Does booking an adult only hotel make me a 'child hater'? I don't think so?

[RockingMyFiftiesNot]

DH and I have booked a hotel, chosen only based on location and facilities. Just so happens it's an adult only hotel, which I only noticed after we had booked. I was telling a friend today about it and said that it was an added bonus that it is adults only. Now I love children, have several of my own, all adults and an like point forward to the day when we have family holidays which include grandchildren. . But my friend was horrified that I found child free hotels a bonus, she didn't have me down as a 'child hater' (her words). I am far from a child hater, didn't book the hotel because it was adults only, but actually think it will be quite nice sitting around the pool/going to breakfast without pre-schoolers around. Our conversation moved on but she kept coming back to her being horrified that I found child free a bonus. (She has adult children, no grandchildren yet either, same as us).
Not sure what I want out of this thread other than to help me process her reaction. I don't think I'm a bad person for thinking that child free hotels is a bonus? Or am I?

I don't think you are a child hater one bit. Enjoy your break and let us know how you find it, given an adult only hotel is a new experience for you.

@Movinghouseatlast

She sounds like a knob.

Why would anyone want noisy kids around if you haven't got small children yourself?

This. We always go on adults only cruises and book hotels which are more geared to adults. Norovirus outbreaks are much more likely to happen on family “resort” ships.

Ive got three kids (still kids), I dream of adult only holidays.

Sounds like a great idea.

Child free hotels are the only ones I book now my children are grown up!

I need peace and quiet on my well earned holidays without other people's screaming kids. Must make me a "Child hater" too

Your friend is totally ridiculous, and if she said that child hater nonsense to me just one more time, she'll be an ex friend. What a rude idiot.

@cansu

She is clearly jealous. I once had a holiday in an adults only holiday complex. It was bliss around the pool so calm and relaxing.

I reckon this is key. I suspect she is jealous that you are going to have a lovely relaxing time.

You’re not a child hater! I’ve known parents with young and older children who’ve chosen adult only hotels because they don’t want screaming crying kids and kids by pools etc.

I love my kids, but I'm not keen on other people's. For this very reason, we stay in villas when we go away so we don't have to put up with other people's kids around the pool.

Is she jealous? I can’t explain her odd reaction any other way than shwa jealous and wanted to put a dampener on it.

Of course you dont hate children, you just want to relax in peace!

The main issue I have with children anywhere is not them but the lack of parenting. The times it's been assumed that because I'm close by I'll mind other peoples children and they've never asked.

I work with children, I love children, but if I was going away I would definitely book a child-free hotel as I want a break from children.

I really don't know what she can be jealous of, it's a strange one.

We both love kids in general. We both hate badly behaved indulged mini dictators raised by wet lettuce leaves. Had a few bad experiences over the last couple of years, therefore we mostly book adult only now.

I don't think I'm a bad person for thinking that child free hotels is a bonus? Or am I?

You both sound a bit loopy to be fair

You both sound a bit loopy to be fair

Really? That's an interesting interpretation of my post!

Once your own kids get past that age I don’t believe anyone would seriously choose a family friendly place with lots of small noisy people running around.

I’ve never booked an adults only but going mid term usually has the same effect.

I'd have called her up on the 'child hater' comment. So uncalled for. She's probably jealous.

My kids (19, 20, 21) would love an adults only hotel. So would I.

You both sound a bit loopy to be fair

Eh? What?

I went on an adult only winter sun holiday leaving the kids at home going to school in the wet. Your friend would probably keel over Best holiday we've had!

I should add that the kids were being looked after (we didn't just abandon them!!!)

My youngest child is 16. I'm sincerely hoping that this means we now qualify for adults only 🙏

Went to an adult only all inc hotel in February. We didn't book it for that reason but yes, it was an added bonus. Quiet round the pool when sunbathing, no splashing and squealing in the pool itself, and everything was set up for adults rather than children. It want like a loud alcohol fuelled type with club nights and all day boozing, so I don't mean in that sense. Just calmer and quieter, with entertainment and music aimed at adults not entertaining children and young teens.

I don't hate children. I have my own (albeit now young adult) daughter and I teach in a primary school so my normal day to day life is surrounded by children.

I like children but I have to admit that an adult only hotel was nice.

[quote mdh2020]I like an adult only hotel because I worry about other people’s children when they are ignoring them. For example -
Three year olds playing on their own in the foyer when the hotel opens onto the street
Children unsupervised in the pool in the dark
Young children sent off to the play scheme after dinner on their own.
Also, why do people think it is alright for their children to play football in the dining room or run round the nightclub at 10.00pm?[/quote]
Couldn't agree more, I like adults only because otherwise I go into 'work mode' (primary school) and start worrying about children that aren't actually my problem.