Does booking an adult only hotel make me a 'child hater'? I don't think so?

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DH and I have booked a hotel, chosen only based on location and facilities. Just so happens it's an adult only hotel, which I only noticed after we had booked. I was telling a friend today about it and said that it was an added bonus that it is adults only. Now I love children, have several of my own, all adults and an like point forward to the day when we have family holidays which include grandchildren. . But my friend was horrified that I found child free hotels a bonus, she didn't have me down as a 'child hater' (her words). I am far from a child hater, didn't book the hotel because it was adults only, but actually think it will be quite nice sitting around the pool/going to breakfast without pre-schoolers around. Our conversation moved on but she kept coming back to her being horrified that I found child free a bonus. (She has adult children, no grandchildren yet either, same as us).
Not sure what I want out of this thread other than to help me process her reaction. I don't think I'm a bad person for thinking that child free hotels is a bonus? Or am I?

Nope ! I’ve got two kids and I love them and kids holidays . But when they go to their dads me and my husband do adult only !!!! Nothing wrong with that

Your friend is bonkers.

Your friend needs to get a grip… calling you a “child hater”. How pathetic.

DH and I (and DS) have only stayed at child free hotels since DS was 16/17.

My Mum and Dad are amazing Grandparents and go on holiday with us twice a year - to child friendly places and do childcare when I am at work (they used to do 2 full days before they started school)
When they go on holiday by themselves they go for adult only places because it is their time to relax and be away from all of that

Fruit loop moment

Ignore it

Best thing ever.

If they have buffet style food - you don’t end up with chicken nuggets in with the pasta or chips floating in the soup

Which is invariably what happens when little cherubs are around and help themselves

I think it's a great idea, I might do the same in the summer when the dc are with their dad

Your friend is nuts. She’s free to book wherever she wants. You’ve done nothing wrong.

Weird.
I’m a teacher and before I had children I’d always ideally go to a child free hotel. I can assure you I didn’t hate kids

I like an adult only hotel because I worry about other people’s children when they are ignoring them. For example -
Three year olds playing on their own in the foyer when the hotel opens onto the street
Children unsupervised in the pool in the dark
Young children sent off to the play scheme after dinner on their own.
Also, why do people think it is alright for their children to play football in the dining room or run round the nightclub at 10.00pm?

Your friend is an idiot.

Thank you all, I feel a bit better now. I'd have thought she was joking if she'd just said 'never had you down as a child hater' once and laughed about it but kept coming back to it and shaking her head. She's a very grounded person who I usually get on really well with so this shook me a bit.

😂😂😂😂😂 absolute crackpot, of course you can go to an adult hotel and not hate kids

Very odd friend

I love children, mine and some others

I don't love and appreciate the noise and behavior of every child I ever met though, and when our time comes to holiday as a couple again, we would look at adults only as an option

She has no idea whether you could be going through something where you need a very 'peace & quiet' time. (Not the case I know - but she doesn't!)

Enjoy your holiday!

This happened to me. Accidentally booked an adult only hotel. Amazing. Go and enjoy!

Huh 🤔

Who WOULDNT prefer an adult only hotel ???

The last holiday abroad we had, DH and I would sneak off to the adult only areas when our two were in the kids' club. Why would we want to listen to other people's kids screeching instead of our own?!

Lol it makes you extremely normal.

I love my children, and adore my grandchildren.

I don't enjoy other peoples at all.

Adult only hotel sounds bliss.

Child free hotels sound great! I love my chosen but I’m not fussed about other people’s. We’ve been to a few places in the past that have been expensive but spoiled by kids running amok. I think child free hotels are an excellent idea, although it doesn’t remove the risk of irritating adult guests!

Who the heck would want to go on holiday where there is loads of kids, if you weren’t on holiday with your own children. I don’t blame you one bit. We never go away during school holidays as we can’t stand other peoples’ children. We love our own (now adult) children dearly but don’t want to holiday near anyone else’s.

I have young DC and if I was going away without them child free would be lovely

Just came back from the Caribbean for the first holiday since DS went to uni at an adults only resort. It was fantastic. It is definitely her being weird

[quote mdh2020]I like an adult only hotel because I worry about other people’s children when they are ignoring them. For example -
Three year olds playing on their own in the foyer when the hotel opens onto the street
Children unsupervised in the pool in the dark
Young children sent off to the play scheme after dinner on their own.
Also, why do people think it is alright for their children to play football in the dining room or run round the nightclub at 10.00pm?[/quote]
Same!

Just read this thread out to DH who said he’d happily pay a premium for an adult only flight, to an adult only hotel .