. The bathroom was an archive of used toiletries. As a PP said, WHY?

My dh is kind of line this. The other thing he does that irritates the shit out of me is always "can you just..?". Whereas if I'm doing a job I tend to do the whole thing from beginning to end but, for example, if he's making dinner it'll be "can you just set the table and get the kids?", Emptying the bins..."can you just hold this bin bag open?"...going to walk the dog..."can you just put the lead on him while I get my shoes?"...hoovering..."can you just pick those bits up off the carpet?" Like every task has to be a team effort somehow. Sometimes I'd just like him to do the whole thing without dragging me into it.

Are you married to my DH?

My favourite thing at the moment is when he leaves a kitchen cupboard wide open, so I have to harness my hazard perception skills to avoid a concussion.

@Cravingsweets

My dh is kind of line this. The other thing he does that irritates the shit out of me is always "can you just..?". Whereas if I'm doing a job I tend to do the whole thing from beginning to end but, for example, if he's making dinner it'll be "can you just set the table and get the kids?", Emptying the bins..."can you just hold this bin bag open?"...going to walk the dog..."can you just put the lead on him while I get my shoes?"...hoovering..."can you just pick those bits up off the carpet?" Like every task has to be a team effort somehow. Sometimes I'd just like him to do the whole thing without dragging me into it.

Mine does this too. It's as if he's incapable of doing anything alone*, or feels lonely, poor lamb. Drives me mad.

*anything housework related, that is. He will spend hours chopping wood or mucking about in the shed, alone.

Yup, DH is like this too. I went out for a run on Wednesday evening and usually I’d cook dinner before my run so everyone can either eat while I’m out or when I get back but at least I won’t have to wait for food because I’m starving when I get back. He insisted he wanted to cook, had a specific meal in mind and was adamant it would be finished before I got back so I could eat. I walked into the kitchen and it was honestly like a bomb had exploded. When I cook, I clean as I go so there’s barely any cleaning to do when everyone’s finished eating. He left the three pots he’d decided to use dirty as well as various utensils, chopping board covered in garlic and onion peelings, empty packets strewn all over, all of the herbs out on the side and bits of spaghetti on the floor. I was honestly fuming. Worst thing was he hadn’t dished mine up and it tasted like crap, it was practically inedible so I barely even ate it. I was so hungry and pissed off I stormed upstairs for a shower and barely spoke to him all night. He didn’t even attempt to clean his mess up either, I did it all and cleaned the dining room up after everyone.